This may seem like a no-brainer, but it has to be said. We've heard many stories where a couple is going through a challenging time and there are voices surrounding either the husband or the wife that urge them to abandon their marriage. In most cases (those aside from abusive or dangerous situations), the couple is best served and most loved by being urged to fight for their marriage and contend for their spouse. Don't be shy about asking your friends and family to help you fight for your marriage. Here are a few practical things you can ask them for regarding your marriage. 1) Remind me to look to Jesus for my ultimate joy, peace, and hope during this hard time. 2) Always keep divorce OFF the table. It's not helpful if you tell me to abandon my spouse (again, unless it's a dangerous or abusive situation). 3) Never bash my husband/wife, even if I'm angry. Just listen. 4) Help me diffuse my frustration instead of fueling the fire. 5) Remind me to love with grace and that I shouldn't expect my husband/wife to be perfect. If you have friends in your life who encourage you, you're extremely blessed! Feel free to tag them below and thank them for their tireless support. If you have friends who tend to quickly urge you to forsake your covenant in times of crisis, be bold in asking them to fight for your marriage with your entire lifetime in view. True friends help you gain perspective that is eternal and life-giving. False friends do the opposite. Cultivate friendships that do the former. Hope it helps! Stay fierce, Ryan & Selena #twoasone #fiercefriends
