I'm getting bullied by people on discord for not knowing if I'm dating.
Points bright against me: We have been to 4 concerts, an art show, a musical, signed up for a book club together, been out to dinner the two of us twice, met each other's parents, she helped me come out to some close friends of mine, is helping me get on E, have changed in front of her at a thrift store in the last week, has given me a flower, her grandmother teased her when we were leaving from lunch with her to go thrifting and said something like "ahh young love".
Counter arguments: we haven't like held hands or any other obvious physical sign of affection, we are music majors so we go to a lot of music and we got student tickets to everything so it wasn't want super expensive, the most flirty this thing she has said is "that dress is really flattering on you" and called a few things I did cute which I think was just supporting me dress like a girl in public, we've known each other for about 2 weeks (I think we meet like 2 months ago but I was really awkward and we didn't talk much), the play and 2 of the concerts she was already going to and invited me it's not like she trying to coming up with dates, she was picking flowers a walk and gave me one I think that's normal, her grandmother was clearly teasing her so I don't think that counts for anything, she can be a supportive friend helping me get on E and come out to people that doesn't mean relationship.
Anything I do think she's really cool and would love to be dating but I don't think we are, and I'm really scared to ask her out because what if it hurts or ends the best friendship I currently have. Also I got called a lesbian sheep by a friend irl today (the one she helped me come out too)