Xaderphiromantic and xaderphisexual: when you're in love with your cousin
I think we should have a word for this, but it seems no one has coined one yet.
When I started to think I was in love with my cousin, I wanted to read about romantic relationships between cousins in an attempt to convince myself that this was wrong. However, I found the Wikipedia article on cousin marriage, and the more I read about it, the more I became convinced that it was a perfectly valid feeling.
I live in a country where marriage between first cousins is legal, but it is heavily stigmatized. They make fun of people who talk romantically about their cousins, saying that they are "norteños" (from the North, a stereotype just like the Alabama jokes in the U.S.).
It seems hard to find an online community of people who are attracted to their cousin, other than the now-defunct website CousinCouples.com (which had some really good info and tips for sharing your feelings with a cousin), unless we have a concise word to describe this feeling.
Although "genetic sexual attraction" may be related to this, it is too general, and "cousincest" just sounds wrong (if you google this word, you get many NSFW results). Love between cousins is not incest, and it is widely accepted in many cultures.
So, using the Modern Greek word ξαδέρφι (xaderfi, a generic term for all cousins), I came up with xaderphiromantic for someone who experiences romantic attraction (exclusive or not) to their cousin. Similarly, xaderphisexual is someone who is sexually attracted to a cousin.
