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shibuya-111

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"Should parents read their daughter's texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?"

Earlier today, I served as the “young woman’s voice” in a panel of local experts at a Girl Scouts speaking event. One question for the panel was something to the effect of, “Should parents read their daughter’s texts or monitor her online activity for bad language and inappropriate content?”

I was surprised when the first panelist answered the question as if it were about cyberbullying. The adult audience nodded sagely as she spoke about the importance of protecting children online.

I reached for the microphone next. I said, “As far as reading your child’s texts or logging into their social media profiles, I would say 99.9% of the time, do not do that.”

Looks of total shock answered me. I actually saw heads jerk back in surprise. Even some of my fellow panelists blinked.

Everyone stared as I explained that going behind a child’s back in such a way severs the bond of trust with the parent. When I said, “This is the most effective way to ensure that your child never tells you anything,” it was like I’d delivered a revelation.

It’s easy to talk about the disconnect between the old and the young, but I don’t think I’d ever been so slapped in the face by the reality of it. It was clear that for most of the parents I spoke to, the idea of such actions as a violation had never occurred to them at all.

It alarms me how quickly adults forget that children are people.

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Apparently people are rediscovering this post somehow and I think that’s pretty cool! Having experienced similar violations of trust in my youth, this is an important issue to me, so I want to add my personal story:

Around age 13, I tried to express to my mother that I thought I might have clinical depression, and she snapped at me “not to joke about things like that.” I stopped telling my mother when I felt depressed.

Around age 15, I caught my mother reading my diary. She confessed that any time she saw me write in my diary, she would sneak into my room and read it, because I only wrote when I was upset. I stopped keeping a diary.

Around age 18, I had an emotional breakdown while on vacation because I didn’t want to go to college. I ended up seeing a therapist for - surprise surprise - depression.

Around age 21, I spoke on this panel with my mother in the audience, and afterwards I mentioned the diary incident to her with respect to this particular Q&A. Her eyes welled up, and she said, “You know I read those because I was worried you were depressed and going to hurt yourself, right?”

TL;DR: When you invade your child’s privacy, you communicate three things:

You do not respect their rights as an individual.

You do not trust them to navigate problems or seek help on their own.

You probably haven’t been listening to them.

Information about almost every issue that you think you have to snoop for can probably be obtained by communicating with and listening to your child.

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Part of me is really excited to see that the original post got 200 notes because holy crap 200 notes, and part of me is really saddened that something so negative has resonated with so many people.

autumngracy

“200 notes”

[SpongeBob Narrator voice] Ten Years Later

commander-ledi

honestly its funny when really long standing fandom is starved of new content, because people start dissecting the source material in really specific ways. not in analytic way, because that was done long ago, but like in "desperately using microscope to try find very last scraps of meat" kind of way.

what i mean is that at some point i saw lotr gif set that was like "frodo + looking to left"

speedlimit15

I like when othwr peoples tags turn my post into a facebook meme your aunt would send you

mysterycat-official

I lowkey hate when programs talk to me in a friendly way. "don't worry, nearly there!" Shut up. It should say "loading 64.3% completed. Do not turn off device" and absolutely nothing else. You arent my friend you are computer. Act like it

sunhatred-deactivated20220531

Do you guys remember how kidnap fantasies were popular on wattpad because young girls and queer teens were both made to feel shame at the thought of their own sexualities, so the fantasy of being kidnapped totally against their will was a way for them to engage with a romantic or sexual fantasy without feeling morally in the wrong for doing so? Added bonus that the fantasy involved being whisked away from repressive environments like home or school, right?

Finding out that Bram Stoker was in a sexless marriage and that scholars believe that he very likely was closeted gay puts the entire book into perspective as to WHY it reads EXACTLY like a self insert wattpad Dracula kidnap fic:

"I TOTALLY love my wife and would never do anything that an upstanding Good Straight Working Man wouldn't do but oh nooo, big strong man with broad back and strong enough arms to carry me back to bed like a princess trapped me and claimed me as his, completely against my will 👉👈 But he protects me against the bad evil sexual women (who I assure you, I am TOTALLY sexually attracted to, as any straight man with a choice would be) but trust me, I do NOT want ANY of this. What's that? The Count is not capable of feeling love? Would be a shame if I had the special ability to change tha-"

ardatli

This is also the fantasy behind all those old bodice-ripper romances that people today like to mock or call problematic, by the way.

