[genderkoolaid]

genuinely everyone needs to talk more about anti transmasculinity/transandrophobia in their daily life. however best works for whatever context you find yourself in. bring up the murders and violent assaults of trans men. bring up the transmasc suicide rate. bring up historical examples of trans men that don't fall into the "white passing heterosexual man who isn't outed until after his death" stereotype. bring up forced pregnancy as a detransition tactic. bring up transmascs in the US having some of the worst health outcomes of all trans groups. point out how transmasc erasure relies on inherently unrealistic and out of touch notions of how misogyny functions. point out how the ways we use to analyze trans experiences under patriarchy are based in cis frameworks. we need to make anti transmasculinity and transandrophobia a more public conversation. we need to openly and loudly contradict the popular narratives of how transmasculinity is seen and treated under patriarchy. we need to introduce people to transmasculine-centered feminism and transunitist theories of transphobia and provide a real grounded criticism of the erasure of anti-transmasculine violence.

anti-transmasculinity is not an accident, it's not something the patriarchy just stumbles into, the misogyny is not misdirected and it's not just a pre-transition phenomenon. and most importantly, the idea that the patriarchy just can't comprehend transmasculinity and doesn't know what to do with trans men is perhaps the most egregious and widespread example of how erasure works as a cover up for anti-transmasc patriarchal violence by suggesting that it literally does not and cannot happen, and if it does, it cannot be truly systemic or even really on purpose. when trans people and allies do this it is generally not purposeful, but when people continue to promote this narrative, they are genuinely participating in the patriarchy's cover up of the deaths and lost lives of thousands upon thousands of people. we have to challenge the cissexist consciousness people approach transmasculinity with. we all must speak up!!!!!!!!!!!!

[inzaltsiknyam]

"kink doesn't exist in a vacuum and deserves to be interrogated" okay. I interrogated it. I understand that kink and sexuality are inseparable from the socio-cultural context(s) of individual people and populations. I'm still horny about it tho

[carbisari]

I interrogated it and learned I HAVE to get more fucked up with it.

[caustic-light]

OK, I interrogated it. Now you interrogate your kneejerk reaction towards sexuality.

[largishcat]

okay i interrogated it, now let’s interrogate where ideas of “vanilla” sex come from, and what power structures they uphold

[rottingtrouble-child]

I saw this video about a doctor who performed an MRI on a 5 year old and discovered she essentially had “brain damage” from excessive iPad use, as the white matter in her brain couldn’t form properly due to an understimulated environment.

Hmm it’s almost like there’s supposed to be adult figures responsible for monitoring her screen time and making sure she develops properly… certainly this isn’t the result of neglect at the hands of her parents…

[rottingtrouble-child]

“This 5 year old is brain damaged by excessive iPad use”

Translation: This 5 year old is developmentally impaired by neglectful parents who used an iPad as a stand-in for social and environmental stimulation / interaction for hours at a time during critical early stages of child development. The iPad is the cop-out.

[rottingtrouble-child]

“Children don’t have the strength to hold pencils anymore because they only use screens.”

Translation: Parents aren’t making the conscious effort to help their children develop necessary skills and letting iPads raise them.

When are people going to realize the iPads and whatnot are the instruments through which the neglect is happening through and not the cause? How the fuck do you let your child have such a severe lack of physical strength in their hands that they can’t hold a pencil properly?

[rottingtrouble-child]

People will see a study suggesting children with higher screen times have poorer or negative developmental outcomes and immediately say it’s the screens causing this, and not the more likely fact that higher screen time = less engagement time with their environment, physical exercise, parents, family, and their peers, all of which are NECESSARY for a healthy upbringing as a social species.

It’s like saying a dog who was kept in a cage all its life and left with atrophied muscles was damaged by the cage, and not by the fact its owners were too lazy to play or walk their dog in order for its muscles to build properly. The cage is the instrument of neglect and the owners are the perpetrators, in the same way parents are the perpetrators and weaponizing screen time as an excuse and painting themselves as helpless bystanders.

[cryingbreaskfastfriends]

Also for everyone reading this, staring at a screen is the same as stairing at the wall for the same amount of time. Your brain feels like your eyes are moving but they arent really. Take a minute every 20 minutes to streach your back and shoulders and eyes. Look at somthing far away for 20 seconds.

[hyperlexichypatia]

No. This is absurd and cannot possibly hold up to the slightest scrutiny. No amount of "screen time" can cause "brain damage."

Home televisions have been common for 50 years. We all grew up with moral panic about how TV would "rot our brains". And? There was never any evidence for it. An iPad is just a small TV. This is absurd. Reframing it as "It's not the iPad, it's neglectful parents letting their kids play with the iPad all day" is giving it too much credit.

