[starblaster]

i know hearing people on this website love to pass around those posts with links to free sign language lessons but you know you need to actually put effort into learning about Deaf culture, too, right?

[starblaster]

if you are currently learning ASL, you need to read Introduction to American Deaf Culture by Thomas K. Holcomb

[starblaster]

resources for other Deaf cultures include, but are not limited to:

Black Deaf Culture Through the Lens of History (BASL and ASL-centric)

Understanding Deaf Culture by Paddy Ladd (which can also be found on archive.org)

Many Ways to Be Deaf: International Variation in Deaf Communities

the British Deaf Association website

directory for Deaf Australia’s “Our Deaf Ways” video podcast (presented in Auslan with audio from an interpreter and accurate closed captioning for all episodes)

The Irish Deaf Community by Patrick A. Matthews

Breaking the Silence: The Education of the Deaf in Ireland, 1816-1996

the Canadian Deaf Culture Center website

History of Hawai'i Sign Language and Hawai'i Deaf People by Barbara Earth, with Linda Lambrecht

‘We did it ourselves’: The Deaf Social Movement and the Quest for the Legal Recognition of the Libras Sign Language in Brazil

[terramythos]

School being so traumatic people have anxiety dreams about it for life sure doesn't seem uh. Normal

[curlicuecal]

Whenever I take a long car ride I end up exhausted afterwards, and I'm always like "why am I so tired? I was just sitting around doing nothing all day."

But the answer, it turns out, is I was doing something. Riding in a car jars your body in many directions and requires constant microadjustments of your muscles just to stay in place and hold your normal posture. Because you're inside the car, inside the situation, it's easy not to notice all the extra work you're doing just to maintain the status quo.

There's all sorts of type of work that we think of as "free" that require spending energy: concentrating, making decisions, managing anxiety, maintaining hypervigilance in an unfriendly environment, dealing with stereotype threat, processing a lot of sensory input, repairing skin cells damaged sun exposure, trying to stay warm in a cold room.

The next time you think you're tired from "nothing", consider instead that you're probably in situation where you're doing a lot of unnoticed extra work just to stay in place.

[ceekari]

opening my body's task manager to see what's taking up all my cpu

[theunitofcaring]

A lot of the advice I got about learning to enforce my boundaries was framed as an adversarial thing. Like, ‘yes, it might upset and disappoint the people around you, but you have to learn to tell them ‘no’ anyway.’ At best, ‘good people will still like you if you enforce your boundaries’.

What I wish I’d been told is that good people will think it's awesome that you enforce your boundaries, that there are people who will respect the hell out of you for it, that there are people who will admire you not despite you telling them no, but because of it. That most people don’t want to make you do something you don’t enjoy,and so they’ll actively be happier and more relaxed around you if they know they can trust you to decline to do things you don’t enjoy and to ask them to stop things that bother you.

It helped me a lot, personally, to stop thinking of ‘enforcing my boundaries’ as something I did for me and more as something I did to empower the people I was close with, to build a situation where they and I felt sure everything that was going on was something we all wanted.

Most advice isn’t good for everyone and this advice seems maybe bad for people in abusive situations, because sometimes you do need to learn to enforce boundaries against people who will try to violate them. But if there are other brains like me out there: your partner will be really happy you can say no to them. your friend will be really happy you change the subject when you hate it. your roommate will really appreciate that you tell them to turn down the music. most people will feel safer and more comfortable around you if they know you’ll reliably express your needs, AND they’ll feel better about voicing theirs.

[vergak]

[larchcoin]

[sm64mario]

Hm… Mario’sa saw an ad in the newspaper for’a part time job! Mario’sa gonna take it! It’a seems like easy pay! Yahoo!

[sm64mario]

First’a night on the job, everyone!

[sm64mario]

Why are they moving.

[sophisticatedferret]

it’s the drop in the accent for me

[lesbiancharliedalton]

Terfs saying the jeopardy lady has an advantage over "real women" because men can push buttons faster is so fucking funny

[lesbiancharliedalton]

Also this implies that Jeopardy should always be segregated by gender because of the button pushing advantage

[a-molecular-machine]

[maeples]

[ID: tags from tumblr user @/soullesscoyote that say: #terfs be like 'cis women cant do anything. they cant do anything and are inferior in every way'with no awareness]

[ragingpunsexual]

I love the idea of Spock being super queer, highly expressive and very emotional from a Vulcan view point. Like...