"Oh, my next forty years are going to consist of nothing but washing dishes and keeping house and bearing children for the disdainful man I married right out of high school because my parents said college was for men and I had no other obvious life path open to me? What if a pirate captain thought I was worth stealing away from it all? [what if I ran away but no-one could blame me for leaving]?"

wykart

what do you mean my disability disables my abilities? what the fuck

shoesofthefishermanswife

dc is so funny bc they were like: “ah yes the year is 1989 and the cca has just removed their rules against homosexual content. let’s like immediately make sure the amazons are gay for each other bc duh it’s the amazons” and then people were like “well what does this mean for wonder woman?” and dc was like “hmm… i’ll get back to you on that…” and then 25 years later they were like “okay Fine… 🙄😒 she’s bisexual. now let’s never acknowledge this in anything ever again.”

shamebats

Post by @ jalentgunter (he/him).

dancinbutterfly

Goals. Inspiration even.

unicouniuni

Uni.

christopher575

HEY LADIES … … … … … … … DID YOU KNOW UHHHHHHHHH

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batshit-auspol

Triple J's holding an Australian Music Hottest 100, lets gooooooo

https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/countdown/hottest100

batshit-auspol

If we as a nation don't pull together to put the silliest possible song on top then we are lost as a country

batshit-auspol

Some context for overseas followers: In Australia we effectively have three government funded broadcasters (kinda like the BBC).

We have SBS - the multicultural broadcaster - which is best known for broadcasting free-to-air porn every night before the internet became a thing. We have the ABC, which is largely a mix of BBC re-runs for Boomers and kids TV shows like Bluey (yes that Bluey) and Round The Twist - a kids show where one of the characters wins a swimming competition by spinning his dick like a propellor.

And finally, we have the radio station Triple J - the ABC's little brother with the government remit of making anyone over the age of 30 very angry.

Triple J is best known for using its government funding to get up to the most ridiculous shit it can think of, including events such as Requestival, a day where they let the public decide their entire playlist during COVID, leading to the station to air tracks ranging from "Adam Sandler - Somebody Kill Me", "The Wii Channel Theme", and "Music From The Motion Picture Association Against Copyright Theft Advertisement 'You Wouldn't Steal A Car'".

When not being downright tomfoolish, Triple J is also known for having an almost olympic level track record for unearthing new musicians, having discovered and supported acts like Lorde, Gotye, The Kid Laroi, Tyler The Creator, and even Billie Eilish when they were still fledgling baby artists that nobody had heard of.

(They're also responsible for making Dance Monkey a thing though, so swings and roundabouts).

On top of these hyjinx, every year Triple J holds a national poll that is effectively the closest thing this country has to a state religion. Unlike the less important national votes we hold every four years to decide which tosspots will be running the country, Triple J's Hottest 100 is considered the peak of democracy in Australia, amassing millions of votes annualy to decide on the greatest song of the last 12 months.

(To prove we're not joking: even the Prime Minister posted his votes to Facebook this year, and somewhat over-optimistically tagged Billie Eilish)

Once all the votes are in, a vast majority of the country tunes-in to hear the results on an annual public holiday. (A vast majority of the country also get angry at the results - to the point that "You're kidding, shoulda been higher" has become something of a national catchphrase.)

Previous performers to place in the poll include:

Denis Leary's Asshole, voted #1 in 1993

Premier Dan Andrews, when his speech about not going out to buy beer during lockdowns was remixed into a club dance track and landed at #12 in 2020, and

The Wiggles covering Tame Impala, which was voted to #1 in 2021

In recent years there's been a lot of dismay because the introduction of Spotify has effectively killed the Australian music industry, meaning the Hottest 100 has been getting dominated by American musicians, as well as killing off traditional radio stations like Triple J.

