not to sound like a victorian woman suffering from hysteria but i do think going to the sea would fix me
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not to sound like a victorian woman suffering from hysteria but i do think going to the sea would fix me
there’s obviously a lot of nuance to to this conversation, but I feel like the way that people nowadays talk about friendships is so cold and devoid of love or empathy. like you aren’t allowed to complain or be sad, ur burdening ur friends with ur problems, helping someone through a hard time is ‘emotional labour’ and ‘you don’t owe anyone anything’ and I’m just thinking what does friendship even mean to you then? like honestly? people say ‘I’m not your therapist’ as if therapy is the answer to everything. what a sad world where a paid clinician is the only person you’re allowed to be emotionally vulnerable with. this ultra individualistic mindset leads to everyone feeling alone and isolated and we’ve lost all concept of community and support systems
*through gritted teeth* you are not a child taking a test with the purpose of getting the highest score, you are an adult trying new things and finding ways to enjoy your life, make mistakes, be a beginner, be mediocre, be where you need to be, be unlikeable, just. be.
This is the 1989 world tour.
If you’re anything like me, I’m sorry.
But darling, it’s going to be okay.
Taylor Swift
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yo what is up with the dude on the right’s vibe
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"These songs were once about my life. They are now about yours."
— Taylor Swift, 1989
but literally half. moon. eyes. bad. sur. prisedidyou. re. a. lize. out. of. timeshewas. on your mind withsome dick. head. guythatyou saw that night , BUTYOUWEREONSOMETHINGitwas one drink. after. a nother. FUCKin. POLitICS and gender roles and 𝓎𝑜𝓊'𝓇𝑒 𝓃𝑜𝓉 𝓈𝓊𝓇𝑒 and ʍouʞ ʇ,uop ı GOT s w e p t a w a y in the g҉r҉a҉y҉ i just may like to have a conversation
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You’re On Your Own, Kid // Taylor Swift
why am i so obsessed with merthur
what is it about them
WHAT IS IT
(no actually someone tell me)
They have sexual tension from the first second they meet. “Hey. That’s enough.” “What?” … “You can’t speak to me like that.” “Oh, sorry; how long have you been training to be a prat, my lord?”
The sexual tension does not decrease; it very much does the opposite. I don’t know about you guys, but I do not look my friends in the eye for 30 long unblinking seconds, before alternating between meeting their (also long and longing) gaze, and staring at their lips. Perhaps I’m doing friendship wrong?
They banter, they have fun, they mock each other, they pull each other up, they argue, they challenge each other: to summarise, they have an actual multi-dimensional human relationship. Most love interests in media consist of (typically) a man and a woman haphazardly slapped into a couple of scenes together, and they ‘fall in love’ within ten seconds because She Is Hot And Blonde (or alternatively: Brunette And Not Like Other Girls!) and he… has muscles and wears a V-neck shirt? Idk. Anyway, the point is, we don’t normally see a friendship built up so realistically between two characters the way we see it happen between Arthur and Merlin. It feels very real and compelling.
Also, on that note, the actors just are insanely good, and also they have insane on-screen chemistry. I don’t think we would have felt quite the same way about Merthur if it had been a different pair of actors. They really nailed that dynamic.
There’s also the storyline. Very few love stories rival that of BBC Merlin. Kudos to them, lmao. The love story is SO layered and so compelling.
Firstly, we have the “opposites attract”, almost enemy-to-lovers type arc. Merlin is a peasant, and absolutely bursting with magic. Arthur is the prince, and the son of the medieval, magic-hating equivalent of Hitler. It’s a Romeo and Juliet trope — they’re not meant to grow close, but they inevitably do.
Secondly we have the whole destiny thing. The BBC really said “they’re soulmates” and dropped the mic. Two sides of the same coin, “he needs you; and you need him”, both weighed down by the same destiny, both needing the other in order to fulfil what they were born to do—but also, choosing each other, again and again, even if it means forsaking that destiny.
Thirdly, while they come from different classes (peasant vs royalty) they’re actually equals; Merlin is more Arthur’s equal than anyone else in the show, because Merlin has immense magical power (while Arthur has immense political power) and they’re both trying to navigate how to use their powers the right way. They’ve both been born into huge expectation (Merlin as Emrys, Arthur as the future king) and had pressure placed on their shoulders that is often unbearable.
They also just keep trying to die for each other. Peak romance. 11/10
We also have the “you are magic itself, Merlin” and “you were born of magic, Arthur” thing. Another romantic parallel, connecting them.
