#plural dating

[our-love-haven]

Looking for a collective partner (system or singlet)

DISCLAIMER: we're polyamorous and already have one collective partner but he's ONE alter from a friend sys and cant front often. AND some of us have personal partners outside any collective relationships we have. PLEASE be mindful of this because we will not be leaving any of these relationships for new ones, so lets not waste either of our times

SO! About us and our preferences bellow cut!!!

We're Cherry or Haven collectively, we're the Love Haven Collective and we're an OSDD system (we're also diagnosed with BPD. we self regulate but BEWARE you may become one of our collective fps) (also some of our bpd holders use the term yandere and are what one would stereotypically call an "evil alter" but theyre not bad people, just really intense and emotional at times)

We're ftm bigender and queer. most of us are like- hyperfemme and have varied orientations. most prefer masculine presenting partners to complement us, tho gender doesnt rlly matter, but thats not NEEDED yk? he/she pronouns collectively + neos

We're 17 as of rn (turning 18 in july 11th 2026). PLEASE be 17-19 (a bit older is okay, we'd rather not date younger ppl than us tho)

We're Argentinean and speak spanish aswell as english (just a fun fact! we have no preference with where ur from)(tho we do like talking abt our culture and such)

We're VERY into musical theater and will study scenic arts starting on 2027. We also watch SOME anime and donghua (mainly Link Click for the latter)(also havent seen many animes BUT if we like you we'd LOVE to watch ur favorite animes with you wink wink <3)

We really like playing games like minecraft or roblox where we can play together <3 but we also like watching you play games or vice versa! just know our laptop is a bit slow and cant handle heavy modded servers or high graphic games etc etc. WE DO plan on getting a better pc in the future but thats for now

WE LOVE DOING VCS once we get to know eachother for like a few days/weeks, and sending voice notes!

We prefer to be treated as both individuals and a collective like we like idk collective assignments and like "my wife/husband/spouse" to refer to all of us aswell as yknow getting to know us individually and - etc etc you get it

We dont care abt syscourse, like straight up dont wanna talk abt that shit. we ARE very uncomfortable with darkships collectively but some of us are kinda "into that stuff" due to source or other shit so like. if ur very anti and will shame them dni but also if ur gonna expose the rest of us to it also dni cause its like seriously a nuanced topic for us?

ALSO one of our life goals IS to get married, YOU dont have to be the one, but do know WE will be looking for THE ONE to marry, nothing personal with you, but rather WE really prioritize it because its a life long goal.

UHM YEAH THATS IT pls dm us or send and ask or comment here or reblog here and we'll give u our discord <3 feel free to let us know anything abt urself in the first interaction, or not! we dont mind if u wanna talk abt urself on discord only

[rainburst-sys]

btw if you’re dating your headmate(s) then that’s just as valid as an outer world relationship and SHOULD be taken seriously!!

I love my partner sm and they’re just as great and valuable inside just as they would be outside!! <3

[peppercornsystem]

As part of dating, I’ve been introducing Lestat to one of my favorite shows, Bojack Horseman. I wasn’t expecting him to like it as much as he is currently. Sometimes when we both idly have down time while fronting, he’ll even ask if we can watch an episode or two.

For those curious, to absolutely no one’s surprise, his favorite character thus far is Princess Carolyn.

-Kristy

(She/her)

[felidae-pluralities]

when different alters are fronting, we have different heart colours for our boyfriend. for example, denki has yellow, touya has blue, babie has pink, etc. we think we may have a new alter, and we used a green heart instead of our usual non-alter heart (💕).

he clocked us immediately.

[theyuzusystem]

Inner system dating.

Hi, so me and V1 are now officially dating, but we don’t know the first thing about inner system relationships. Can anyone give us some advice/info??

We’d appreciate it.

I’m so happy for those two!!

Yes, Sun and I are here too. We would also like advice on how to support this duo.

[flicker-system]

I have a boyfriend (!!!) And I just sent him a picture of two animals captioned "us"... I'm so happy that it makes me want to cry. I haven't been in a relationship in years and I'm so excited to be with him.

