Stop saying that you’re ‘going non-verbal’. I’m talking to both allistics and also autistics who can usually speak/have lower support needs. Being non-verbal is a continuous state of being, not something that turns on and off.
I am a lower support needs autistic, and sometimes I cannot speak. The phrase I use for this is ‘[having a] verbal shutdown’ rather than ‘[going] non-verbal’ because mine is a temporary state and will stop within a few hours or if I’m removed from a stressful situation. I used to use ‘non-verbal’ before being informed that I was not using the correct language (I now know better).
I see a lot of other autistics who are like me using ‘non-verbal’. I’m sure many of you may not have known not to, since it’s unfortunately more normalised now to say it with the incorrect definition, but that’s why I’m saying this now.
Listen to the higher support needs/non-verbal autistics who have been telling you not to use their phrases because they don’t apply to you.
And allistics who say it; you can just say that you feel like being quieter, or you’re overwhelmed. Don’t take the language of a group who are already massively overlooked.
(non-verbal/lsn autistics, of course feel free to add on or correct me if I’ve said something that’s incorrect; I don’t want to speak over anyone, nor is it my place to)