#shitty boss

[bitchesgetriches]

Hey bitches. On the job hunt and have a question: I'm autistic and do bad in interviews. I have a really interesting interview on the 4th of November (2 days from submitting this so not expecting to hear from you before it) and, because I'm bad at interviews but want this job badly I've been doing research. Both into the job/role/etc and into interviewing. Everyone says not to "bad talk" a previous employer. But I left my last job because 2 members of the board consistently worked together to make staff (including me) cry, feel stupid, undercut our authority and jobs etc. for me, one was fond of going behind my back and lying about me 'agreeing' to things to get her way, and the other was very fond of telling people (in my hearing) that "because they're autistic they need someone to blame for their mistakes". They were also very bad about sharing information. One used to "run" an event but the goal was for another person (events manager, newer hire) to take that one over (and run is in quotes because she bought food and organized day of, she never did the prep work for it( and we requested a transfer of knowledge in Dec 2024, she hadn't done that despite numerous follow ups and meetings by the time I left at the end of July 2025.

I left a toxic workplace, I did my best to insulate junior staff but I couldn't keep doing it.

If I can't "bad talk" an employer, how do I handle the "why did you leave your last role?" Question?

"It wasn't a good fit."

"I disagreed with the direction of the board."

"I outgrew the position."

These are all corporate-ese for "it was a shitty company and I hated it there." Good luck, honey. You got this!

Season 3, Episode 12: "I’m Done With Evil Bosses and Toxic Workplaces. Can I Stand Up Without Being Hammered Down?" 

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[ambergrandma]

🙃

Just sent an email to my boss’s supervisor saying that I’m fucking tired of being treated like an incompetent nuisance

Wish me luck.

[clarinet-sticks]

I have to rant. Pls bare with me or ignore me idc. TW: Miscarriage & shitty bosses (I tried to tag what I thought might need to be tagged, so sorry if I missed something.)

My boss SUCKED. She was the first person I called and told I was pregnant & how I’d be on closer watch with the OB due to my miscarriage earlier this year. She said that was totally fine and to just keep her in the loop.

Only a few days into the school year I started spotting, which is obviously scary since I experienced that before my loss. I got into the OB immediately and started being seen weekly for blood tests and ultrasounds. I tried to ask off ahead of time if I knew I had an appointment, but a few times I had to leave in the middle of the day and come back, which she was fine with.

One day I went in and had only taken the morning off. I was stuck in the office waiting for hours so I texted letting my boss know I wouldn’t be back. I brought her my doctors note which simply started I was seen at 10:45 (which is usually all the office gives you when you ask for a work note).

I was also put on restrictions so my baby and I would be safe at work. I was not allowed to lift 25 pounds or more. She came up to me in the hallway demanding I have paperwork proving that, otherwise she and the district wouldn’t recognize my restrictions and would make me work like normal. I called the office and asked for something to be sent in writing for work, and they complied, sending it to my hospital app. I screenshotted it and emailed it to my boss. I then went to her office to confirm she received it and she said “yep, that should be all I need, thanks!” Then she read the note and says “do we even have any kids that heavy?” YES??? The average 3-4 year old is at the smallest 35 pounds.

About a week goes by, then I wake up and get around for work. I go pee right before leaving and suddenly there’s a LOT more spotting. I’m panicked, I call my boss to let her know I won’t be in and I’ll be calling my OB when they open. She doesn’t answer, so I text her. She responds with “I will not be able to find a sub with 16 minute notice. We will be short handed.” Ok? I’m in crisis mode right now and you’re expecting me to feel bad that I had to contact you last minute?? THEN she sends another long ass message saying she needs a note proving I was seen, it could NOT be an email on my phone, and it had better say I wasn’t allowed to return to work that day… because she let it slide last time my note only stated the time of my appointment, but I should’ve returned to work if I was able.

I was seeing red. I was shaking I was so mad. I called my husband and told him what happened and he immediately said to quit. It was bullshit. She knows my situation. She knows I’m panicked over every little issue because I lost one before. But instead of being empathetic and understanding, she throws it in my face that the classroom will be down a teacher and scolds me for my notes not being adequate? Despite her literally saying they were fine before?

