I think we as a society need to take into consideration the role that skinny privilege plays in conceptions of androgyny
If you think about archetypical 'androgynous' figures i.e. David Bowie, Tilda Swinton, pretty much every non-binary character in every piece of media, it's always a tall, skinny, short-haired (and disproportionately white) person.
I feel like it's something to do with larger/curvier bodies being considered more feminine, or weak, or both - fatness as an indicator of 'unfitness' or womanhood. It's a little depressing that in a cultural sense 'true' androgyny is something afforded only to specific bodies.
I think there's also something to be said about the transmasc experience here too - when fatness and curves are so tied to femininity it makes it so hard to detangle whether you're dysphoric or insecure, or if youre embracing your body or your femininity - because in many ways those two things are one
And it certainly doesn't help that while plus-size fashion for women is already sparse and depressing, the male equivalent is truly abysmal so there's really nowhere you can hide