hi sorry if this is inappropriate but as a tumblr only fan. genuinely what the fuck. everything about that entire situation was such bullshit to you specifically for no reason. the claim the entire mod team knew but "didnt have enough proof" is??? so weird??? definitely makes the lack of action worse oh my god. and then people are blaming you for being mad??????? baffling. sucks ass. im joining the war on dishbug on the side of dishbug rn what the Hell is their problem
it's not inappropriate at all. i really do appreciate this.
i was urged to talk to someone else on the mod team months later who confirmed they just didn't even know about the stalking.
rae was very vague in retelling everything apparently and didn't share screenshots with the rest of the mod team for privacy reasons (something which i would've definitely agreed to would be okay to share if they ever presented the opportunity. but in all honesty i just assumed them "talking to the rest of the mod team about it" already. like. included all of the context on the situation..? idk.) and so i guess it was just assumed to be two server members who didn't like eachother instead of. y'know. months long one sided stalking and harassment
and ofc in rae's first response they insisted that the whole mod team totally knew of everything. and also that I should've just went back to them in private again instead of letting it get to me this bad. which. y'know obviously the first time i tried keeping something between the two of us it absolutely worked out just amazingly.
in all honesty i still find it really hard to not second guess myself on how serious it was just because of how everyone decided the most appropriate reaction to this was to stay quiet until they felt personally attacked i dared lash out towards people who i guess weren't outright maliciously chosing to contribute to my suffering
ofcourse, after some time of my post being up some people did come up to me to ask if i was okay and expressed how angry they are on my behalf. which majority was private and half of which was from people who weren't even in the fandom.
i can't open this site without feeling nauseous with dread,. i can't trust anyone or their intentions or any possible power they could have over me, so i probably will not check any sort of notification here that aren't direct messages or asks every few days when i can handle it
this was a great ask , thank you