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[the-new-path-blog]

How do I know if my cat has been accepted?

Normally we can put the cats up pretty quickly, but if you unsure you can always ask us to tell you when its up if it helps or just shoot us a message here. 

Lately though I was sick and really tired so I haven’t been able to do any of the cat icons yet. I also got a new computer which doesn’t have the stuff to do the icons right now. 

[tswatch]

It's Leaf again. I'm doing better, but I have another problem I don't know what to do about. My dad really wants to take me to see the Star Wars movie, but I'm afraid that the loudness of the theater might make my tinnitus worse. I'm ok now but if it got worse I don't know if I could handle it. I am even thinking of hurting myself or making myself sick so I won't have to go, I'm that afraid. If I just tell him I am afraid to go he will be upset with me and try and convince me to go anyway. -Leaf

And I know it’s really important to him so I feel really guilty about it. I just don’t want to take any chances because I don’t want to go back to feeling like I have to kill myself. -Leaf

Hi Leaf, sorry for the late response!

I’m glad to hear that you are doing better :)

I know you sent this message in a few days ago, so is there any update on the situation? Did you end up going to see the Star Wars movie, or did you talk to your dad about how you’re feeling? Please, whatever you do, don’t hurt yourself just so you won’t have to go. It’s not worth it. There are other less harmful ways to deal with this situation, so let’s brainstorm some ideas together!

What about telling your dad you don’t really like the movies and that you’d prefer to watch it at home when it comes out? Does your dad know about your tinnitus? Can you do some research and show him that movie theaters can make tinnitus worse, and explain to him that you really want to go but because of that you can’t? Maybe that way he will realize it isn’t personal.

What about wearing a pair of earphones: I read that that can help dull the noise but you’ll still be able to hear what is going on.

Here are some links I think can help you:

http://www.tinnitustalk.com/threads/going-to-the-theatre-movies.1046/

http://www.icanlivewithmytinnitus.com/?p=131

http://tinnitussupport92262.yuku.com/topic/11868/The-cinema-and-tinnitus#.Von0t1J4wQ0

Please keep me updated!

<3 Jen

[tswatch]

I just found out that one of my friends also has tinnitus, and has had it for years. I don't know if theirs is better or worse than mine, but it makes me feel weak that I'm suicidal over mine when they are perfectly happy and productive. -Leaf

I’m really sorry but my tinnitus is just getting worse every day, I’ve been to 4 doctors and a psychologist and no one knows how to help me. Even my friend agrees they wouldn’t be able to live with it. I plan on killing myself soon. I’m so scared, I don’t want to die, but I can’t live like this, I just want it to go away -Leaf

Hi love, sorry for the late response!

You’re not weak for being suicidal over your tinnitus, I promise. Your friend may see perfectly happy and productive, but behind closed doors they may struggle as well. I think you should talk to them about this more in depth. It might help you to talk to someone who understands what you’re going through. Maybe together you can brainstorm things you can do / try to make it better? Two brains are better than one, after all!

The four doctors that you’ve been to, what kind of doctors have they been? Have you seen an otolaryngologist? They specialize in eyes, ears, and throat disorders and may be able to help you more than a general doctor.

Have you ever considered joining a chronic illness support group? There are many people out there who struggle with a chronic illness. Maybe you could find some support / advice from them!

Please don’t give up hope yet, love. There may still be a solution out there that we just haven’t figured out yet. You have no idea what doors may be opening in the near future. Or maybe your tinnitus will resolve itself, you never know. What if your tinnitus goes away in a few months, but you kill yourself before that can happen? As long as you are alive there is hope, and as along as you are alive things can get better.

❤️ Jen

[tswatch]

I really have no idea what causes my tinnitus to get worse sometimes, it just seems to happen but it goes back to normal after a while. I have been seeing a therapist for 2 months now and we're trying biofeedback to see if it helps but so far I haven't noticed any difference. I just feel like I get no break anymore. I just want a break. And it seems like I won't get one until I die. -Leaf

Hi love, sorry for the late response!

I think it might help you if you start keeping a log of your tinnitus. Like a notebook or a journal, and write down the details of each tinnitus episode, including the start time, how long it lasts, what you were doing when it started, anything that helps it go away, etc. This might help you recognize patterns, which is a step towards learning how to prevent this altogether!

I’m actually not familiar with biofeedback. Do you mind telling me a bit more about it? I’d love to hear about it!

Have you also been talking to your therapist about your suicidal feelings? If not, I really think you should. It’s important to talk about these kinds of things instead of keeping them inside.

<3 Jen

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do ya'll have a resource tag? thank you! have a wonderful day.

We do! I try to make sure to tag any posts I think might be helpful for our followers or anyone looking at our blog with “Resource” and I assume the other mods try to do the same. I’ll also be setting up a tag list and glossary on our blog soon.

-Leaf

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Blog is probably going to be a lot more active with the new mods! I'm going to add one, maybe two more and then see how it goes.

-Leaf