What does the word ‘friend’ mean?
Today I had a conversation with my dear friend of 21 years. We have known each other from the age of 4 and have been friends since. We are the kind of friends that can go months without talking/hanging out and pick up right where you left off. This is great for us because I work full time and I am moving away, whereas she is a nursing student looking to buy a house with her boyfriend. So we are definitely busy with our schedules and don’t have a lot of time to just get together and hang out. But when we do, its great. We chat about everything! Boyfriends, girlfriends, future plans, gossip. Its like we haven't just gone 3 months without having a conversation.
Today our hang out took place in the cutest little cafe, and I had my first “London Fog” coffee beverage. She is always introducing me to new things. Needless to say, she clearly makes my life better. Anyways! During our lovely conversation, she mentioned that one of our mutual friends said something rather hurtful to her this weekend. My friend and her boyfriend of 4 years are currently looking into purchasing a home. They are very excited for this as they should be. When you are excited about something, you want to share that with the ones you love. Well, our mutual friend was not having it.
My friend mentioned her exciting news over the weekend, and instead of being happy for her, our mutual friend made a comment like “it seems like everyone can buy a house but us” (she was referring to herself and boyfriend). My friend was very hurt by this because she is so excited for her new adventure with her boyfriend. My friend doesn't understand how someone who calls her they're best friend can’t be happy for her. This mutual friend of ours has been with the same jackass for a couple of years. 1 failed pregnancy, 2 babies, and a half a dozen breakups later, and here we are to this comment that she made.
I guess my whole reasoning for this post is - when does it come a time in your life when you start reevaluating the word “friend”? My friend is a very genuine person who would give you the shirt off her back if you needed it. Our mutual friend on the other hand to 2 faced, fake, and isn't a good friend. When will my friend see that this person is not a girl spend time with because your just wasting it? I guess that's for her to figure out. I’ll just be there to guide her along.
Is it ever okay to end a friendship? Should we be wasting our time with people who are negative influences on our lives? Is it okay to hurt someones feelings just so you can be happy?
