HER FIRST LOVER
When talking to the wife or gf about becoming a slutwife, there are two general questions that will come up. The first question will generally be, “Why?” Because we have talked about that in a previous post, we will cover second question that generally pops up, “With who?”
As an example, perhaps her getting gang raped by a bunch of thugs in a ghetto who don’t wear condoms is something that gets both of you off and often a topic of roleplay, but odds are she will not be down to making that her first slutwife experience. So for the realistic talk, we are going back to something within the realm of possibilities. She and you may have different expectations on what may work best, so it is important to sort those things out before trying to move forward.
Generally speaking, it will come down to one important factor, do you prefer secrecy or intimacy. Both factors can exist simultaneously given time, but for the first experience may come down to a choice. In other words, would you prefer she have sex with someone you know, or a complete stranger. There are pros and cons to both, and it comes down to personal choices. I have made a list below of possible sexual partners, people you know and strangers, and the pros and cons of each.
Strangers - A stranger could be anyone not currently involved in your life. Some couples prefer strangers because they intend to keep their secret sexual life as far away as possible from the people they know. A stranger that knows nothing about your life can provide a great level of comfort for couples. The idea being that if something did not work out, they would never need to see or hear from the stranger again. The wife can control how much, if any, information is shared with the stranger. Here is a list of strangers a slutwife could hook up with.
1. Stranger in another city - Regardless of who the guy is, the general concept is that the wife has sex with a guy from another city who knows nothing about her. This can be done as a couple or the wife alone. Because the stranger is in another city/state/country, the odds of bumping into each other randomly will be slim to none. This concept works well with slutwife vacations (see post on topic). Downside to the stranger, is not actually knowing much about the person either, so caution and condoms are recommended.
2. Male escort - This concept is about getting a professional to guide your wife through her first experience. This is one of the most preferred methods for beginner couples, since it provides both secrecy and a satisfactory experience. A male escort can be hired to the specifications of the wife’s/couple’s desires, so black, tall, muscular, huge!, good looking, etc along with acting the part to fulfill your fantasies. The main downside to male escorts is that they do cost money and some women may find paying for sex demeaning. Sexual protection is also encouraged.
3. Adult dating site - Adult dating sites are full of horny men looking for a girl to fuck. Normally, they just want the thrill of sex and are not looking for long tern commitments. Any girl posting on adult dating sites will be bombarded with male attention, so finding a willing man will be easy. The downside will be that many of these men may not meet your wife’s sexual criteria for looks, attitude, dick size, etc. so filtering through may take some time.
4. Bar/club hookup - The general concept is that the wife goes out dressed very provocatively and lets a guy she likes hit on her. She may pretend to be single if needed or hooking up on her own, but the basis is that she will be flirty and be easy for the other man. She can also say she is married if you plan on being a part of the action later, but she must make it clear she is very available. When the time comes, she will accept the other man’s advances as he begins feeling her up or talking about sleeping with her. The downside to this scenario is the same as with any stranger, physical and sexual safety. The upside is that she can pretend to be a single girl being a slut and let the scenario play out naturally.
5. Beach hookup - The idea here is for her to go out in a skimpy bikini and flirt with a stranger at the beach. This can be by herself or you watching. This works well for slutwife vacations or spring break, where she can simply become another slutty girl like all the others. Downside is the same as with other scenarios where strangers are involved. Upside is that she can show off her body and have her pick of men to choose from.
6. Swinger club hookup - Swinger clubs and parties are becoming more common and provide a good opportunity for a first time hook up. The stranger part of it comes from going to another city to attend one of these parties or attending a mask/costume swinger parties. Aside from general sexual protection, there is no real downside to this option.
7. The Celebrity - The celebrity is someone your wife has admitted that they would have sex with if you allowed it and he was available. It may seem far fetched, since you are probably thinking that getting Brad Pitt to fuck your wife is near impossible, but think outside the box a bit. How many celebrity guys are there? There are thousands of men she could be into at any given time, from actors, musicians, tv personalities, athletes, etc. if you got your wife comfortable with the idea, how many guys would your wife think are fuck material. As far as the getting her in front of him, VIP tickets, fan mail, fan clubs, groupie clubs, etc are all good options. Think of a rock band going on tour, your wife is alone, dressed slutty, and going backstage with her VIP tickets to meet the band members privately. What are the odds of one of them hitting on her, or if she is daring enough, turning down the offer of a blowjob. We will talk more on the celebrity slutwife experience in the future for more ideas, but this is the general concept.
Someone You Know - The general concept here is simple, she prefers to have sex with someone she or you knows already because of a physical attraction or ab already established level of trust. Some couples prefer this option due to the enhanced level of intimacy and contact already shared, and a belief that this person will look out for your interests as well. In some cases, it is the person’s relationship, position, status, or physical appearance itself can be part of a fetish that the couple seeks, thus enhancing the sexual experience. The general downside, is this person likely knows other people associated with the couple, but that can also be a turn on for some couples. The bigger downside is that once the act is done, no one will ever forget it if later it was decided she does not want to keep going with it.
