self-shippers whose f/o’s are upbeat and confident and who, themselves, have low-self esteem, low energy, and chronic pain:
imagine your f/o’s demeanor helping you out with the problems you have!
where your low self-esteem is concerned, it’s very easy to get trapped in a cycle of thinking poorly about yourself, but seeing your f/o feel so comfortable with and sure of themselves impresses you and gives you an example to follow.
as positively as your f/o tends to talk about themself, they go out of their way to remind you of your strengths and tell you you’re great, too!
as for your low energy, your f/o is very mindful of that and makes sure not to overwhelm you with their own energy, but maybe you find that seeing them energetic and happy rubs off on you!
and regardless of that, your f/o learns to recognize the signs of you beginning to crash, energy-wise, and whatever helps when you’re this tired, they’ll be ready to help.
and as for your chronic pain, your f/o helps you during flare-ups by sitting you down and getting you medicine and a heat pack. again, their energy is never overwhelming during these times.
seeing your f/o being their typical upbeat self is helpful during these times. while it doesn’t necessarily fix whatever’s going on, you find their attitude comforting and reassuring.
if your f/o has ever had issues similar to yours but overcome them, maybe they talk to you about that and they give you advice!
