#relationshipedition

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New personal realization (complete with more social work jargon!): I have realized that the place I become the most dysregulated and have the most trouble combating/controlling intrusive thoughts is the grocery store.  Filled with couples and young parents, I just can’t seem to handle it.

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With everything that is going on in the world right now and recent events in my own life, I am so overwhelmed by just how important it is to me that I am with someone who is 

socially aware

oriented toward social justice

compassionate and empathetic

understanding of issues of intersectionality and privilege  

willing to listen to those whose opinions differ from their own

a feminist

and a myriad of other things.  I can’t ever let myself compromise that.  Not ever. 

It’s not that I am unwilling to engage with people who are not aware of these issues, I just don’t want a key part of our relationship to be me educating them.

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He makes me laugh.  And I like that.

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I want to be with someone who delights in the little things, like the way I organize my bookshelves.  I want them to find it so endearing that I have an entire shelf dedicated to science books and another that is all about the Holocaust (my two non-professional academic areas of interest).  I want them to enjoy sitting with me as I explain exactly why I placed each individual book next to the other, because more likely than not there is a reason.  

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eze-torso-talking replied to your post: Yup.  I like this guy.  I mean, we’re only on day...

*high hopes for you*

Hahaha!  Thanks, friend. :)  I'm not getting my hopes up, but I'm allowing myself to be hopeful, if that differentiation makes any sense.

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afreespiritx replied to your post: Yup.  I like this guy.  I mean, we’re only on day...

WHO WHO WHO?

The guy I met at my friend's birthday dinner on Saturday.  He's very nice.  And funny.  And good at conversation, which means something when you are my kind of introvert. :)

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Yup.  I like this guy.  I mean, we're only on day three of knowing each other, but I definitely like him.

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Treat Yo Self Spring Break: Second to Last Day

Yesterday, I treated myself to a comfort-zone-breaking night out to celebrate a classmate/friend's birthday, and it turned out to be absolutely wonderful.

Although I wish I had spent a little bit more of my time as dedicated to homework as I was to treating myself every day, I am calling this Spring Break of Treat Yo Self days a total success.  I'm definitely going to be thinking about how I want to continue this self care regimen once classes and work start up again. 

Stay tuned for one last Treat Yo Self Spring Break update, and maybe a recap of each day.