Sometimes Parents Are Too Nice
So my mom always believed in letting me make my own decisions and learn from my mistakes. Whenever I would mess up, she wouldn’t yell at me, she would just talk about how we could fix it or not make the mistake next time. This worked great for me. (In my opinion.) As a little kid I had lots of problems, maybe I was too young to make my own decisions. But I figured out really quickly what is acceptable and what isn’t, and by the time I was in fifth grade, I pretty much followed all the rules and tried to be nice to everyone.
I also have a little brother. She tried the same tactic with him. The only problem is, different people are different. While I probably would have tried to rebel if my mom had been strict, without punishment, my brother’s behaviors never got corrected. His peers were nicer to him then they were to me, he never changed his behavior for social reasons. He got suspended once, but the problem is, he hated school. That wasn’t a punishment. The result of my parents never disciplining him?
He cries over tiny things, he never listens, he whines and swears and will break down crying over things like chores or if someone plays music. Or if someone turns the x-box off or anything like that. He sits in front of the TV all afternoon and never helps and then acts like he deserves everything he wants. Today, he got a pack of Pokemon he wanted and broke down crying because it didn’t have a Charzar. He swore and tore up the package. And I’m not allowed to yell at him or criticize him at all for any of his bad behavior because if I do, even if it’s just telling him he should work harder on his homework, he cries and then his dad tells me “it’s not your place” and I get in trouble. But apparently, it’s not his place either because he never does anything. It’s infuriating. Any advice?
