So, here it is: I have a toxic friend who is progressively becoming more toxic, and it is affecting me - basically sucking life out of me. I would probably tell anyone else in this situation to dump her, but: shortly after a sudden death of her husband she had an accident; her injury was badly handled (partially due to her absolute passivity regarding her health) and, two years and a surgery later she's disabled - temporarily or permanently, nobody knows for sure. There's excessive drinking and weepy calls after a bottle of wine, bad decisions/ inability to make decisions, dependency on the late husband ( "Dave would like me to do this or that"), complains about everything, 100% refusal to get therapy or grief counseling.
I feel that dumping prople when they are down is not OK. On the other hand, she's down for almost 3 years, and I ran out of ways to help her.
Her housekeeper of 12 years just walked out today after being accused of overcharging her $50. I advised to ask if it was a mistake first, and go from there, but no: "you lied, you used me," etc. I would walk out too; know the person, and believe it WAS a mistake.
I'm tired of the ongoing drama. May go into seclusion.