This poll is one last fighting chance for us to see some Australians actually chart for a change.

So chuck your votes in and give some Aussie musos some love, whether that's fellow tumblerite Troye Sivan, Tom "Have You Checked Your Butthole" Cardy, or some small niche indie artist like AC/DC.

Good news for the Americans is you're all allowed to vote too. Just please don't fuck up this democracy as much as you've fucked up your own: https://www.abc.net.au/triplej/countdown/hottest100

applejee

100% my favourite part of the d&d movie was that holga had pit hair. i zoomed the fuck in on that. YES your female barbarian has armpit hair YES she does YES you fucking get it, yes this makes her a million times hotter. good fucking lord

applejee

visual for those who missed it or need something to inspire them to watch this movie

mikkeneko

i saw this movie and never noticed but GOOD FOR HER GOOD FOR HER fuck the stigma that women HAVE to have shaved armpits ffs she was a badass bitch it was really refreshing to have a platonic m/f pair where the woman was the muscle and the man either had to be saved by her or watch her do the fighting maybe take down one guy while she took down 20 and she didn't feel like 'ooooh girlboss female empowerment for the win' her strength felt natural it was nice fucking loved her dynamic with chris pine's character - by @scarletbirbs

changelingfangs

Also, please check out her tattoos! They're clearly based on that one Scythian mummy we found!!!

(I spent the whole movie ogling them because !!!!! HISTORICALLY BASED TATTOOS!!!)

ruffboi-mags

(we've found multiple scythian mummies with tattoos in that style actually! I can think of four, including the one you're likely thinking of. :D)

if-i-could-fly-h0me

Edgin and Holga having NO romantic/sexual angle AT ALL despite living together and literally raising a chila healed something in me I didn't know needed healing

sometiktoksarevalid

titillatingalienmagazine

Too many alphabets

siobhanblank-deactivated2019011

been watching livestreams of US news channels lately and

1) they have a LOT of commercial breaks

2) i didn’t realize that ads for medicine were actually like this

siobhanblank-deactivated2019011

ppl keep reblogging this and asking “well what are the medicine ads like in your country” and like…there aren’t any? It’s literally illegal to advertise prescription medicine here?

jheselbraum

All of America: God I wish that were me

titillatingalienmagazine

Yeah that tripped me the fuck out in Florida when I visited in 2010.... mental. Also how you say Hyundai and Nissan(compared to many Australians)

marauders4evr

Abled Person: Hey man, can you hold this wad of $2,000 and this one penny for me while I open my wallet?

Disabled Person: YOU COMPLETE AND UTTER FOOL!

The United States Government:

(Watch how many people don’t get this.)

marauders4evr

#raises hand #i dont understand #please explain?

In order for disabled people to receive any sort of financial assistant for their housing, food, bills, medical supplies, etc., they cannot ever have more than $2,000 of resources to their name. Ever.

It doesn’t matter what it’s for.

You’re saving up for a new wheelchair?

For college?

To put a downpayment on a house?

Hell man, you just happen to budget for once in your life so that you can have some extra money in case something bad happens?

Your benefits immediately get cut off if you’re a cent over $2,000.

And, even worse, you usually end up having to pay back every dollar the government gave you that month.

So say you get $400. If they find out you’re twenty dollars over the resource limit, you have to give them all $400 back and you undergo an investigation of your funds to see if you will continue getting money.

“What if I spend the money that day?”

Doesn’t matter. In fact, from what I can tell, people who do this are actually put under investigation for fraud.

And yes, this system literally kills people.

locuas642

Remember when “Guardians of the Galaxy” came out? one of Rocket Racoon’s creators, Bill Mantlo, suffered an accident in 1992 and has irreparable brain damage.

before the movie came out, Marvel gave him an exclusive preview screening. SOme people were upset because they felt if Marvel was really wanted to thank mantlo, they should have donated money to Mantlo’s family.

