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paleosteno-deactivated20191020

I need to start doing this because I sit in a chair so much of the day. Need to start doing this in the morning and like, go for a walk or something.

sourdough-seal

“what are you doing this weekend” i am going to fantasy land. i am hiding under the covers in bed. i am making things up. i am contemplating events that didnt happen. i am talking to fake people. i am listening to my tunes. i am envisioning scenarios

maachine-deactivated20250630

lets All lock in starting Right Now

virusgeist

how i feel about locking in

definitely-not-a-plant

how i feel about locking in

succubusboyfriend

practicing self care less out of self love and more for the sheer logical reasoning of it’d be kinda stupid of me to expect myself to be able to function without proper maintenance

succubusboyfriend

“oh i don’t deserve rest and relaxation, i haven’t done enough, i haven’t earned it” and my car’s breaks don’t deserve break fluid because they aren’t breaking well enough to earn it. that’s what you sound like!!!!!

homunculus-argument

Hey btw, here's a piece of life advice:

If you know what you'd have to do to solve a problem, but you just don't want to do it, your main problem isn't the problem itself. Your problem is figuring out how to get yourself to do the solution.

If your problem is not eating enough vegetables, the problem you should be solving is "how do I make vegetables stop being yucky". If your problem is not getting enough exercise, the problem you should be solving is "how do I make exercise stop sucking ass". You're not supposed to just be doing things that are awful and suck all the time forever, you're supposed to figure out how to make it stop being so awful all the time.

I used to hate wearing sunscreen because it's sticky and slimy and disgusting and it feels bad and it smells bad, so I neglected to wear it even if I needed to. Then I found one that isn't like that, and doesn't smell and feel gross. Problem solved.

There is no correct way to live that's just supposed to suck and feel bad all the time. You're allowed to figure out how to make it not suck so bad.

human-power

your mental illness is mean and it’s a liar. You are never as horrible as you think. People love you. You are worthy

radicalgraff

“If you promise to stay alive just a little bit longer I promise that we are going to make this world a place worth living in by any means necessary. I ain’t giving up. I swear.”

Spotted in Clackamas, Oregon

anarchopuppy

I can’t stop thinking about this message, so I spent a while trying to isolate just the writing and make it transparent. I might order a shirt with it

Whoever in Clackamas wrote this message on their bus stop, I love you

slipperyslideyday

[ if you promise to stay alive just a little bit longer I promise that we are going to make this world a place worth living in by any means necessary. I ain’t giving up. I swear. end caption ]

iamjeanmarie

@hopepunk-humanity

carnage-cathedral

my partner said something that kinda rocked my world

jenny-ratmeal

Babe are you OK? You reblogged "even if you get worse".

diary-of-a-chinese-kid

Beautiful shit like this makes me so happy

robotslenderman

I’m sorry my lovelies but the reason you hate yourself is because you treat you like shit. If you came up to me and then told me I was a fuck up who could never do anything right I'd fucking hate you too.

robotslenderman

if you didn't let me go to bed until after midnight because you'd rather watch Netflix than let me rest, and then got mad at me for not being productive the next day I'd be PISSED

robotslenderman

You keep calling me a fatass but you tell other overweight people they’re beautiful? Why do you keep shitting on MY weight, then?

Oh? It’s different if it’s me? Wow fuck you too

robotslenderman

Love is a verb! Self love isn’t a warm fuzzy feeling, it is compassion and action in support of yourself!

And yes, this includes having compassion for the bully in your head. Unfortunately that part is also you and deserves as much of your understanding as the rest of you.

robotslenderman

via @corazondebeskar

This is the real reason why you need to be kind to the bully in your brain too, because that motherfucker is really good at doing a switcheroo when you're not paying attention.

lestatfag

STAY SAFE!! [ID: the Gilbert Baker pride flag with the words “Happy pride to all those who are unable to celebrate openly and safely. You are loved and seen!” in all-caps black text over it. /end ID]

bashcrandicoot

“I don’t know what my goals are, no. Thanks for asking.”

