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“There is a good explanation for why emotional neglect had been so overlooked. It hides. It dwells in the sins of omission, rather than commission; it’s the white space in the family picture rather than the picture itself. It’s often what was NOT said or observed or remembered from childhood than what WAS said. All parents commit occasional acts of emotional neglect in raising their children without causing any real harm. It only becomes a problem when it is of a great enough breadth or quantity to gradually emotionally “starve” the child. Whatever the level of parental failure, emotionally neglected people see themselves as the problem, rather than seeing their parents as having failed them.”

Jonice Webb, Running on Empty (pdf is linked)

redlipstickresurrected

Akihiro Higuchi aka 樋口明宏 (Japanese, b. 1969, Tokyo, Japan) - 1: Mitate-Urushi (K0218), 2018 2: Hana (H0418), 2018 3: Mai-Tanzen (M0718), 2018 4: Mai (M1218), 2018 5: No Title 6: Hana (H0218), 2018 7: Collection-Dress (D0118), 2018 8: Hana (H0818), 2018 9: Mitate-Urushi (K0118), 2018, Insects, Urushi, Gold, Silver.

facelessoldgargoyle

Something something scarab beetles as priests, moths as ferrymen, cicadas as the risen dead

confidently-conflicting

I’ve probably said it before and I’m saying it again. The weird tumblr thing of DID systems seeming like it’s all ✨fun conversations✨ and ~inside jokes with headmates~ is definitely a popular thing, but not everyone feels that way and it can take a long time to get to that point where you’re that conscious of and respectful of each other. (And if you have fun relationships with your alters, good for you.) BUT it’s not the only way people experience DID and it seems to downplay the very real, traumagenic thing about DID, that it’s not ✨an aesthetic-core✨ ✨fun times with my alter egos✨ shit, and actually involves things like, ‘this emotionally neglected six year old was crying for most of therapy’, or ‘I feel dissociated from reality a lot of the time in a way that’s not quirky’, or ‘I really wish I could continue that conversation I was having with you, but unfortunately I’m not sure who I am right now or what I’m feeling or how to answer your question’, or ‘It’s taking a lot of emotional energy right now to convince the other alters that the world is not metaphorically on fire’, or ‘I’m not sure how old I am a lot of the time and that’s something that I just regularly deal with, but people don’t know how to respond to me saying things like that’

pack-of-rats-archive

Agreed, and also worth saying that a lot of people handle the bad parts of DID by... not talking about them and talking about the funny/ positive stuff instead.

fkingchuck

@pack-of-rats I was going to mention the same thing; also, most people aren't going to share the bad stuff, at least not usually. They are going to share the parts they want to share and it's usually going to be the funny or positive things, because its sharable without oversharing and it's good to have fun, that's what social media is for anyway. I do agree that too much of the joking can get to a point that makes DID seem like "uwu characters in my head so fun!!" but I do think most of us can see the difference between the two, haha.

pack-of-rats-archive

Abusive parents say "I did the best I could" well your "best" was still literal child abuse so if you couldn't do better then you shouldn't have chosen to have a kid.

transparensies

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absolutely-walnuts

you were a child. you were a fucking child. be gentle to your past self i beg you.

furiousgoldfish

abusive parents will go off about how expensive it is to keep you around and how they have no money and what a fucking burden you are and they don’t see the irony?

dude. you MADE me. what the fuck were you thinking. stupid idiot loser. go back to that moment and don’t have sex. problem fucking solved. what the fuck do you expect me to do, die now that you decided having kids is inconvenient? wow. maybe you should have thought this thru.