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[marbleguard]

i find pretty much all men creepy, because even the nicest most innocent seeming guy you know is going home to jerk off to fucked up porn and/or will admit something horrifying to you after letting your guard down around them for long enough. It's like they're all some other type of creature just cosplaying as humans and I find that unsettling to the highest degree, I do not want to be around them.

[sickofeverythingmale2]

One of the reasons I stopped reading feminist literature and theory, besides the fact that it was just different accounts and analyses of women's suffering, which I was already aware of and didn't particularly find pleasing to read, is that a lot of writing felt rather... pointless when you actually look at these authors themselves. It's hard to take a woman's writing seriously about the effects of males when they don't in fact take their own advice seriously. Gail Dines, the author of Pornland, married a man and had a son. Robin Morgan, author of The Demon Lover, married a man and had a son. Andrea Dworkin, author of Woman Hating and so many others, also married a man. I personally cannot read their writing without rolling my eyes into the back of my head when they don't even seem to listen to their own advice or their own studies. And of course, you can say that you can take their work as completely separate from their personal lives, but I just cannot shake that haunting reminder that a woman could put force the most cut throat, radical analysis of women's oppression and yet run back to the very thing that's causing it. It's very demotivating and isolating as a woman who is truly aware and as one who is truly interested in solving the problem.

[jazz-axy]

How it feels seeing people complain about the ads taking over Pinterest knowing that when I open mine I am met with ZERO NONE NADA! 😌

[bulbasaurbutch]

Knitting is the most violent oscillation between 'oh god it's so over' to 'we are SO back' hobby I have ever experienced when it is going well you are flyingggg but if you discover a mistake (crochet with its nice easy unravelling had not prepared me for) the absolute heart surgery levels of concentration it takes to fix it. woe to twisted stitches and colourwork mistakes. I want to be one of those chill grandmas who can chat as they knit without even looking but alas I am cursed to forever a hunched goblin counting ominously under my breath and trying frantically to unwind yarn

[ashuriphoenix]

[TS3] Scalp Accessory

I come bearing an accessory to hopefully combat hairs with gigantic, open patches of bald head or to use to make a shaved style more full.  There are two flavors: full and sparse.  

Full is right up to nearly the edge of the scalp and is more for full, lengthy hair, that just has a weird scalp thing going on - weird streaks of skin everywhere that one always finds obnoxious.  I was working on one that would extend just slightly past this line to meet scalp makeup that’s floating around CCLand better, but I kind of gave up on it (not sorry).

Sparse is more for hairstyles that have an okay style, but it may look a little funny when you get deeper past the hairline: too little hair where there probably should be at least some.  It can also be used to augment styles where a shaved head is a thing, but you may feel there should be a bit more thickness.

Compatible for males and females, teen through elder.

You might be able to combine both the full and sparse accessories together if you’re desperate for even more coverage, but I didn’t test this possibility out so much and it probably wouldn’t give you the result you think you’d get.

Download: SFS

[scorpionlafemme]

[rainekeiko]

when Florence said, “ A woman must prepare for the things she has asked for when there isn’t the slightest sign of it insight.” She was right!!!!!!!

[meanevilandcruel]

Posted by @ariannakyanne

[jazz-axy]

Anybody having sex has no business telling other women to be celibate. That's some "rules for thee but not for me" bullshit. Yes I'm talking to the lesbians and bisexuals too.

I been celibate for 6 years and I'm not even interested in making anybody do it too. That's a choice you make on your own. But in radfem spaces, it's so fucking annoying to see how many women act like someone left them in charge of celibacy enlistment, all while they still having sex themselves.

Alot of you are way too comfortable.

[reincarnatedvaleriesolanas]

I fucking ADORE it when women PEAAAAAKKKKK and speak their truth. The fact that i saw this on tiktak restored my faith in humanity

[jazz-axy]

My useless talent is always guessing the number one answer on Family Feud. Was watching Family Feud Africa and the question asked for a food that South Africans love. Do I know anything about SA cuisine?? No. But did I guess "chicken feet" and have it be the number one answer? Of course.

I hate being good at pointless shit.