thesweetiepienovels

Some is better than none. Some is better than none. Some is better than none. Walking for three minutes, is better than nothing. Drinking a glass of water and eating a snack, is better than nothing. Wiping down the counter, is better than nothing. Small things are not nothing. Small things are not nothing. Small things are not nothing. You don’t have to achieve grand things if all you’re capable of right now is the smaller things. They are still achievements. Don’t do nothing just because you don’t think you’re capable of doing bigger things, just do something you’re capable of today.

decompose1

neovaginas can get wet naturally

a neophallus can get erect with an implant (this will either be a bendable rod or a device that inflates with saline at the press of a button, usually in the testicles)

both can feel sexual pleasure and experience orgasm

most neovaginas will be able to tolerate larger insertions with enough dilating/training

the nerves in neophalluses take a while to regrow but it is incredibly rare to experience no sexual nerve growth

both can look and feel "normal" if that's what you want, just take good care of your scars and look at your surgeons' results portfolio (and don't be afraid to be picky! its your genitals, you get to decide!)

in fact it's possible for many people to stealth and for their sexual partners to never know. even for phallo, some people with natal penises have erectile implants too, ED is common. neocaginas are often indistinguishable from natal vaginas

many surgeons are starting to offer preservation options for patients who want a more mixed look/don't want to lose what they have

YOU HAVE OPTIONS! demystify bottom surgery

deerbrain

you can also have nothing, if you want!! nullification is starting to become available alongside vaginoplasty and phalloplasty

you can have nothing and retain sexual function, even! it's called nerve-preserving nullification. similarly to other bottom surgeries, they use the most sensitive tissue (glans/clit) to create a subdermal pseudoclitoris

yes you can pee like normal. urethral reroute leaves a small hole at the perineum (taint)

all the advice about scars from OP applies here too!! take care of yourself well and it can heal well

(also, for people interested in the "mixed look" OP mentioned: the magic words are "penile-preserving vaginoplasty"/"phalloplasty without vaginectomy"!!)

her-aurora-doll

As someone who has had nullification done, my inbox is always open.

biglawbear

I need to start making cooking tips for all the things I've learned.

The first thing is that you have to preheat your oven, and also your pans on the stove. You think "oh I can just throw Thing in the oven and wait for it to come up to heat" that is the devil talking. Whatever you're cooking, you want it to go in the oven and the oven be a consistent temp and start those tasty chemical reactions that cook your food: crisping edges of veg, causing cookies to rise.

You also have to preheat your pan on the stove. Every time. You think "oh the pan is fine I'm gonna put Thing in it now" and then nothing happens so you turn up the heat thinking the stove needs to be hotter because Thing isn't cooking and then all of a sudden it's too hot and you ruined the Thing. Let the pan preheat. For several minutes. To test if your pan is hot, run your hand under the sink and flick a couple drops of water onto the pan. Sizzling? Good your pan is hot. Water just sitting there? It's not preheated.

Can't tell you how many times I've talked to someone who "can't cook" or "the recipe didn't come out right" and when I asked if they preheated the oven or pan the answer was no.

First rule. Preheat the stuff before you put the food in.

entomologist-of-abraham

If you have a stainless steel pan, the water should bead and move across the surface before it sizzles and evaporates off. That's how you know your pan is hot and ready to use. If the water just sizzles it's almost there, but you want that beading so you get that nice nonstick reaction.

biglawbear

Even I learned something new!! Cuz I never use stainless steel but my partner is trying to convince me to switch from nonstick

doitninetimes

I'm a big fan of seasoned cast iron for non-stick-ness (eggs) but my friends have been having extremely good luck with seasoned carbon steel as well, for general cooking, and they're much lighter.

As far as I can tell, all other pfas-free nonstick claims are kinda bogus.

My other Hot Tip is to preheat the dry pan, and then preheat the oil, then start cooking. People who can't get their cast iron to be nonstick are usually not heating each element in sequence and it makes a shocking difference.

biglawbear

You're right!! You have to let the oil or fat heat up in the pan too!! You don't just immediately throw Thing in. Thank you for clarifying! Usually this doesn't take too long. It takes me long enough to remember where I put the garlic that the fat has heated up by the time I've found it.