#pncphobia

[this-is-amato-heteronormativity]

Begging people in fandom spaces to stop treating nonqueer as the default.

An unconfirmed character is not automatically allorose, monorose, straight, monogamous, with 0 prioritized nonrose (platonic/queerplatonic, alterous, sensual, etc) attraction.

An unconfirmed character is not automatically unaltered perisex, cisgender, binary, gender conforming, and pronoun conforming.

Unless the creator or character explicitly states that they are all of those things, then you literally cannot tell people "[insert character here] isn't queer!"

(And also people are allowed to headcanon things that defy canon for the sake of fun and representation, but that's a different discussion to be had.)

[sagegreenyaps]

We talk a lot about people who go from identifying as trans to identifying as cis a lot, and I know this is because that's the most drastic form of detransition, but please don't forget the people who have been malgendered so severely that they stop identifying with certain pronouns, or people who stop expressing their gender in the way that once brought them the most joy because of both malgendering and misgendering (ie. pronoun-nonconforming trans women who keep getting referred to as men), or multigender people who feel like they have to let go of one or more of their genders and trim up their identity like a hedge. Those are also forms of detransition.

And while we recognize them, even for the brief moment that is this Tumblr post, let's not throw scorn to these people, please.

It's bad enough we punish all detransitioners for detransitioning back to cis, when studies show that roughly 82% of the people who have ever done that report having done so out of self-preservation, to protect themselves from external factors.