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[jenwalmsely]

maybe the deception is safety

[jenwalmsely]

OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) often speaks in the voice of others. Others you’ve met, others who have wronged you and even complete strangers who you met one time on a Gobus to the city. Not every OCD thought is a negative one but sometimes it’s the loudest.

[petaltexturedskies]

I love you, my sun, my life, I love your eyes — closed — all the little tails of your thoughts, your stretchy vowels, your whole soul from head to heels.

Vladimir Nabokov, in a letter to his wife Véra, dated 30 December 1923, featured in Letters to Véra

[jenwalmsely]

I will always be the girlypop to check Google for the spelling of things (because no matter how obvious they are I can’t always break them down) or use Google to search for the meaning of words…

I’m not smart. I just use Google a lot. 💁🏽‍♀️

[jenwalmsely]

you don’t need to keep this private. when we got together i was also still living at home until the point where years later we moved in together. it wasn’t an issue at all. my partner did have her own place, which made it substantially easier. we would usually hang out there if we wanted to stay in (or for sex), but we mostly would be going to events or sports or anything really anyway. i was closeted so we never went to my house anyway.

most people here, same sex couples or hetero couples, start dating when one or both still lives at home. it’s totally normal! most couples i know would bring their SO home, and families don’t mind. it’s very normal here to go to college and just commute or to work and still live at home until you save up enough to leave so dating while not having your own place is totally normal.

i don’t think this will be an issue at all.

Sigh. I asked the question.

I want to highlight the “it’s very normal here to go to college and just commute or to work and still live at home until you save up enough money to leave” unless someone was going back to college to further their degree or because they’ve changed their degree — I wouldn’t be dating someone in college because they would be too young.

I also would like to hope that anyone who is over the age of 25 has saved up money and has the experience of living on their own (even if they currently live with their patents)

Someone still living at home who has never moved out wouldn’t have the same insight as someone who has been a homeowner for 6 years.

[dk-thrive]

I’m in the hard part of getting old—the part where everything irritates you. The easy part comes a little later, when my short-term memory disappears.

— David Sedaris, The Land and Its People: Essays (Little, Brown and Company, May 26, 2026)

[jenwalmsely]

@support @changes

I like the concept of “close friends” that both Facebook and Instagram have where you select who can view certain things. My “close friends” are very limited and vary per applications, I like that level of privacy without having to go somewhere else to talk about certain things that I want to share only to certain followers. I would love that option to carry over here since we don’t have the option to switch which blog is main/secondary and that we can’t password protect our main either. I would love to post things as “close friends” on perhaps “close mutuals” without having to build a “community.” I would be happy with all three options.

[jenwalmsely]

Question?????

Asking out of my own curiousity while also understanding that some people might not feel comfortable answering in the comments — feel free to privately message me and I’ll keep it private — but thoughts on dating people who are still living at home? Someone who has never moved out from their parents home or childhood home? I know that some cultures are more likely to still live at home… I’m not trying to cast judgement but I’m curious how others feel about it. I personally would prefer that the person didn’t live at home for the simple fact of experience.

[dakota-283]

[jenwalmsely]

I’ve got so comfortable and content with being alone so much that trying to build relationships with new people or rebuilding friendships is met with me pulling back and a whole lot of hesitation.

I know what I need to fill my cup but I’ve got used to my cup being half full.

[mournfulroses]

Tove Ditlevsen, from a poem featured in There Lives a Young Girl in Me Who Will Not Die: Selected Poems

[dk-thrive]

You linger where you are meant to linger.

— Matt Haig, The Midnight Train: A Novel (Viking, May 26 , 2026)

[2000srotting]

Somewhere out there your childhood bedroom's light is still on, patiently awaiting your return

all I’ve ever wanted was to go home.

[jenwalmsely]

I am not usually the type to try getting somebody fired but I’m pretty much trying to get the receptionist at my nurse practitioner’s office fired.

The same person who says to call two weeks in advance is the same person who says that it’s too early to refill when I called two weeks in advance to go away to the cottage.

The same person I have to play phone tag with everytime I call the office.

The same person who gaslighted me when I called to book an appointment and was told that I don’t have a nurse practitioner and that I need to meet with a nurse practitioner first — when I already met with one and that nurse practitioner said she would take me on. Instead of e-mailing or even explaining that this nurse practitioner left the area, she tried to tell me that I didn’t meet with one.

The same one who had a voicemail message about how aggressive behavior won’t be tolerated.

The same c*nt who told my mom today that she can’t book a blood test for my dad because she’s not “authorized” to even though her nurse practitioner said to book the appointment for him.

How are you doing this shit to people who are mentally ill ?

She should not be in that seat.

[pathologising]

one thing about me is that I am going to cry

[fibul]

there's no temptress quite as irresistible as the mid afternoon sleepies