What humans see:

What Vulcans see:

[livebloggingmydescentintomadness]

i love how this implies that gritty is how vulcans see jim

[shanastoryteller]

i know kindness exists because i am kind

[shanastoryteller]

"people aren't good"

i am people. i am good

you are wrong

[shanastoryteller]

if you are capable of it then so are others

be your own proof of concept

[tiktoksthataregood-ish]

[radwolf76]

[natiix-deactivated20210916]

the au you all asked for

[natiix-deactivated20210916]

omg thank you all for the positive feedback!! Some of you wanted a little more shoujo action so here you go:

[natiix-deactivated20210916]

He maybe doesnt have a nose, ears and fingers and easily gets a sunburn but all what matters is his warm heart! Why dont you see that he is perfect for you, Spongebob? God I hate shoujo heroines!

[natiix-deactivated20210916]

Dont get me wrong, I love Sponjibobu wa maid-sama but Squidward is an asshole. He is only nice when Mr. Krabs is looking!

[natiix-deactivated20210916]

Do you remember when Squidwards heart got possessed by a demon but then Spongebob appeared and saved him? As you know I dont ship them but wow THAT was a good episode.

“I believe in you, Tentaculu-kun.”

[natiix-deactivated20210916]

Im so glad Plankton didnt reveal Pantsu-chans identity. He might be a villain but at least he has some integrity.

[natiix-deactivated20210916]

As you know the last episode of Pantsu-chan - Love is magic was aired last sunday. The message of the whole series is so important and deep, wow. God bless the creators for giving us this wonderful piece.

“Magic is not an outfit nor is it a wand, its everytime you show love to someone you care about.”

[hazel0217]

I CAN’T AHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHHHASHASHSHDFKJLDAHSJKARUEIWBRYOVABWYIRVYBSDAFVHJSDVBSKADHFBVKLJSAHRVEAJBHRKSHCRBKJSHADFBKVJDSHKVBSVKSAVUOSDBHFVDS

[doberbutts]

Something something more representation for characters that are intended to be attractive than skinny able-bodied white people something something

[doberbutts]

The first time I dated a bear he had such a difficult time believing I could be attracted to him because he was fat and hairy and attractive people are not usually represented as fat and hairy. When we would talk about characters that we enjoyed in the various media we consumed together, no matter who I picked it would be a person that didn’t look like him. Either because people who looked like him were flat out not present within the story, or because those that did were always disgusting, mean-spirited, unlikeable, etc.

The few big n’ tall characters that are intended to be attractive and likeable tend to be non-human and bulk muscle, not fat, with minimal hair.

And that really... did a number on his self-esteem, because he had such a hard time believing that I could be attracted to him, with all of his weight and natural hair growth, because he would see me interested in characters that looked much more like me than him.

We always talk about how representation matters and gay representation is always so minimal in the first place, and when it is present it’s always someone skinny or built but never the dude with full beard and big stomach. Those exist too.

[doberbutts]

I love how people reblogged this with tags saying nice things about bears because all of the bears I’ve spoken to or dated have told me repeatedly that despite the assumed obsession with bears in the community... when it comes to actual romance and intimacy, many of them have given up finding anything even remotely close to long-term because no one seems to be willing to actually pursue them like that.

I know this guy who is literally married and he still brings up to his partner that he should lose weight for them and his partner has to remind him all the time that he is loved no matter what his body image tells him and that he should only try losing weight if he wants to. Not for anyone else except his own self.

The bear community is literally the best, no matter where I go if there’s a bear club there they are always super nice and welcoming and very come-as-you-are. So any big guys out there that may be reading this post and thinking it can’t possibly apply to you because you feel so unloved, it does apply to you and you do deserve happiness.

[doberbutts]

This got really popular suddenly for some reason and it went from ~300 notes to ~3k in about 4 days which is weird but I'm glad it's been resonating with people at least

[totallyfubar]

The reason the work you’ve done on how you feel doesn’t seem like it’s working is because you need to do it until it works. It’s never been “this strategy will pull you up” it’s always been “here’s something you can do that will END with you getting out of that hole” the climbing still hurts and the being underground still hurts but that doesn’t mean it’s not working

[totallyfubar]

*doing laundry* “this doesn’t feel better

*cooking meals* this doesn’t feel better

*exercising* this doesn’t feel better

*making art* this doesn’t feel better

*cleaning the apartment* this doesn’t feel better

*somewhere months or years down the line*

holy shit

[totallyfubar]

tl;dr

[prokopetz]

Just because your house is haunted doesn’t mean the ghosts are causing all the weird shit you’re experiencing. Like, yes, be polite to the restless dead, but also check for carbon monoxide.

[ceekari]

your carbon monoxide detector died and the ghosts are trying to warn you

[mikkeneko]

the ghost of your carbon monoxide detector

[anxietyproblem]

[pwesident]

im going to collapse you like a fucking soufflé

[pwesident]

*shakes you a bit while you’re cooling in your pan*

[coast-modern]