1. A Friend - There may be a friend she or you already have in mind that fits any given criteria that makes him a perfect sexual partner for her. Because he is already acquainted with you or her, there is a level of intimacy and trust already shared. Some couples find a friend an easier option to digest because of a this. Friends also provide availability and a general care for the well being of the wife. Couples that want a long term sexual relationship with another tend to prefer this option, and even strangers eventually soon fall into this category given enough time.
2. A Relative - There is always at least one person from your family, or hers, that would fuck her in a heartbeat. Odds are either you or her have noticed the guy staring or flirting etc, so you know exactly who that is. In some cases, women have guilty “fantasies” about relatives as well. Relatives could be brother, fathers, stepfathers, uncles, cousins, nephews, etc. This is a very personal and erotic road that often is best left in fantasy, but there are couples that have enjoyed a family affair where the wife has sex with a husband’s relative and it works really well for them. In other cases, it’s a wife’s relative, though that is normally best left in fantasy as well.
3. Coworker - It is a common fetish and fantasy for some couples to think of a coworker as a sexual partner. This is due to many reasons, physical attraction, availability, the thrill of keeping things secret at work, the intimacy that comes from people often spending more time at work than at home, etc. the fetish/fantasy is quite popular. In most cases, women will always have at least one man in her workplace that wants to fuck her and may even flirt with her. In a sense, a coworker already has rapport with her, or you, and some women may find this as an easy option to establish as her first lover.
4. The Boss - Another common fantasy/fetish that couples enjoy. The boss has an implied position of power over her or you. Because of this position, couples often find this option very thrilling. It tends to come with the sane benefits as a coworker, but it is often more rewarding. The boss has influence over her job position, pay, days off, workload, etc. The wife may find this both exciting and beneficial. An alternate version of this is that the wife has sex with the husband’s boss.
5. An Ex - Another common fantasy/fetish that couples often enjoy is the idea of her having sex with an ex. For many, it is easier to digest this idea since he already knows her intimately and has been there and done that. While the ex is really easy to digest as a sexual concept, because there was a relationship, this personal relationship may come with drama. Just use caution and make things clear with the ex regarding the expectations of a sexual relationship with clear boundaries.
6. A Neighbor/Roomate - Another common fantasy/fetish. Physical proximity is the name of the game with this one. This person lives within the physical space thus creating a level of physical intimacy. Some couples find this exciting and very available as an option. A neighbor or roomate will be close to her daily with or without your presence, so many find this proximity and availability very erotic. This generally works really well as long as the person understands that it is all about the sex.
7. Her Crush - Her crush is that guy that she likes or liked at some point but things never came together. It could be any of the previous men already mentioned, or some random guy working at a gas station somewhere, the pool boy, bartender, the plumber, her teacher, personal trainer, etc. or some college/high school crush. The idea is that she will approach him via social media, phone, or in person and confess of her desires for him. She will also hint that she would like to see him for a date to catch up with him. Odds are, he will make a move on her and she will of course let it happen. To avoid problems, she should make it clear that she is looking for a sexual thrill only and not a relationship.
These are some general ideas for you and your wife to think about for a first time slutwife experience, we will cover some of these with more depth in future posts. It is recommended you play through as many of these as possible in fantasy and get a feel of which seem to work best. As always, distinguish fantasy from real life and determine which options work best for you and have fun with it.
I appreciate the likes and reblogs, and comment with your thoughts or any other concepts that you think work well for her first time as a slutwife. Also comment what you would choose for her first time.
ein sehr, sehr guter beitrag! als ich vor dem ersten Mal stand, in meiner ehe, sex mit einem anderen als meinem mann zu haben, hätten wir solche aufklärung gern gehabt. wir hatten keine solche hilfreichen informationen und machten uns selber gedanken, mehr oder minder erfolgreich.
wir hatten uns vieles vorgestellt und dann doch verworfen und dann geschah es völlig unerwartet und ohne planung. ich wurde auf einer party im freundeskreis, von einem mir nur flüchtig bekannten typen angemacht... und ich wurde so heiß... das ich zurück flirtete. vor meinem mann, aber auch unseren freunden und bekannten...
ich bin mir ziemlich sicher, das etliche mitbekamen, dass ich, als wir kurz verschwanden, (3 Zimmer weiter) gefickt wurde! würde ich heute so nicht mehr machen!
ansonsten haben wir bis auf den sex mit dem ex alles ausprobiert. ganz besonders gefallen hat uns, die variante, wenn ich in einer bar/hotelbar angemacht wurde um mein mann zusah, auch wie mit den typen dann auf ihr zimmer ging.
jahre später hatte ich sowohl mit meinem chef (hin und wieder fickt er mich auch jetzt noch im büro) als auch mit dem boss meines mannes sehr viel spaß!