[rabiesofficial]

[over-eden]

6B4T

Lately there has been talk about 4B and so I wanted to bring up 6B4T which grew from the South Korean 4B movement, and specially the 6B4T movement as it is practiced by our Chinese sisters. Before that however differences between the both are as followed:

4B

No sex with men

No giving birth

No dating men

No marriage with men

6B4T

Includes the original commandments of 4B and adds the following:

Don’t buy products from misogynistic brands

Support single women/women that have chosen to be celibate

Reject the corset (rejecting toxic beauty standards)

Reject idol culture (as in male-worship and idolization of entertainment figures this ALSO includes rejecting idol culture for female kpop idols/entertainers)

Reject otaku culture (rejecting misogynistic anime culture)

Reject religion

(**You may see 6B4T referred to as 10bt to avoid censorship as CN social media sites are heavily monitored by government censors, even outside of CN social media CN sisters will still refer to it as 10bt because 6b + 4t = 10bt)

Now that there's a basic understanding... I wanted to talk about some of the differences that the CN 6B4T movement has compared to what I usually encounter in English speaking radfem circles. Please note that this is my own experience and as with any political movement there can a myriad of women that agree and disagree (except on the 6B4T principles as a whole, those are rock solid for them haha.)

I was first aware of this movement around 2020 and have been following women on twitter/x since then that follow these beliefs. All of this has been gathered from tweets by 6B4T users on twitter/x + interactions with them. I am not a CN speaker and have used translation apps to piece together details on the 6B4T movement and have cross referenced this with some of the writings I can find in English about this and the conversations that I have had with some of the 10bt sisters that were willing to interact with me.

I do not feel comfortable just singling out specific accounts for people to look up on twitter but anyone that wants to do their own research can search the keywords on twitter 6B4T or 10bt and go under the "People" filter to populate accounts of CN women that have 6B4T and/or 10bt in their bio.

One thing that I want to talk about right away - the term donkey. It will come up quite often when you search 10bt accounts and is used to describe women that are perpetuating patriarchy because they "carry the patriarchy without protest and allow themselves to be exploited." (This includes married women.) 10bt sisters DO NOT have an emphasis on educating women that perpetuate patriarchy. You can find sayings such as:

"Feminism is like being given a weapon to support yourself with, do not use it to commit suicide by having a complex of saving donkeys" 

“Don't do donkey work for donkeys".

“Don’t get derailed by women support women, leave the donkeys alone.”

Which leads me to the next point - 10bt sisters are for empowering women independently. There is obvious acknowledgement of bonds and relationships between women but the general feeling is more to focus on the individual self, connections are based solely on shared interests and can be let go of as needed. (I have also seen discussions of letting go of romantic ties not just for straight sisters but for lesbian sisters as well.) Sentiments such as "focusing on oneself is a foundation for a happy life" "All thoughts and ideologies cannot be separated from down to earth efforts and dedication" are plenty. Really a focus away from "altruistic" causes so to speak

And on that note: anti veganism. 10bt sisters in general are adamant that 6B4T principles should only include tackling patriarchy and not have other causes added to it. Anti veganism sentiment also seems to stem from certain aspects in CN culture of serving smaller portions to young girls and discouraging them to eat meat as opposed to men. The focus on improving one's self from before also shows up here: "Women need strength to overthrow patriarchy, only then should we focus on improving the lives of animals."

Some 10bt sisters are also very open about criticism and believe women that openly identify with the 10bt movement should be prepared to have their posts critiqued, and while some will debate this... one of the things that is absolutely non negotiable is that actions MUST back up words. There’s lots of debates that go on in the 10bt movement but the bare minimum is that if you follow 6B4T then you must follow its core beliefs otherwise what are you here for? There is a huge disdain for those that say they belong to this movement but don’t follow its beliefs.

With that being said, how do the 10bt sisters feel about 4B taking off in the states? Well…

 “4B grew into 6B4T and they only dared to do half of the movement? It’s disappointing.”

“At this point in time, it is crazy to deliberately go back and start from 4B. You have someone’s shoulder to stand on but you won’t take it.”

“4B: No marriage, no giving birth , no sex, no dating. Doesn't that mean they are still serving as donkeys: supporting idols and otaku, believing in religion, using pornographic content, and consuming misogynistic brands... It really makes one recognize by a glance what stupid things they are still doing.”

“I don't understand how this kind of castration of the feminist movement came about.”

Is some of the general consensus on twitter/x.

Two more things I will add here before I wrap this up:

I have seen a post in English about other principles to follow such as 5B, 7B or 8B. I am not aware of what these principles are and could not find a CN source to confirm this so if 5B, 7B and 8B do exist, I do not believe it originated from the CN movement. 

There is also the concept of icing men out aka if a man comments on your social media posts immediately delete the comment EVEN if it is a comment in agreement. For this while I also could not find a specific CN source for the 10bt sisters, it feels like it is just natural to not interact with men. I have yet to see debates on whether someone can be part of 10bt and still have a boyfriend, husband, etc since the answer will always be a resounding NO. (And on this note… if you are curious about attitudes towards male family members.. rejection of filial piety is something that is very agreed upon. I would recommend first learning what filial piety entails in CN culture as whole if there is curiosity about this.)

