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They avoid potentially good things because of the unpleasant associations they bring up Your friends invite you to come over to watch a hockey game. It’ll probably be fun to spend time with them, even if you’ll only be half-interested in the game itself. But sports make negative thoughts bubble to the surface of your brain, so you choose to avoid anything that has to do with them. Or you meet someone you like, but she has some of the mannerisms of the girls who used to pick on you in high school so you don’t pursue a friendship further. You can miss out on a lot of fun things just because they’re associated with something you’re bitter about.
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They see changing themselves as selling out and ‘letting them win’ People may give you a hard time or not appreciate your natural personality. Society may be biased towards certain types of individuals. Still, there may be ways you could change and grow that would legitimately make your life fuller and happier. When you’re bitter you can be really stubborn about this. Changing means conceding that the enemy was partially right. If changing means becoming more like them in some way, you feel like you’re selling out. If you have an Us vs. Them attitude, it feels like they’re 'winning’. No one’s keeping track of this stuff of course, but it all can seem very important in your mind.
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They stay in a rut, but think it’s their noble destiny to be there If your life isn’t in the best place, being bitter can help keep you there. You can end up painting this scenario in your mind where it’s good that you are where you are. You’re nobly sticking to your principles. You haven’t given up your values to seek success at a game you don’t even care about. You’ve held your ground where others have failed. This thinking can take on a martyr tint as well, where you get some sort of mental reward out of seeing yourself as a victim.
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They make their decisions in reaction to what other people do If someone is bitter about a certain group, they may make their choices using the rule of, “I hate them, so whatever they are for, I have to be against.” It’s, “Oh, everyone is starting to like that band I enjoy? I guess I’m not going to listen to them anymore.” When they act like this feel like they’re being non-conformists, or fighting the system. I’m hardly the first person to point out that they’re ironically still letting their lives be controlled by the people they dislike, rather than just doing whatever makes them happy.
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People who have a past of being misunderstood or rejected for being different are sometimes quite bitter about it. Their bitterness may be directed at a certain group of people, society in general, the concept of socializing, the idea of having to change, or specific activities such as going to parties or playing sports. While a bitter person’s underlying complaints may have some truth to them, the emotion itself is toxic and counterproductive.
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