Bill Mantlo’s brother had to come out and explain: If Marvel gave them monetary aid, Bill Mantlo would lose his financial assistance.

rootbeergoddess

That’s so utterly depressing.

sushinfood

disgusting

beeskeepony

I have friends on welfare who won’t pick up a penny in the street because they’d risk the welfare they struggled to get for 10 years.

raenboow

oh look another fucked up thing in this world. let’s just add it to the list. number 63858b

luvtonique

My brother has been on California State SSI for autism for the last 10 years, and he absolutely has to (no joke, HAS TO) spend all 720 bucks of his SSI every month, because if he puts it in the bank he risks losing his SSI altogether.

Sometimes, at the end of the month, he has no idea what to do with his money because the whole month went by and he still has 400-ish bucks in his account, and he fucking panics because he doesn’t want to get anywhere near 2,000.

And here’s the funnest part of the story!

One day he did a huge commission on Second Life and wound up earning 1500 bucks off of it, and he told the guy to donate it 500 bucks at a time over 3 months. The guy didn’t want to, and just donated all 1500, which put my brother at 2,036 bucks.

The state IMMEDIATELY (I’m talking less than an hour) called him up to tell him over the phone that they were canceling his SSI, because they noticed he had gone over the 2,000 buck threshold. He had to tell them that someone had made a charitable donation to him and that this was not a common occurrence in any way shape or form, and upon not believing him, my mother had to call to talk to them as his legal caretaker and say basically the same thing until they called off the cancellation of his SSI money.

He also had to cancel his renter’s assistance because it put him to 1,062 a month, so if he went 30 days without spending any money they’d cancel his SSI altogether. Like, none of us in the family have any fucking clue why that regulation is in place and it’s the stupidest shit in human history.

Please, legal side of Tumblr, tell me what positive reasoning this law has?

sodomymcscurvylegs

Happy 4th of July everyone! This is what the “nation of opportunity” looks like.

xfirecorex

There’s something called an ABLE account that can help. If you are on SSI and were diagnosed as disabled before the age of 26 you can apply for an ABLE account that will allow you to save up to $99,000. More people need to know about this!

strawbebbynya

thank you so much for this information. i’m applying for an abled account right now

viostormcaller

THERES A WHAT

OH GOD BLESS THE SHIT OUTTA YOU YOU HAVE NO IDEA HOW FREAKED OUT OVER THIS I WAS

septic-dr-schneep

I’ve been looking into SSI; I had no idea about this!

perksofbeingdisabled

Read till the end for the important info

whatevercomestomymind

Reblog to literally save a disabled person’s life

siriuslypotty

This is too fucked up for words, please reblog and save lives

ailurinae

There was movement this year (2022) (previous posts were 2020 and earlier) to raise the limit to $10,000. However it just recently failed to get in the year end omnibus spending bill, so it’s not clear when/if it will be looked at again. Also according to the article, Ron Wyden didn’t want it in the retirement bill… he’s my senator, and generally good (especially he can be relied on for tech stuff), but I am going have some words for him about this.

A bill to change Supplemental Security Income’s strict asset limit had bipartisan support, but not enough to become law.

beowulf22121

We need to push for this to be a thing.

Do you know how many on the fence voterswould stop voting for facists if democrats could put something like this to their name?

shoresoftheshadowlands

Begging everyone to please please please watch this Last Week Tonight episode about Disability Benefits and to get the full scoop on how fucked people like me are.

Things I learned from this video:

-the reason my total asset cap is $2,000 is because congress is a bunch of fuckasses who haven’t raised the limit in DECADES to go with inflation.

-It should be, if it was accurate to today’s currency value and inflation, $10,000

titillatingalienmagazine

Semi serious, semi joking can you withdraw any of it as cash and hide it? Alternatively need a trusted friend you pay for fucking cleaning or something and they come and hang out for 5 hrs and they earn a brilliant rate and big tip and just hang onto that shit in an account in their name I say Friend because family is too traceable and you can't have a committed life partner for many of these services (even in Australia) because if you fuck they should have to support you.

I dunno it's nearly as fucked up in Australia