Another one of my dearest friends has recently suffered the loss of her baby, and my heart aches for her. This weekend has been another rough one. I should be watching my belly grow and waiting to meet my twins, but instead I get cramps and wonder if I should just give up hope. In grief, there are certain things that bring a measure of comfort... those friends who sit with you in your grief and let you know you're not alone. There are also some well meaning folks who say the most hurtful things - "You're still young." "You can try again." "At least you know you can get pregnant." "Have you thought of adoption?" "Why don't you get over it already?" Let's be clear. To lose a child is to experience the premature death of a loved one. But it is also the loss of a whole life, a future, a childhood, all hopes and dreams. Grieving mothers are NOT trying to replace our children and offering suggestions or comments like these is just extremely hurtful, NOT helpful at all. When you lose a grandparent, a parent or a friend, no one tells you to try to find another one. No one tells you to get over it. It would be unthinkable. For those who have been kind, thank you. For those who have suggestions, keep them to yourself. Just be kind and considerate, please. #grievingmother #pregnancyloss #multiplepregnancyloss #miscarriageawareness #griefawareness #grief https://www.instagram.com/p/BvsqJIPjAAB/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1lnqvg1lbpcee