[red-like-ruby-rose]

It's really sad that there's no plural spaces dedicated to, like, dating and such. Like &4& spaces.

[woagdiscourse]

Dating as a c!Quackity Introject : My Experience

1 : briefly explaining myself and my polycule 2 : the story of my relationship 3 : how does source effect this relationship 4 : what is it like dating in - system, what is a in - sys polycule like?

disclaimer : this post is not discourse-related, and i invite any other plurals / headmates to talk about their relationship experience. introject or not

sect. 1 : who am i?

i'm quackity from las nevadas, and i use he/it/clove/spade pronouns. i am an autism symptom holder, companion headmate, and willogenic headmate. i don't mind sharing this information, as it is not relevant enough on our main blog to be linked back to there.

i have two husbands and a queer platonic partner, all within the same system as myself. my husbands are sapnap and karl, and my queerplatonic boyfriend is charli / slime.

sect. 2 : the story of my relationship / polycule

our system formed me and sapnap somewhat intentionally- with permission from our primary fragment manager. we were formed "vaguely" because of karl.

while karl had no active part in this aside from missing us, others in the system thought he deserved to not have to miss us. and thus : me and sapnap were formed as companion headmates. our trio are all companions to each other, and our relationship is 100 % healthy.

i want to reiterate that me and sapnap were not formed specifically for karl to date. when we were formed, he only vaguely knew we were engaged in source, and karl made it abundantly clear when re-meeting us that he was happy to just be friends.

we started dating soon after me and sapnap formed, because in the midst of re-meeting each other, and a mess of source-related feelings that have since been resolved, we figured out and / or developed romantic feelings.

i'll admit, it didn't take very long for the three of us to call each other fiancés- hell, we still call ourselves the fiancé sidesystem, though we may be changing it to the engagement sidesystem.

before it's asked : we did not have a wedding in innerworld. we did, however, have our own "ceremony" to make the marriage official.

sect. 2.5 : charli

charli formed because the brain was attempting to help me cope with feelings of missing my best friend. since i was formed, i've dealt with issues of missing charli and las nevadas

to spare you the details of how we got together - as those are irrelevant - we did become official partners a month or so ago.

sect. 3 : how does / did source affect our relationship?

of course, because exomemories affect us all individually, they're bound to affect our relationships.

me and my husbands' relationship started with an awkward and difficult conversation. while karl has never had as many memories as me and sapnap, he was still a vital part of the conversation. we explained our "drama" to him, and the three of us have since resolved the conflict.

we were and still are very lucky that we all have the same events of source. me and sapnap remember the events of me leaving as similarly as two people in outerworld remembering the same event would, and we're grateful for that because it makes the explanation of emotions a little easier.

as for me and charli, our source relationship has less of an impact on our current relationship because of the differing natures of the relations. i like to make the comparisons using fandom terminology of "best friends to lovers" for me and charli, as it is best for our polycule to treat source events as though they happened here.

as of now: exomemories serve as a sense of reminiscing / history between us, as most [if not all] source-related conflict has been resolved.

sect. 4 : what is it like being in an in-system polycule?

this is probably the only part anyone actually wants to read, but this is my post and i get to decide what i want to say and when. /lh

dating within our own system presents a unique relationship dynamic, in which we are literally inside each other's heads. this can be for better or for worse.

while we can often hear each other's thoughts, or communicate in vague notions, direct communication is still important to us. if we do something that is considered a "fuck up" or is uncomfortable by one of our partners, we're usually able to tell immediately as those feelings will "cross over" to ourselves. however, it's still important to communicate- as those "crossover feelings" can often be mistaken for others, especially if we're multitasking.

even with our arrangement, we place high value on direct communication. this communication can manifest in outerworld as typing to each other in discord, or in innerworld as simply having a conversation before dinner.

personally, i much prefer in-system relationships. they're easier for me, as well as my partners. however this is down to personal preference

i'm aware this adds no real value to the conversation, but i do appreciate anyone who read the entire post. thank you :] /gen