[rottingtrouble-child]

That’s my point, that iPads and screens don’t cause brain damage.

[hyperlexichypatia]

Saying "Well actually it's the parents' fault" presupposes that this so called "brain damage" actually exists. That is giving the concept far too much credit.

[inouerealm]

Ironically, because adults do spend so many hours in front of screens (I wonder why a software engineer doesn't get mentioned so much in "screens rotting people's brains" discussions), we have excellent data on what actually happens to the human body from prolonged screen use. And none of it is brain damage

[guerrillatech]

[audible-smiles]

People die on the job every summer. Remember that water and shade breaks are crucial when working in the heat, and calling emergency services for signs of serious heat illness (fatigue, nausea/vomiting, headaches, dizziness, clammy skin, confusion, agitation, slurred speech, high body temperature, rapid heart rate, etc.) is entirely appropriate. If you’re afraid to call 911 for reasons such as being undocumented, you’ll need to get very familiar with how to prevent, recognize, and treat heat illness. If you are symptomatic and not allowed a break, water, or medical treatment, walk out. No matter how broke you are, your job is not worth your life.

[storm-of-feathers]

yeah yeah rainbow capitalism is bad and whatever but like. when I was a child, being pro gay was not the popular or lucrative choice. I'm happy that times have changed.

[storm-of-feathers]

I miss rainbow capitalism. I do. I miss when it felt like public opinion was still pro gay. I understand it was always an empty gesture, but it mattered in a sense of knowing how socially acceptable being queer is. If that makes sense.

[finnglas]

It was always a thermometer, not a thermostat, and I’m begging people to understand that.

[rainofaugustsith]

A lot of us are old enough to remember when a company risked mass boycotts and organized campaigns for daring to sponsor a Pride or LGBT+ event. A lot of us are old enough to remember when you could not find Pride flags or other rainbow items for sale in mainstream stores anywhere. What changed was that companies felt the LGBT+ community was worth selling to, worth publicly standing behind and worth acknowledging. And now that's changed again for many companies, which is a canary in the coal mine that should concern all of us.

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

If you're comfortable accusing anyone of faking disability, you're not a real ally to disabled people

[teaboot]

One time when I was a kid a group of girls and I had to treat another student for hypothermia by ourselves because she had so many invisible health issues that the adults we asked for help didn't believe us. The student in question was actively hallucinating. When I finally ran for help the people I grabbed were slow as shit to respond, casually joking about how "dramatic" the person in question was.

The kid was picked up by an ambulance 30 minutes later.

Now as an adult working in security I get SO MANY folks- upper-middle aged mostly- coming to me to 'rat out' people they think are faking it.

I was once sent into a bathroom because a client demanded that the "fucker won't get out, so good drag them out"- I was NEVER going to do that, so I did a wellness check instead. You know who it was? A person recently released from the hospital after a car accident. They had a hole in their skull and major hearing loss. They couldn't answer the owner because they couldn't HEAR the owner.

Another time about a homeless man who got around town by kicking the ground from his wheelchair. "You know he doesn't actually need that thing, his legs work fine, it's just for pity points"- Oh, so he's not paralyzed, his wheelchair is performative? Funny story Dale, I actually know that guy, he was backed over by a truck and has chronic pain from his shattered pelvis. But sure, let's make him stand up and walk everywhere so nobody feels too bad for him and tries to help him or something.

"She doesn't need that scooter, I've seen her get out of it."

"Look how fat he is, because he just rides around and refuses to get up."

"She doesn't really need that cane- she comes here without it all the time"

Sincerely, truly, from the bottom of my heart- as someone who isn't physically disabled but hears this shit all the time- fuck off

[nyghtwolf]

As someone who uses a cane sometimes due to chronic pain that flares up & vanishes for various random ass reasons (how I slept, how I was sitting the day before, exercise, the weather, too much standing, too much sitting, gained one pound? Lost one pound??, etc) and can't stand for more than 15min due to an entirely different health issue, I am in constant fear of being called a faker 😩

[dreamycastaway]

The original pride flag and the sewing machine it was sewn on

[iwriterobots]

[willgrahamscock]

just saw a deactivated mutual's post on my dash. that's my dead wife's corpse you're all dragging around

[willgrahamscock]

[willgrahamscock]

have a cannibalism phobia so can’t follow but I like your other posts happy pride

anon acts like i'm posting tips

[willgrahamscock]

fingertips

[blackberryvulpine]

Is anyone else constantly bothered by the fact that all of a child's medical care is required to go through their parents? That they must rely on these people to decide when they do or don't need medical care?

