I'm just a Girl

I guess this'll be my fitness blog. I'm trying to drop weight and I'm hoping this space will keep me motivated,inspired and also on track to a healthier body/mind and life----- through HEALTHY means. * * * * This is a secondary blog so when I follow back it'll be under the name of my primary blog: let-the-champagne-splash

[aquietcottagelife]

I totally did this today. Happy Sunday y'all!

[madeupmonkeyshit]

[sacredheartpiercingsorrow]

[clterryart]

Day 60.  Easing into the week with some yoga.

[adrefelli]

“Nosotros somos ya la meta de nuestra propia búsqueda.” (en Naiguatá, Vargas, Venezuela)

[crybabydyke-deactivated20180227]

Fat woman: *exists* Man #1: you are disgusting and unfuckable, therefore worthless Man #2: not so fast. she is not totally worthless. I would fuck her #bodyposi #feminism

[iamatinyowl]

Fat woman: *wants to fuck neither of them* Man #2: what th e fucK I just said you weren’t completely worthless you should be fucking grateful I said I would fuck you bc I am extraordinary and a hero for saying it

[karismonza]

Where is the lie?

[childmagazine]

There are people who dislike you because you do not dislike yourself.

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie (via childmagazine)

[homie--sapien-deactivated201605]

[creamorsuga]

stop telling girls with thick thighs that they shouldn’t wear light wash jeans because they’re “unflattering.” stop telling short girls that they shouldn’t wear high-waisted jeans because they make them look shorter. stop telling girls with big thighs to stay away from baggy clothes and boyfriend jeans. stop telling petite girls they can’t wear capris. stop telling telling tall girls to avoid wearing heels so they won’t “intimidate” people. stop telling skinny girls to only wear tops that give them the illusion of having hips. stop telling girls with big boobs to avoid shirts and dresses without a waist. stop telling chubby girls to stay away from patterns and horizontal stripes. stop telling girls with cellulite to wear long shorts. stop telling short girls to wear heels and vertical stripes to make themselves look taller. stop telling pale girls they can’t wear warm colors and stop telling dark girls they can’t wear cool colors. stop telling girls to be ashamed of their body type.

[warmbloodedbutch]

an important piece of advice for future parents:

don’t insult your kid’s weight

don’t insult your kid’s weight

don’t insult your kid’s weight

just don’t even comment on it

your kid is well aware of their weight

just don’t do it

[thisisnotyourhomework]

don’t insult your own weight in front of your kids

don’t insult your partner’s weight in front of your kids

don’t insult anyone’s weight in front of your kids, jesus christ!

(or, you know, just stop insulting people’s weight in general, but like the above are a bare minimum).

[vjwufhs]

my thighs are sooo big but thats ok bc that means more room for my dog to sit on my lap

[bleha-deactivated20161117]

ok literally thats the best thigh positivity post i have read

[garbageurl]

i get so offended when my body decides we’re gonna get sick like i fed you a VEGETABLE last week how DARE you betray me like this. ungrateful 

[adashofdayna]

[adrefelli]

“Arriésgate! No te quedes con las ganas de saber qué pasaría, lánzate, vive, atrévete, que si de los éxitos se disfruta, de los errores se aprende”.

Vive ahora!

[transparentisthis]

[mademeurowns]

[purestsolitude-deactivated20180]

On success

When it comes to success, I think there are a couple of things that are really important. Firstly, your locus of control. Locus of control is defined as follows:

A locus of control orientation is a belief about whether the outcomes of our actions are contingent on what we do (internal control orientation) or on events outside our personal control (external control orientation).

(Zimbardo, 1985)

In life there is only a small percentage of things we have control over. One of the most important things we have control over, is our response to adversity. It is easy to decide that life happens to you, it is just the way things are, and it is never going to change. Fatalism is a trap. This is called an ‘external locus of control’, or a ‘life happens to me’ kind of mentality. This should be your worst enemy. Even when adversity hits, you have control over how you react. If you fail an exam, it is quite possible that you haven’t revised enough. If you have a shit job, it is absolutely up to you to find something else or suffer through it until you do. If you want to be successful, you have to take control of your own fate.

Secondly, self-efficacy is important.

Self-efficacy refers to an individual’s belief in his or her capacity to execute behaviors necessary to produce specific performance attainments. Self-efficacy reflects confidence in the ability to exert control over one’s own motivation, behavior, and social environment. (x)

Self-efficacy is important, because believing you can achieve something is the foundation of success. When it come to mathematics, we fall prey to an ‘I am not a maths person so I will never become good at maths’ mentality. Research suggests that there is no such thing as a maths person, and that maths ability is largely created with hard work, and not innate. The most important thing is to believe you can do something. When you are weighing whether or not you can do something, bias towards the ‘I can’ side of the scale. This gives you more leeway and creates more confidence. When you have people around you with strong self-efficacy, it can also lead to more self-efficacy in yourself. 

And finally, I think it is important to take opportunities. People have their own lives, and a lot of other things to spend time on so don’t be rude and imprudent when someone gives you an opportunity. Take the opportunities that present themselves. Remember the opportunities people gave you once you have your own success. Give on. Don’t ask for help when you are perfectly capable of solving a problem yourself. Try to be as self-sufficient as you can be. Rely on yourself. You are more capable than you think you are.