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TRUTH: Forgive yourself for what you didn’t know back then

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[narcsurvivor]

Even though I was employed throughout our entire relationship, financial abuse and a complete lack of freedom were still huge factors in my marriage that have since laterally carried over into the divorce. Regardless of household finances or if we were in a “good spot” or a bad one as a couple, in that span of 15 years I never felt safe not earning…and I knew the answer to why I didn’t feel safe so I never asked myself why. (It was because I wasn’t safe)

I have friends who enjoy healthy, vibrant relationships with their partners where only one person earns an income; it is possible.

Just to say: I will no longer shy away from the shadows of truth if this aspect of relationship feels off.

[asraspeaks2]

After three years of bullshit, the QDRO is finally complete. I checked this morning and saw the transfer in my retirement account. I'm so grateful it's done. Fingers and toes crossed this doesn't lead to insane retaliation from the Asshole Ex. My brother thinks the Ex is finally out of steam. InshaAllah.

I'm trying to only think of the future. Dwelling in the past has served me no purpose. Moving forward. Moving on.

Taking my boys furniture shopping over the weekend to pick out a few things. It's still a bit early, but I think it's good to have an idea of what styles they might like. I got rid of a lot of stuff to make moving easier. Some stuff I sold, most stuff I just donated. I have more stuff to get rid of like my kids' headboards.

The pandemic actually worked in my favor, which I know sounds horrible, but it's the truth. Because I'm tenured, I kept my job and even got a tiny cost of living adjustment raise. It wasn't much, but I'll take it. I have been donating to a Muslim women's shelter in NY to keep up with my Zakat payments. It's difficult for me to pay Zakat in one lump sum, so I break it up into smaller sums throughout the year.

Overall, I have a lot to be grateful for. Alhammdulillah.

[exmocayd]

Backstory

Hi all I'm Cayden and I am a disabled trans masculine 22yr old, I suppose my story really begins when I was seven and my adopted mother went back to the LDS church. My twin and I were... problem children to say the least. I had undiagnosed Bipolar and Borderline Personality disorder. My twin had undiagnosed ADHD and we both had C-PTSD. The leadership at our ward had our mum convinced that her severely traumatized seven year old's simply needed to know God and our problems would cease. When this was not the case our mother berated us and told us "If only you loved God more you wouldn't feel this way." By the time I was ten I seriously considered ending my life when I brought this up with my primary teacher she told me that suicide would land me in outer darkness I was of course terrified and tried my hardest to be a "faithful obedient youth". When I was eleven a family friend decided I was pretty and that he wanted to make me his doll. He sexually assaulted me for three years. When I went to our bishop about this after said friend Killed himself he told me my sultry ways had led this God fearing man to temptation and ruin and it was my fault he died.

When I was sixteen I was again sexually assaulted I didn't tell anyone this time as I was sure I had somehow caused this man to harm me. At eighteen I became seriously ill and developed a chronic illness known as POTS, this illness cause me to faint and for on three separate occasions to go into full cardiac arrest. My then bishop told me I didn't die because Jesus wouldn't let me die in sin, also that my POTS was a manifestation of my sinful nature. My mother eventually got me on disability and promptly stole my checks. When I told her I was leaving the church she refused me medical care. I nearly died because she wouldn't let me go to the ER. This however was not the only instance of her abuse and neglect. Throughout my life she has emotionally, physically, and mentally abused my twin and I. There were times I tried to tell what I thought were trustworthy adults what was happening, but they either went right to mother with their concerns or doubted what I said due to lies mother had spread about my sister and I. In late January of 2020 I had enough and fled, I was told by my mother that as I paid rent to live in her house she could and would evict me if I didn't move from my upstairs room to accommodate her foster children. I told her fine then evict me, and she punched me. I left the next morning with only a suitcase and a duffle bag. My mother has tried repeatedly to get me back, from threatening my dog I left behind to telling me my stimulus was at her house(It was in my bank account) to threatening suicide. I have since removed my name from church records and changed my legal name.

[whyowhyme2]

[trekahouse]

You tried to set me up where I’d fall off, but I fucked around and leveled up.

Treka L. House

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Financial Abuse Is Domestic Violence

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[whyowhyme2]

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