i always run on here to chat rubbish to myself about twitter discourse bc shit on there is crazy...but the "fan-wars" issue i think is so much deeper than just us/chan telling each other to 'ignore it' and 'be the bigger person' and respect each other (of course we should always do that) but unfortunately the internet isn't like that. i think there are always going to be stays or 'stays' that want to defend the boys, whether they (or you) feel like its justified or not. it's a tough situation because we're never going to know what he sees, what exactly he's talking about, or if he's seen the whole picture here, i.e., constant hate and awful messages about them/the group.
i think it means something different for chan than it does for us, like to him perhaps he's just defending his friends, and of course he can never come on bbl or anything to reprimand another fandom, so from his perspective, he's doing what he can. but to us or some stay, it may mean something different. it might feel like he's mad at us, or maybe some may feel like their efforts are wasted i.e., from all the reporting or 'defending', or simply some people are tired of being the bigger person because they feel like nothing comes from it.
i think multiple of those things can be true. but obviously sending hate tweets and comments isn't. i don't think everyone sitting in a circle and holding hands will fix it. i actually think more idols need to come out and stay stuff like that. but on the other hand, i don't think fan-wars have ever really had much to do with the idol anyways, just miserable people with no achievements wanting to spread hate.