#apl spec

[dippythestick]

A-spec music

🏹 ♠️ 🍏

Aromantic 🏹

Aromantic Moodboard - Maxwell Anthony

Love Impaired - Dinosaur 94

luv is stooopid -renforshort

despair - leo.

I Could Never Fall in Love With You - Tub Ring

Let Me Fall in Love - Broken at Best

Oh No! - Marina and The Diamonds

Falling Behind - Laufey

Never Been In Love - Will Jay

You Can Make Me Want You - Suzi Quatro

Zero Feelings - Zoe Clark

Pls Cheat On Me - Precious Pepala

Don't Fall In Love - Danko Jones

Love Love Love - Of Monsters and Men

Anti-Romantic - Tomorrow X Together

Romance Is Boring - Los Campesinos!

Best Friend - Rex Orange County

Blueberry Pancakes - Feelrs

Kissaphobic - Make Out Monday

No Lover - Jetty Bones

Crush Culture - Conan Gray

I Don't Want Love - The Antlers

A Diamond and a Tether - Death Cab for Cutie

Too Sweet - Hozier

i think i wanna be alone - mazie

Aromantic - Mike Fonzarelli Roberts

Pretend Love - The Avett Brothers

Twist the Knife - The Handsome Devil

Love Bugs - Harley Poe

Fine, Great - Modern Baseball

I Love You Like An Alcoholic - The Taxpayers

Against the Kitchen Floor - Will Wood

Misanthropic Drunken Loner - Days N Daze

Asexual ♠️

It's Only Sex - Car Seat Headrest

D&D + Asexuality - Skull Puppies

Asexual Love - Lily Summer

Sugar In My Coffee - The Narcissistic Cookbook

We'll Never Have Sex - Leith Ross

I Don't Want a Nuclear Family - SHARP/SHOCK

Sex Yeah - Marina and The Diamonds

Misanthropic Drunken Loner - Days N Daze

Aplatonic 🍏

No Friends - CADMIUM, Rosendale

Lonely Dance - Set It Off

Oh No! - Marina and The Diamonds

Waterloo Sunset - The Kinks

People I Don't Like - UPSAHL

We Don't Have to Dance - Andy Black

Lonely Vampire - Weathers

Alone And Sublime - Mother Mother

You're Standing on My Neck - Splendora

Misanthropic Drunken Loner - Days N Daze

[justagaymoth]

When someone says “you're my best friend” or “you're my bestest friend” it feels the same as when a partner says “you're mine” for the first time it feels the same

The more they say “you're my best friend” the more it means

I say “You’re my best friend” and they say “you're so sweet” it feels like the same as “Im not into you, let's just say friends okay”

There is good and bad to feeling love to deep to the point there is in most cases no difference between how I feel about my close friends and how I feel about someone I'm dating

I know that telling them how I feel most of the time will get me hurt or get them hurt and I love them too much for that

I have found ways to tell them the intensity of my affection without telling them that in my mind no form of affection is strictly platonic or romantic

The only form of love that has limits is familial (duh)

I don't even think I feel platonic attraction anymore because the friends I'm repulsed by the thought of kissing or sex with are the friends who are like siblings to me

[green-enby]

Before Pride month ends, I wanna give a special thanks to aplatonic people.

Aplatonic activism and instances changed me and affect me positively to an enormous degree, as an alloplatonic neurodivergent and mentally ill aroace.

They empowered me to enjoy my own company, knowing I don't need friends either to be happy; I can be content with myself. They made me see the value in loneliness. Considering socializing drains me fast, so I tend to stay alone in my room a lot, this is very relevant to me.

They made me look inward, noticing my internal narration is actually possibly the best company I could ask for 90% of the time (when depression doesn't turn it into literal hell). No other person on the planet would understand me better than myself. Nobody shares 100% of my values. No one person shares all of my interests. When I have a healthy dose of self-confidence, I actually laugh at my own wittiness and think that no single friend's humour caters to my taste nearly as well. It would feel frustrating and self-absorbed if aplatonism existing didn't make me realize it's okay to not place friends above yourself.

They taught me to be independent. That's still a work in progress but if I hadn't learned about aplatonism, I'd probably obsess over my best friends way worse than I already do.