No matter how injured. If a parent doesn't deem it necessary to see a doctor, it doesn't happen. Teachers can suggest a doctor visit, but unless it's a very acute injury (and even then), it's ultimately up to the parents.

You can be 13. Twisted, maybe broken ankle. You teacher lets you sit out in PE. She's concerned, and tells you to rest when you go home, and see a doctor. You get home, ur parents fill a bath and add some Epsom salts, and then laugh at you for using it moms old colorguard stick as a cane. Take some ibuprofen they say. It's just a little sprain, ur a kid.

You go to school the next day, go to ur office assistant time. Office calls ur mom to come get you, because you're clearly in too much pain for school. Your mom laughs when she gets you, says you just were so determined not to miss school. Scolds you for making the office ladies worry.

You never see a doctor for the injury.

Your parents come into the exam room at every visit. This does not stop with age, except for gynecologist. But your parents are on the medical release forms. They fill them out for you, with you. You do not get to take them off.

You never get to tell s doctor about the ankle. Even though it never quote healed right, and it hurts every day.

Then your 18. In college. Still on your parents insurance, and have no car. The on campus clinic only does std testing. You fall down some stairs. Same injury. You call your parents, crying from the pain. You are using a mop as a cane. They console you and say to have a bath, take some meds, and let them know how it feels in a few days. You end up borrowing your roommates rolling chair to get around for the weekend.

By Monday, you can walk again. You walk miles to class every day. You ask to see a doctor, but your parents won't drive the hour to come take you, and you don't have the insurance card. You are still at their mercy for medical care. The ankle tries to heal again. This time worse than before. The tendons click with every step.

Now you're in your twenties. Finally have your own healthcare. You see a doctor. You get to mention the ankle! They say it's been too long to really even know what was damaged. That you have arthritis now. It healed wrong but it can no longer be fixed.

I'm 32 now. My ankle tells me the weather. I wear boots to keep it stable. What could have been a funny story about a fall and a cast has become a lifetime injury. Because children do not have access to medical care without a parents approval.

[hymnism]

[imsobadatnicknames2]

I feel like advertising is probably the funniest place anyone can choose to predicate their moral arguments against AI on the basis of environmental impact because like. The advertising industry is already probably the most wasteful i dustry in terms of environmental costs vs. actual value it provides, to the point that adding AI to it amounts to a very small drop in the world's biggest bucket. Like.

"Using AI to design flyers looks cheap and tacky" 👍 I completely agree.

"Using AI to design flyers is bad for the environment" I can tell you with 100% absolute certainty that the environmental impact of printing hundreds of paper flyers which will be looked at exactly once and then thrown in the garbage is like. Several orders of magnitude bigger than the environmental impact of generating the picture that will go on said flyers.

[imsobadatnicknames2]

Like I find it hard to think of a position that more succinctly communicates "I never think about where anything comes from or how it's produced or how it's disposed of or the environmental costs of any steps in that process unless there's some sort of moral panic telling me to be concerned about it" than thinking that the "AI" part of "ads made with AI" is the part that's bad for the environment.

[this-is-trans-joy]

everyone loves to hate terfs until they realise that it actually entails rejecting bioessentialism entirely and then suddenly you’re “taking things too seriously” and you “don’t have a sense of humour” like i’m sorry but saying protect the dolls doesn’t make you immune to terfism it has seeped into every corner of mainstream feminism and unless you’re actively searching it out and checking your own biases you will always be at risk of sharing a space with terfs

[this-is-trans-joy]

“Only women can—” nope. “But all men—” nah. “The divine femininity of—” gonna stop you right there. “Everyone born ama—” if you finish that sentence I’ll kill you. “Men don’t experience—” you’re wrong. “Gender isn’t real but sex is imm—” *loud incorrect buzzer*

It also goes without saying that bioessentialism inherently can’t be trans inclusive no matter how hard you try. “All men including trans men—” probably not. “This is only a woman’s issue—” is it really? “Afabs only—” why? “All trans men are like—” what? what are they like? finish the sentence i dare you.

[pocketmilo]

lush and overgrown 🍃

march's patreon

[enki2]

[lethalbutterfly]

That's a side quest. You're supposed to go find him.

[audhdspacewizard]

Or at least find his environmental storytelling skeleton along with a unique weapon or piece of armor.

[lifeafterpsychiatry]

"Clearly I wasn't talking about disabled people-" yeah part of the problem is that the existence of disabled people just isn't considered in your worldview like that's the problem we're criticizing not a get out of jail free card