Justified Anger. ** 12 June 2016 **
Have you ever been angry at someone for something they said? Not like the angry and then get over it a day later, I mean like angry at someone to the point where it gets you on a personal level. For instance, my mother, who don’t get me wrong I love my mother, I can’t not love her. I would never want her to think otherwise. But I hold a great resentment towards my mother. I am very close with my father. He is in my eyes my best friend. To have my mother tell me straight to my face at eighteen years old, “if I was to ever leave your dad one day, just know it’ll be your fault.... because he won’t back me up when it comes to you..”. That hurts someone on a personal level. It ignites an anger in them that cant be vanquished. So tonight when I come home from work early at 2am, my mothers car is not here. My fathers set of keys are still on the welcome hook by the front door.
It always begins a panic in my heart. My heart rate increased as the fear in my head builds. It is almost 5am and my mother is still not home. In all reality she is possibly somewhere with my aunt but my doubt is noted. The irrational thoughts I have are only due to my previous mental health which was not what you would call stable. Nevertheless, I feel like my anger towards my mother is somewhat justified.
To begin with, I was never what you called, the perfect child. Gave them hell when I tried to run away in eighth grade, hell for over 2 years with my ‘first love’ in high school, baker acted at seventeen, went from being a late graduate to graduating on time thanks to a local career center. But given my faults, I have always hated to disappoint my parents. Like any other human, I live, I learn. My mother however does not approve of my adventurous ways. Kicked out of the house at eighteen for smoking marijuana, came back a week later. Still a current toker. My mother feels justified to leave my father because he wont back her up in kicking me out of the house for the final time. So here I am, stuck in a house I’m not wanted in, just getting by.
My anger in my opinion is justified because I would never do something if I knew it was going to get them in trouble. Also because I have since I was seventeen and working, I have helped them out financially, despite me and my mothers relationship. So what if she never comes home? What will happen to us then?
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Are you a child of divorced parents? How did you take their splitting up, how did it affect you?