Also, and I really feel like screaming right now, when it comes down to it, they both want nothing more than to be with each other. Arthur’s private impossible dream is to live a simple life on a farm, where no-one knows who he is, except for Merlin. Merlin wants Arthur alive above all else; he gives up the chance for magic to be allowed in the kingdom, because he wants Arthur to live rather than allowing Mordred to survive and potentially kill him. He thinks he’s failed at the end, when Arthur is dying, but Kilgarrah tells him he hasn’t — and Merlin’s response is “he’s my friend, I can’t lose him”. That’s what really matters to Merlin; not their destiny, not anything else. It is meaningless to him without Arthur there beside him.
On top of all this, the tragedy of their love story is also what makes it so compelling. There are a million ways they could have averted disaster; number one, being honest with each other. But because of who they are, and because Merlin can’t bear to risk Arthur dying, they end up sealing their own fate. (This is actually their mentors’ fault. Gaius, Kilgarrah, Uther, and even Hunith—each of them teach their child/protégée to be fearful, to be secretive, to be distrusting. Merlin would have told Arthur about his magic, if Gaius, his mother and Kilgarrah hadn’t constantly warned him against it. Arthur would have accepted magic much sooner, if he wasn’t trying to live up to his father’s expectations.)
Their characters are also just really compelling, and they match each other really well. Merlin is outgoing, makes friends easily, isn’t afraid to start a street fight at the drop of a hat, talks back to the prince, literally So Feral it’s insane. Arthur — who puts on a macho act about being cocky and confident — is actually touch-starved, feels insecure and inadequate due to decades of daddy issues, and has never really had a genuine friend until Merlin turns up and starts treating him like a human being.
And yeah, just… the writing of the show. It’s romantic AF. The “I haven’t seen you smile these past three days”. The touch-starved prince asking “just hold me, please” as his best friend desperately tries to save him one final time. The romance of Arthur saying “you’re my only friend and I couldn’t bear to lose you”, and giving Merlin the last thing he has of his mother’s. Merlin saying “I do this because you’re my friend, and I don’t want to lose you”, while he tenderly touches Arthur, stroking his brow and hair. Merlin sacrificing whatever it takes, including his principles, if it means keeping Arthur alive.
And then: ARTHUR DIES IN MERLIN’S ARMS. Merlin HOLDS HIM while he DIES. And then he waits A THOUSAND YEARS, ALONE, for Arthur to come back to him. That is A LOVE STORY, a story of enduring yearning. Unparalleled.
"These songs were once about my life. They are now about yours."
— Taylor Swift, 1989
Betty or dorothea? Exile or evermore? This is me trying or champagne problems? Tolerate it or my tears ricochet? Cardigan or willow? The 1 or long story short? Peace or happiness? Seven or ivy? August or tis the damn season? Mirrorball or cowboy like me? Illicit affairs or coney island? Hoax or closure? Mad woman or no body no crime? Epiphany or Marjorie?
One thing I'll admit to being surprised on with this album is the (sort of) anti-marriage messaging. Normally that wouldn't surprise me about anyone - I mean who cares if a woman wants to get married or not!! - but with Taylor, who wrote so much about fairytales and marriage in her previous discography, it honestly does surprise me that it seems that marriage is no longer something she's interested in. Bejeweled video seemed to nail the message home.
i think it's less anti-marriage, and more anti-the expectation that a lot of women modern generations (myself included) struggle with--this idea that, as a woman, you are expected to get married, have babies, etc. and how that often means, even for superstar celebrities, that you are also expected to prioritize that and put your own ambitions and life on hold.
i'm still working through my thoughts on this, but i think paper rings, peace, ttds, champagne problems, and several songs on midnights now, express 1) a deep love for joe that doesn't require marriage, because it's just paper, 2) a bittersweet reflection on how she wasn't able to experience a "normal" traditional life--she chose her own ambition, and now can never have that again because of that ambition/her fame.
we know she feels her childhood was pretty idyllic, and that she longs to return to it (christmas tree farm.) we also know she feels some resentment and fear about whether she can provide anyone in her life normalcy and security (peace, the infamous "no one's going to sign up for this" interview quote, what she said to aaron about the elephant in the room during the long pond sessions.) she feels very proud of her success ("i am a rich man" quote in the yntcd mv) and doesn't want to dim her shine or make herself smaller for anyone ever again (i did something bad.)
the message i'm hearing from her is that marriage isn't the end-all be-all, and tbh i don't think any reasonable fans on here were suggesting it was. it was something she wanted for a long time (in her art) because she thought that was the pinnacle of love and romance, but as she got older, life/reality/ambition/etc. showed her that's not really the case.
so to me she's not someone who doesn't want to get married, it's just not the pinnacle of personal success for her, and she resents the implication that it should be. not only is it deeply offensive to imply that she will only be a real woman (to refer to that vulture piece) or truly "successful" when she becomes a wife and mother... but it's not how taylor sees herself. her ambitions are larger than being a wife and mother.
could marriage and motherhood still be part of her life? i think so. but it's insulting to suggest that her artistic and other personal ambitions should be secondary.
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