I think my girlfriend is a demigirl, how can I help her? I’m a trans boy so I can relate more than a cis guy but it’s still a different experience. :)
Oh, this is such an interesting question! Let me list some things to the best of my ability. None of these are meant to be taken as accusatory, okay?
First of all, don’t call a demigirl “basically a girl.” We are nonbinary and should be treated as such. We just feel a partial connection to the identity of woman/girl.
There is also no particular way a demigirl expresses themselves. Some of us are more masculine. Some are more feminine. We can also use different pronouns.
The demigirl gender is often used in exosexist jokes. We’re often considered a “white girl special snowflake gender” or “transtrenders.” This is not the case. I, myself, have identified as a demigirl for over 4 years now. I never felt right being lumped in with girls. That being said, not everyone is as aware of their gender and may need more time exploring it, or it may take them longer to settle on a term. That is totally okay, and that doesn’t make their gender invalid.
Because of the above, your friend may doubt herself a lot. It’s normal to explore gender and question it, but she may wonder if her gender is even real, or if she’s doing it for attention... comfort and assure her that demigirl is a valid gender!
If she is dysphoric, find out what things make her less dysphoric. Is it wearing a particular type of clothing, whether it’s a lacy camisole, a baggy hoodie, or a graphic t-shirt? Is it being complimented on her height? Is it being called by a chosen name? This, of course, may depend on how she likes to present, but it might be good for days that are a little rough.
Of course, don’t out her without her permission first!
That’s all I can think of for now. Followers, do you have any ideas?
