What Does Love Look Like?
When I was a kid, I always wondered what Love looked like. I asked my brother, "What does Love look like?" And, like a typical hormone-enraged Teenager, he answered, "Love looks like the cover page of dad's magazines hidden under the bed." Apparently, Love has a long hair, bouncy boobs, flat tummy, and long skinny legs. I didn't believe him, because I was supposed to be a girl. So I asked our nanny, "What does Love look like?" She was watching a telenovela when she answered, "Love has tantalizing eyes, a chiselled jaw, and six-pack abs... Oh, those abs!" I didn't believe her either. So, for a long time, through grade school and high school, I looked for what Love really looked like. I didn't find him or her. I didn't even know if I was looking for a him or a her.
Then, college came. My world stopped. I know it's a cliche. But it did. She IS Love! She had drooping sad beautiful eyes, voluptuous red lips, and a magnetic personality. I loved this Love for quite a long time. My world revolved around this Love. My world IS Love. But shit happened and so we parted ways. Then I realized she wasn't really Love. She was the IDEAL love.
What I didn't know, until recently, is that Love wears braces because her teeth are so small and are far apart. She has big round eyes, bushy eyebrows, a not-so-large-nose, and voluptuous lips. My god, those lips! Love gets angry when you tickle her. She cries when you wake her up. Love likes going to beaches. She’s absolutely addicted to thrift stores. She loves spicy food. Love's touches make my heart somersault inside my chest. Love's hugs calm my anxiety-induced palpitations. Her voice soothes the loud negative voices inside my head. Heck! Her presence calms the nervous wreck that I am! I didn't know Love was her. I didn't even know Love would fall in love with someone else no matter how hard I tried.
But, maybe Love was here all along. Maybe Love was the small girl asking her brother and nanny what Love looked like. Maybe she was the person who fell head over heels in love with the perfect college girl. Maybe she was the anxious person who thought she needed someone else to calm herself. Maybe Love wore glasses most of time. Maybe Love was a writer writing letters, poems, and stories for everyone but herself. Maybe I was Love all along. Maybe I have to learn how to love myself first to become Love. Maybe I have to accept that I am Love too to be loved by Love back.