#queerplatonic relationship

[raviolireptile]

Brainfart

Inspired by my wonderful friends under the cut

@sde5ai

[eridianenby]

Xenonite who? It’s time for cuddles with queerplatonic space bestie. 🪨 🧡

Everyone else has been drawing their self indulgent No Barriers Grace and Rocky…,…,,..so i gotta let myself have at least one. Maybe Grace is having a good dream.

Universe where Grace gets lazy with his haircut routine on the trip to Erid, and Rocky is amaze at how fast it grows! He wants to touch it! Plus Grace gets lovely sensory input and autistic floor time 🙂‍↕️

OG sketch from work. I’m addicted to scribbling with this yellow pen I found and then scribbing more pen on top of it ^_^ / ✨

[midnightcrisisstuff]

actually no, we're not "dating". we're bound together for infinity. like the stars. so, fuck you, actually.

[squigglinmywaydowntown]

Queerplatonic attraction is so bizarre like wdym I want to fall asleep on your shoulder and I smile every time I think of you and I want to embrace you and kiss you on the cheek and I genuinely love you so much and labeling it as romantic doesn’t seem right, yet labeling it as regular platonic attraction doesn’t seem like enough

What to do

[infiniteorangethethird]

anyone else feeling rather... annoyed at the way ppl have come to define and use queerplatonic and qprs? So many times I see ppl talk abt qprs saying they're "friendship but Deeper" or "a relationship strictly between friendship and romance" or "essentially romance lite/romance for aromantics" and like. A qpr definitely can be all that if the participants want that, but to say that this is THE definition of queerplatonic is actually going directly against the very goal for which the term was created. Queerplatonic was supposed to give us a word to be able to talk about relationships that don't fit neatly into the "romantic" and "platonic" boxes, whilst also deconstructing the relationship hierarchy and the idea that friendships are fundamentally lesser than romantic relationships. So can we please stop using qprs as a way to once again make friendships seem like a lesser form of relationship and to reinforce the relationship hierarchy? Please?

Afaik the original definition of a qpr was smth along the lines of "a relationship that doesn't fit the traditional boundaries of a friendship". By that definition? A loveless friendship would be a qpr. A "friendship" between two aplatonics would be a qpr. A friendship where they specifically feel less emotionally connected to one another than is expected of a "normal" friendship would be a qpr. Just like how queerness isn't fundamentally about love, queerplatonicism, i.e. queering the platonic, isn't fundamentally about "putting more love" into friendships. It can be, but it doesn't have to be.

[sneakysnek1123]

Can we be nicer to people who are on the aro/ace spectrum who aren’t aroace please? Aroallos and alloaces and aplatonic folk and cupioromantics and those who want queerplatonic relationships and those who don’t and aros who date and aces who have sex and people who don’t fall on the “sex-favourable to sex-repulsed” line because they feel like it doesn’t describe them well enough and greyromantics and demisexuals and those in polycules and selfshipping communities and those who fight for aro/ace visibility and those who don’t and those who haven’t fully come to terms with their identity yet and this community is such a beautiful place can we see it beyond “uwu innocent aroace doesn’t know what sex is” please god I am begging you

[anath3mancy]

thank you for clearing it up for me, marriage dot com

[anylifeonmarss]

Anyone responding to a creator's shipping boundary with a sudden influx of queerplatonic ships that are portrayed suspiciously just like amatonormative romantic relationships, put AO3 down for a second and listen to those of us in QPRs

Our relationship dynamics are not a substitute for romance and they're not inherently devoid of aspects a creator might be uncomfortable with being shown (like physical intimacy and flirting)

We can tell when a ship is written as queerplatonic in this soulless way where someone's trying to get around a creator boundary they don't actually have to follow* or around a character's aroacespec identity. They come across as conformative and allo-coded because queerplatonic as a term is used to mean 'a romantic dynamic where they aren't actually together or where there's no actual attraction'

*a creator boundary cannot and should not dictate what a community member does outside of their field of view, and it shouldn't encourage them to expand their field of view beyond what's reasonable in order to police their community - you are a person, you have free will! You can even block that creator in advance on your fan accounts!

Queerplatonic relationships are queer and so non-normative. They bend and defy the rules of what's typical and expected. They are broad and devoid of expectations unless you want to create them. They're things like touch or affection because you just want to know that person better; to learn how they'd react and to exist with them. They're things like telling each other things nobody else will know because you've committed yourselves to being there without the expectation for anything but the same in return. They're being able to place each building block that forms your dynamic and take it away on your own terms as a collective

They are not your get out of jail free card when it comes to creator boundaries - you already have that card and it's your human freedom!!

If you're going to write queerplatonic dynamics, actually write them that way instead of just labelling an amatonormative dynamic that way for the sake of it