#infp lesson

[yeunginfp]

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Other than GAD illness which affects work lately, I am also dealing with the anxiety or slight depression regarding the corona-virus in my city while dealing with the rocketing price for getting masks, and now the above anxiety when my male Libra  friend (who he thinks we are” friends only”) has not texted me back since Feb 12 while I simply texted “How have you been doing?”.  (I also forgot telling readers that I also miss a female co-worker/friend who is currently on sick leave due to having cancer at a young age. I sobbed once when I stared at her empty desk.  I missed the time when we texted and complained about office politics on the phone.)

It has been going on like this since 2017 or 2018?  I guess I should cut loss from my end and move on (even though I seriously don’t want to.)

Perhaps these kind  of fantasy vs reality uncontrollable struggles have molded me between INFP and ISFP every time I test myself.  Honestly, I  am no longer into  MBTI, yet reddit often reminds me of who I am in a way.

[yeunginfp]

It’s sad when others leave us. But, remember, just as people leave our lives, others enter it. You don’t have to be afraid of your own growth, and you don’t have to be afraid of other people's growth.

by amandalinehan “Letting Go Of Others; Give The Same Space You Would Want”  via https://www.wattpad.com/170817063-for-infps-letting-go-of-others-give-the-same-space

[yeunginfp]

[yeunginfp]

I feel like and once being forced to be an intj when I needed to deal with this type of men. The made me feel tired emotionally, left a deep scar up to present and am afraid to like and love somebody deeply from then on.

They were special but also making me feel problematic and vulnerable to the point that I once had lost myself for getting to know the authentic them behind their surface.

I strongly reccomend you to stay away from them if you happen to have anxiety or/and depression issues because they will hurt you in the end.

[yeunginfp]

[yeunginfp]

Be careful/ guarded before fully trusting people in terms of romance, friendship and professional relationships , including those who also are INFPs( you do not have to trust me too if you think my opinions are craps).

You may run into hyprocites, bxxches, axxholes in school, workplace and love life. You have to be highly alert and protect yourselves. Remember, closely and quietly observe. Do not idealize and imagine everyone is kind and nice. Pay close attention to the facts. Regarding relationship, you go re-read my rants. The less incidents I try to remember, the easier and sooner I will forget about them.

Here I am, a Rory Gilmore alike giving advice to everyone including myself. Sigh. Life is tough.

[yeunginfp]

When one breaks the promise, we no longer need to keep our words because we are not the inituator.

[yeunginfp]

A solution for me to prevent nostalgia

Have you been isolated in high school? Aloner at cafeteria, project works etc? For me, I felt like being treated as leftover and I hated it.

Therefore, when people treat me similarly, say they turned against me, used me then dumped me romantically, academically and professionally, I have been training myself not to miss them as individuals and past relationships.

My classmate Candy verbally slapped me in the face metaphorically, saying there are no points I should have lingering feelings towards them because they wouldn’t have done that to me in the first place if they treated me seriously with respect. Then, I remember I hate myself being treated as leftover, see when everyone has been moving forward and why on earth I have to miss them deeply and put myself backward in paths? Remember, nobody looks back but me, so there is no point that I get myself stuck in the same spot at all.

If I become cruel and aloof in the end towards these people, there are reasons for my actions losing my kindness, tolerance, patience and innocence in a dog eats dog world. I won't harm you yet it does not mean I let you emotionally harm me ever again.