I just texted back “ok, then consider this my resignation. I don’t appreciate how I’m being talked to or how this situation has been handled.” To which she replied “ok thanks for letting me know” if she was SO worried about being short handed, I’d think she’d care a bit more that I left the position entirely! She clearly didn’t like me for whatever reason despite me doing everything she asked whenever she asked.

She also turned around and posted my job online within like an hour and had all the other staff share it. I have a feeling she told them all I’m this horrible person for quitting on the spot, but they don’t know what really happened.

I submitted my official resignation to the district before she could even text again saying “I think the district will need a written paper. An email is fine” AN EMAIL IS FINE NOW??? God I’m still seething but I’m so glad I left. Everyone else there was so kind and understanding of my situation, but my main boss wasn’t and I don’t need that extra stress right now.

The good news is, I got an ultrasound done today & my baby is still looking fine! And my now former coworkers still checked in on me and asked me to keep them updated. I hope that administrator retires the moment she can in a year or two and I can take my job back without worrying about being stabbed in the back during a stressful time.

[imaginativewriter23]

Don't you hate it when you have a boss that just LOVES to make passive aggressive comments after you make a tiny mistake? 🥹

[itslenagain]

Broke: Just not showing up to work anymore

Woke: CC'ing your supervisor on an email to -their- supervisor where you call them incredibly unprofessional

[tempestofdiscomfort]

I am just so tired of feeling like I’m terrible at my job.

[qurio]

Just wanted to let everyone know what kind of Business Hometown Transportation is running.

Asked my boss if I could visit my dying grandmother and I was 100% ignored, later that day I was reminded when I was on the schedule; not an ounce of remorse. No compassion. Nothing. The day I quit, was over the fact that she kept to herself; the information that I was in proximity to someone else in the company that had COVID-19 at the same time as another employee, and when questioned about it simply responded "you weren't around them".

I was in the same car as them three days before they were diagnosed with the illness. She then lied, and said I was around them "3 weeks ago" when I hadn't even been -with- the company for 3 weeks.

After getting a test at Med-Express nearby, I was told to go the Emergency Room. I told her that in the text. She promptly told me I'd be working the next day, without a single care in the world about this information.

I don't know how this place is still in business, apparently I'm not the only person who's ever been through this, but no one else has stood up and said anything and I've sat around long enough without airing out this dirty laundry.

For a company that "excels" in "providing safe and dependable" transportation for this area, sure is pretty sus to ignore the threat of COVID, and deny trips to people who aren't with your company anymore just because you're petty.

(I had a trip planned a month plus in advance to go 2 hours south with their service for a EMG. I have screenshots on my phone of when it was approved and I was set. I also have a screenshot of the Hometown Transportation Schedule stating my trip-- ONLY MINE was "Rerouted due to short drivers". There are over 20 patients on the schedule that were not touched.

I have a BUNCH MORE screenshots. If you're interested in knowing more about this whole.. issue, DM me. Until then, don't give these people business. I don't know how to make it anymore clear. This company is cold hearted and only cares about the money.

[livingouttheworsttimeline]

On Tuesday, my boss told me that he was disappointed in my performance and that I had a week and a half to improve.

Today, after 3 days of busting my ass and making reasonable progress on my goals, he told me that I clearly lied on my resume (I didn’t) and misrepresented myself (ditto). Apparently in the last 6 weeks I have accomplished nothing, learned nothing, and have made things exponentially harder for him.

On Wednesday, day 1 or my performance improvement initiative, I felt horrible. I very much define myself by my work, and the fact that I’m a hard worker. So being told that I wasn’t was crushing. I had essentially a 24 hour panic attack, rethought my entire existence, and felt like a complete failure.

The thing is, this is the first time I have ever gotten feedback like this. When I have gotten negative feedback, it hasn’t been so cruel and critical. And I see where there are some areas that I could improve. But the level of vitriol is shocking.

I absolutely don’t want to be the person who blames a bad boss. But I’ve never ever been told that I’m irredeemable, or unethical. And when I listen to my family and friends, and all my previous bosses, it starts to seem more and more likely that this isn’t all on me.

Not that it helps me stay employed, but it definitely does help my psyche to remember that my boss is in fact not the final expert on everything. And that I will, in fact, find a place where I’m able to do something well and worthwhile.