As a recovering GirlBoss, I’m officially breaking up with my post-Christmas planning routine:
26- all Christmas decorations down
27- take stock of current year
29- SMART goals for upcoming year with 6-8 life categories, fully planned by quarter
30-31 fully form this in my bullet journal while watching The life changing Magic of Tidying Up
Jan 1: Bring. It. On. Whole house, health, and work reset.
Sound exhausting? It was!
I don’t look on this era of my life (2016-2022) with cringe. Quite the opposite! That girl radically transformed her life from a broke, traumatized, single mom, community college dropout to a financially stable, creative, happy, MBA graduate with her dream job.
I am so grateful for her drive, determination, and passion. I am so proud of her.
And also? I’m so relieved I can no longer relate.
As someone whose core values are consistently curiosity and growth, I’m willing to adapt and change over time, shedding practices that no longer serve me in favor of those that do.
In 2022, at my post-graduation dinner, I signed a napkin promising my friends I would slow down. And I did, immediately scaling back my volunteerism and commitments in favor of radical rest and the pursuit of creative endeavors.
That winter, I made a paper chain to count down towards the winter Solstice in an effort to thwart the post-time change blues. When it worked, I adopted warmth, coziness, and light into my winter routine. Candles. Electric blankets. A soup a week. I also adapted my speed, just as we have done for most of our time on this earth. It also worked!
Since then, naturally, I’ve slowly been attuning my life to the seasons.
Spring — renewal, garden, waking up. Summer — enjoying time outdoors, being active and social.
Fall — abundance and gratitude, preparation for the holidays.
Winter is now a time of peace, joy, and reflection. I close my curtains at four, intentionally, and turn on my lamps, hit Netflix fireplace, and hang with a craft on my lap and good music in the background.
But I was still clinging to that last vestige of my GirlBoss era—my post-holiday planning session.
On the 26th, I couldn’t bring myself to take down the tree. She’s gorgeous and I love her! She’s staying up until January 6th this year. With the new job, I can’t take the entire week off. That’s ok! I still started my planning process.
Nervous system regulation.
Bucket list travel items.
To read, watch, and listen liste.
Dot grid notebook ordered.
Action steps! Quarterly plans! Stationary!
And this morning, with my bullet journal still unfinished, I tried to reconcile stacks of paper with notes, dozens of screen shots, and multiple notes apps.
I felt frazzled, overwhelmed, and defeated. Why couldn’t I pick a path forward? Why couldn’t I even start a January page. Planning is my jam! As an ADHDer, it’s practically my calling.
So I had to ask myself…why am I doing this? If this is something I truly want to do, that aligns with my values, then it shouldn’t be this hard.
My time of renewal has transitioned to spring; so shouldn’t that be my time of planning for the new year? Isn’t it a little crazy to have fifteen major life goals this year? 2024 just wrapped up, so shouldn’t I take time to reflect on it, take stock, and truly understand what I want to take into my next year? Shouldn’t I take time to recover from the holidays? Would the world end if I stay slow and steady and take this slow season to fill my metaphorical well?
So that’s what I’m doing.
My January calendar is noted with intentional social engagements and creative time. I put my goals away and instead loaded a bunch of reflective journal prompts to work through in the next month. Or two. Or three!
It feels vulnerable and wrong, not walking into the New Year with a Plan. But the bigger part of me thinks my lowercase plan—to rest, reflect, and connect with my friends and family, is going to work just fine.
So my hope for you is that you are at peace with where you’re at. And if you aren’t at peace, that you take the time to understand why, and that you’re willing to adjust course.
If you need a GirlBoss era, l will cheer you on, every step of the way! If you have a few goals, I hope you stick with them!
But if you, like me, want to stay slow, recover, and savor the season?
How would you like your tea?
Ref pics (the napkin, my tree):