I will wrap this up with one of my favorite concepts I have encountered from our 10bt sisters:

“When one woman keeps house*: five women are trapped: herself, daughter, mother, sister-in-law, and female coworkers”

[*keeps house meaning  - “when one woman marries…”] 

If there are sisters out here who are involved with this or have more info to add please feel free to do so! Also would love to get in touch with any that know more on the CN 10bt movement.  

[glowdiamond]

men harvest your energy in ways you don't even understand

two years ago i used to go every thursday to this cuban dance class, where we'd dance in a circle and switch partners every few minutes

I'd dance with multiple men, old, young, married, divorced, you get the gist

and there was one man who must have been in his fifties who'd always criticize my dancing, meanwhile the teacher himself would say i was doing well

i kept thinking to myself ,why is this man so dedicated to bringing me down and saying these disheartening comments,

one time he stood mid-dance and refused to continue because i was "so bad", he'd wanted to embarrass me in front of the whole class

and that night i figured it out,

this man wanted to harvest my energy, he wanted a reaction out of me

here i was, a hot young girl in her twenties, the youngest in the entire class actually, well dressed, well perfumed, hair and nails on fleek

and there he was, a depressed, bitter, lonely(he was divorced) middle aged man,

i was the representation of everything he couldn't have

some men, when they know they can't access you (aka access your feminine energy) through flirting, courting, dating

you the know, the traditional route

decide to access your energy in a different way

by triggering you, belittling you, anything to get a reaction or a rise out of you

unlike women,

men can be fueled up, can find nourishment in anything women provide, good or bad attention

thinks of incels versus misandrists

women who hate men want nothing to do with them, they avoid men all together

but incels hate women yet they cant stop talking and thinking about women, they spend hours trolling and commenting vile things hoping for a reaction, they create entire discords and private chatrooms to discuss the ways they've humiliated women

men NEED our attention like oxygen, and when they can't earn it by being a gentleman, they'll try to get it by being an asshole

think back to early days at school, the way boys would get a high out of grabbing your pigtails, the way they'd enjoy scaring you or pretend-lunging at you

your reaction, whether it's fear, annoyance or even an eyeroll

is enough to fuel them

once you notice this simple fact you'll start noticing it everywhere

not even a week ago me and my friends were outside a restaurant heading home, the street was completely empty except for us it was around 11 pm, a bus came and just as it got closer to us, honked at us really loudly, we jumped because it was so sudden and the street was quiet & empty, as i saw the bus driver pass by i saw him laughing, this man had no real reason to honk, since the street was empty and the lights were green, he just saw us and wanted a reaction out of us, our fear was entertaining to him

another time at a work function, some guy just randomly went on a tangent about how it isn't really fair that women work, because men take money home for the family while women take money to spend on makeup and fashion and "dumb" stuff, it was me and another girl at the table, the rest were all men, i knew this guy wanted a reaction out of us, i just turned around to the other girl and asked if she wanted more dip with her food, i could see this guy almost get mad, he'd probably prepared a whole argument in his head and was frustrated we wouldn't engage him and go back and forth

when i tell women the BEST thing you could do to men is cut off their energy supply which is your attention (remember they feed of ANY attention good or bad)

a man does you wrong? ghost and block

a man asks why he should split the bill or what you bring to the table on a date? get up and leave don't engage

someone trolls or mocks you under a photo of yours? delete their comment and block their account

NEVER take the bait,

never argue over your own humanity, never defend why you should get a seat at the table, or why women deserve rights, or why your standards are valid, or why women aren't gold diggers,

the punishment of the ignorant is to stay ignorant

i will never give access to my energy

you'll never see me on a podcast debating with men

or god forbid, standing in line like cattle waiting for a man to pick me on youtube

in my life, you either get it from the get go or you don't

you'll become untouchable when you immediately shut down bullshit and withdraw your energy

the amount of women i see filming videos of themselves arguing with their partners/husbands

talking about why he should be splitting chores or why it's insensitive that he doesn't remember her birthday

meanwhiles all these women have to do is disengage and emotionally ghost these men until they find a better replacement

[rozieramati]

[haelxtii]

I hope you wake up & go get the life you want so you aren’t miserable in the life you settled for

[free-my-mindd]

Fortunately, I actually like myself and I can be alone.