It also taught me another level of consent. I have yet to meet an aplatonic person irl (at least as far as I know), but the idea that even placing a label like "friend" on someone without consent could be wrong makes me feel both safer myself (I've gotten a taste of it when my ex QPP broke up with me and asked if we could still be best friends. Wtf we were never best friends dude, just friends, that felt almost dirty), and probably makes people around me feel safer too. Since I'm friendship favourable it actually makes me experience my friendships more respectfully and thoughtfully so they come out healthier.

I don't mean to make it all about myself here—aplatonic people already get the shortest end of the stick when it comes to a-spec visibility and general attitudes towards them, so it's not in such good taste to bring the focus on me and my alloplatonism—but maybe some other alloplatonic people can come across this and be inspired to deconstruct their own platonormativity.

Aplatonic advocacy helps literally everyone I swear. Aro advocacy falls short in some places by too often shifting the focus on platonic bonds as a "replacement" for the "missing" romance. Understanding aplatonism directly contributed to actually *fully* deconstructing amatonormativity without just recycling the same rhetoric.

I've already posted a similar appreciation post about loveless people so I'm not gonna repeat it this year but yeah, shout out to loveless folks as well, y'all rock.

[inhumanliquid]

All fictional characters are on the aplatonic spectrum because nobody ever explicitly states otherwise. That's the great thing about aplatonicism being a spectrum.

[cassie-444]

Dragonplatonic - When one experiences platonic attraction similar to that of a dragon. A dragonplatonic person may be able to have a friendship with someone (who they are usually picky about), then leave for a long period of time, only to pick back up later as if no time has passed. This does not come from malice or forgetfulness: the dragonplatonic person remembers their friend and will come back to see them again later. Platonic relationships of this kind are characterized by the periods of inactivity between.

This may be related to otherkinity/draconity, but is not necessary. Anyone can use the label.

(this flag and term are a gift for my headmate maxi; but if a similar term has been coined, consider this an alt flag)

[isobug]

General Aplatonic / Apl symbols

Made for fun, in no way am I claiming this is "official" or that anyone has to use it or anything. I just had a lot of fun making my Poison Apl symbol and I wanted to do something else with the format!

Anyone on the Aplatonic spectrum / who is Aplspec in any way can use ( and is included ) in these!

These incorporate multiple Aplatonic / Apl symbols! Bees, blue roses, and apples. The color of the apples / rose are the colors of this Apl flag, while the bee is the colors of the second Apl flag here. I wanted to represent both color schemes because I personally use both flags, and I wanted it to be inclusive of all Apls regardless of flag preference.

I gave the blue rose thorns, as a way of reclaiming stereotypes about Apls being "distant" ( a rose creates distance between itself and others with it's thorns ) because of their Aplatonicism ( especially Nonfriending and Nonpartnering Apls ) or "thorny/mean" for not wanting casual friendships / being friendship repulsed / to randomly be called "friend" / any friendships or friends / not wanting or experiencing "love" in general, especially "platonic love"

I know some prefer yellow apples while others prefer a green apples ( especially aplaros / aroapls ) so I made two versions! Use whichever you want, or use both at the same time!

Here's the Apl bee by itself because it's cute:

Free to be used anywhere by anyone as always! If there are any typos or discrepancies please kindly let me know ( I'm editing this on low sleep, sorry! )

Taglist - @radiomogai, @daybreakthing, @aroapl

[mellow-queer]

Aliquaplatonic 🕷️

An individual who only feels platonic attraction under very specific circumstances. They might form platonic attraction in those circumstances and continue to experience it, or only feel platonic attraction under specific circumstances, in which case the attraction fades once those circumstance are no longer met

Apresplatonic 🕷️

An individual who only feels platonic attraction after another type of attraction is felt, for example, someone who only feels platonic attraction towards people for which they feel romantic or sexual attraction. The initial attraction might fade once platonic attraction is felt, but not necessarily

[aromantichc]

Todays aromantic character is....

Izutsumi (Dungeon Meshi) !

Anon headcanons Izutsumi as aromantic, asexual, and aplatonic !!

PT: Izutsumi (Dungeon Meshi) ! /end PT