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sauacantdraw

hi tumblr this isn’t based on anyone in particular or any recent events,, just some spiderman fanart ! :)

kayjayo1227

FUCK ICE

pain-isnt--needed

early morning vent post

so, I am chronically ill. scoliosis, causes irritation and pain from the curve in my lower back down to my ankles. the pain can be debilitating. I've had what we deemed "pain paralysis" episode where I couldn't leave whatever bed or couch was cradling me at the time. I've been using crutches to try and cope with the pain by my mother's suggestion. A couple days ago, I did research and I found out that I'm om the wrong mobility aid. Crutches ARE NOT the correct aid for scoliosis, and it turns out I might have been sabotaging myself even harder than I had felt like they were. I told my physical therapist and she agreed with what I wanted: a walker. She is hyperactively aware that crutches will worsen my asymmetry and even shared with me that she's afraid of them doing so. My mother however, refuses to let me use anything other than crutches. I've tried talking, I've told her the crutches are hurting me more than they're helping me but she refuses to listen. She keeps using the excuse that I'm "too dependent" on others because I ask friends to help me to place when I have my backpack (it stifles my swinging bad enough to where it would take me double the time I had of walking normally.) It's infuriating but she refuses to listen to me. This might seem insensitive but I really don't want her deciding for me. I get it, seeing your child in pain because of something that might take years to fix isn't easy on any loving mother. But not listening when that same disabled child is telling you a certain type of mobility aid isn't working any more is the worst choice you can make. I already feel invisible in my family. Growing up, it always seemed like my sister had everyone's favor and I was the problem child. This is just further pushing that on me. Nobody listens and it's especially infuriating from my mother because she keeps using the excuse of wanting me to get better, but acts physically incapable of listening to me when I tell her that her way isn't working. And any medical thing she has just can't excuse this. I'm tired, fading and honestly? Two seconds away from just getting the walker myself and dealing with the fallout I know she's already going to blow up on me with.

any advice or comfort is more than welcome..💜

#i just needed to vent #hope u guys are good #chronic illness #chronic pain #disability #vent post #tw vent #personal vent

comingoutofthecauldron

stop telling your teenage daughters who say they don’t want kids that they’ll change their mind

weirdqueeraltkid-deactivated202

reblog the shit outta this

morriganwarrior

I haven’t been a teenager in over a decade. Mind has yet to change on the subject.

At 14, I told my guidance counselor that I didn’t want kids. He chuckled, patted me on the back, and informed me that when I got a little older, and I was with a guy, I would change my mind.

At 16, my grandmother nearly had a heart attack because of her three granddaughters, myself and the youngest agreed we didn’t want to uave babies. Ever.

At 17, my father asked about my life plan. I told him: graduate high school, get my college degree, do some traveling and writing, go for this particular job I wanted, retired around X age, take month-long vacations to places I wanted to spend time in, etc. He asked, “What about a husband? Children? Normal things a girl is supposed to think about?” My response- a husband if a man came along that could share an adventure with me, kids were a No Go. He assured me I would ‘grow up’ qnd change my mind.

At 19, I shocked my former babysitter who had known me since I was a toddler, when I confirmed the rumour she’d heard that I didn’t want kids. She patted my mom’s arm and reassured her in a sweet voice that, “Don’t worry, girls say a lot of silly things before they meet the right fella, and wise up. She’ll give you grand babies”

At 22, I was talking to a college professor who chuckled at my making a comment about how, “thank goodness I’m never going to have to worry about juggling child rearing eith marriage, work, and life”, then she realized I was serious. She asked if I was alright, thinking I could-not (not didn’t-want) kids. I told her the truth, could have but didn’t want to. She was aghast, then told me that I’d change my mind when my husband wanted some kids.

Well, I’m over 30, still have absolutely no desire to give birth, adopt, raise, or have much of anything to do with children. I don’t hate children, I don’t think people who have them are crazy (more power to you, to create and/or care for another person), and I don’t think it’s impossible to have a life AND have children. I recognized at an early age that I don’t have that biological imperative to procreate, I don’t have the patience to deal with children (something that has shown very little improvement as I’ve gotten older, in fact it might be getting worse), and I don’t feel my life is incomplete without creating another life- I am good with living my own and doing my best to enrich the lives of those I care about (I try my best to be a good friend, to be a good sister, good daughter, good pet-owner, and a good person in general).

So please, please stop telling girls (or really kids at all, but especially girls) that they will change their minds. Please don’t tell them that meeting ‘the right guy’ will make them suddenly feel broody, that their potential future husband’s desire to have children will make her reconsider and see things his way. For one, a couple should have had that conversation and decided if it was a deal breaker, LONG before they got hitched. For another, it’s her body that gets to grow and birth another human being- her husband’s desire to be a father doesn’t supercede her autonomy.

Please, let girls make their own choices? Girls are forced to mature too fast as it is and are bombarded from all sides with SHOULD (you SHOULD be a size 2, you SHOULD wear this dress, you SHOULD have a boyfriend to be a normal teen, you SHOULD always smile), they don’t need another judgement from someone who hasn’t walked a mile in their particular shoes. Respect teenage girls and their ability to look at the world, themselves, their situation, and their future, and make an important choice.

*gets off soap box, slides it back under the sofa, lets out a sigh*

Thanks for attending my TED talk. G'night.

goth-queen

turing-tested

why didnt you call the cops or cps?

how about this: when i was 9 and my stepdad beat me until i passed out and i told my friends at school, my teacher over heard and i was interviewed by cps. they also went to my house when i was at school. when i got home, my step father was waiting on the couch, and told me who visited him that day. he told me if i ever snitched again he would beat me to within an inch of my life.

how about this: my mother locked me out of the house when i was 14 and when i cried so loud the neighbors called the cops, the cop told me i should have been respectful of my mother who was trying to sleep.

how about this. the demon you know is less scary than the demon you don’t.

children in abused households are raised to fear the idea of being taken away. children in abusive households see that help makes things worse.

dont you ever blame an abuse victim for not going to the authorities.

turing-tested

yes this okay to reblog!

autisticharrywells

Also, a lot of abused children don’t realize that they’re being abused or the extent of the abuse. It’s their normal. Their minds are formed by their experiences and if all they’ve known is one existence it can be difficult to recognize that it’s wrong

labelleizzy

It can be difficult to realize that “better” even exists. This is part of why fiction can be life-saving. If you can read stories about happy families, loving families, sometimes you can hang on long enough to find or build a loving family for yourself.