#toxic workplace

[makingsenseofwhathappened]

- Gloria Steinem

And probably a bunch of other people too. FWIW, you can know the risk of saying your truth and choose silence. Your story is yours until the day you’re ready to speak.

[bitchesgetriches]

Hey bitches. On the job hunt and have a question: I'm autistic and do bad in interviews. I have a really interesting interview on the 4th of November (2 days from submitting this so not expecting to hear from you before it) and, because I'm bad at interviews but want this job badly I've been doing research. Both into the job/role/etc and into interviewing. Everyone says not to "bad talk" a previous employer. But I left my last job because 2 members of the board consistently worked together to make staff (including me) cry, feel stupid, undercut our authority and jobs etc. for me, one was fond of going behind my back and lying about me 'agreeing' to things to get her way, and the other was very fond of telling people (in my hearing) that "because they're autistic they need someone to blame for their mistakes". They were also very bad about sharing information. One used to "run" an event but the goal was for another person (events manager, newer hire) to take that one over (and run is in quotes because she bought food and organized day of, she never did the prep work for it( and we requested a transfer of knowledge in Dec 2024, she hadn't done that despite numerous follow ups and meetings by the time I left at the end of July 2025.

I left a toxic workplace, I did my best to insulate junior staff but I couldn't keep doing it.

If I can't "bad talk" an employer, how do I handle the "why did you leave your last role?" Question?

"It wasn't a good fit."

"I disagreed with the direction of the board."

"I outgrew the position."

These are all corporate-ese for "it was a shitty company and I hated it there." Good luck, honey. You got this!

Season 3, Episode 12: "I’m Done With Evil Bosses and Toxic Workplaces. Can I Stand Up Without Being Hammered Down?" 

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[skygemspeaks]

Oh hey that's....that's really really fucked up actually.

Let's not try and spin this as a flex, bestie. It's really fucked up that they made you do that.

[lune-moon-nuit]

not sure if you’ve seen the panel yet but everything regarding noah confirms to me that they had a weird underlying hatred towards him but took more of a liking towards finn. and I can’t see any other reason why besides homophobia. the constant abuse and torture inflicted unto will since the start of the show even going as far as the duffers punching wills dummy in s2 and sending a video of it to his mom sounds alarms for me. the idea that will in season 4 had to earn his coming out when robin who was introduced in s3 was given a coming out scene right away is ludicrous and just ridiculous. they talk about Noah with such hostility and it cant be because of his big mouth regarding spoilers it’s so far past that. It’s disgusting to see 2 grown men who worked with someone since they were a child talk about them in such a manner especially after all the ridicule his character received. never issuing a statement defending his queer arc but putting their gay actor on the frontlines for them in hopes to ward off all of the criticism. if hells real there’s a place for them

I did unfortunately see what was said this morning, and while I cannot claim I was entirely surprised after the way season 5 ended and after years of increasingly questionable interviews, contradictions, and dismissive attitudes toward both the audience and the characters themselves, I still found it deeply uncomfortable to witness.

That being said, I also think it is important to approach these situations with nuance and caution rather than absolute certainty, because none of us truly know what happens behind closed doors. We only perceive fragments, tones, patterns, silences, and contradictions. However, sometimes those fragments are enough to reveal that something within a creative environment feels emotionally unhealthy or deeply unbalanced.

And honestly, for years now, I have felt an unsettling power dynamic surrounding the way they spoke about Will and Noah specifically.

Not necessarily in the simplistic sense of “they hated him,” but in the far more insidious way certain adults in positions of authority can grow possessive over young actors they helped shape professionally. The entertainment industry has historically blurred the line between mentorship, control, loyalty, gratitude, and emotional dependency, especially when child actors are involved. There is often an unspoken expectation of obedience attached to success: “Your career exists because of us, therefore you owe us trust, loyalty, silence, and compliance.”

And psychologically, that kind of dynamic can become extremely complicated for someone who has grown up under it since childhood.

What personally stands out to me is not merely the treatment of Will as a character, but the apparent irritation that emerged whenever Noah seemed emotionally invested in the narrative logic of his own role. Noah consistently came across as someone who deeply cared about storytelling, emotional coherence, symbolism, and character psychology. He asked questions. He reflected openly. He tried to understand motivations and themes. And sometimes, when young actors begin developing intellectual autonomy and start questioning creative decisions instead of simply accepting them passively, it can bruise the ego of authority figures who are unused to being challenged.

Especially authority figures who have spent years being praised as untouchable geniuses.

I also think people underestimate how transformative therapy and psychological growth can be for someone entering adulthood. When individuals begin unpacking emotional patterns, relational imbalances, or unhealthy dynamics they normalized in childhood, their entire perception of certain relationships can shift. And sometimes, when someone who was once easy to emotionally guide begins setting boundaries, questioning things, or reclaiming autonomy, the atmosphere around them changes as well.

Not because they became “difficult,” but because they stopped functioning exactly the way others expected them to.

Historically and psychologically, toxic professional environments rarely punish people openly. They punish subtly. Through exclusion, humiliation disguised as jokes, selective praise, passive aggression, isolation, or by elevating others comparatively. Power within artistic industries is often exercised through emotional atmosphere rather than explicit statements.

And yes, I do think there are aspects of homophobia and heteronormative discomfort underlying the treatment of Will’s storyline. The contrast between the handling of Will’s identity and Robin’s immediate coming out arc understandably frustrated many queer viewers. There has always been something profoundly tragic about Will being narratively trapped in silence, longing, shame, suffering, and emotional suppression for years while the story continuously demanded patience from queer audiences in ways heterosexual narratives are almost never asked to justify.

Queer people have historically been told to “wait,” “earn visibility,” “remain subtle,” or accept crumbs of representation while heterosexual romance is allowed to exist loudly, immediately, and unapologetically. So I completely understand why many viewers perceived Will’s treatment as emotionally exhausting or even cruel at times.

At the same time, I also think it is important not to transform speculation into certainty regarding real people’s intentions or inner psychology. We can critique patterns, storytelling decisions, public behavior, and uncomfortable dynamics without pretending we possess omniscient knowledge about individuals we do not personally know.

What I will say, however, is that there is something deeply unsettling about seeing adults speak dismissively or mockingly about young actors they have worked with since childhood, particularly when those actors carried emotionally heavy material for years under immense public scrutiny.

And perhaps what saddens me most is that so many young actors in this industry seem forced to mature emotionally far too quickly. They learn very early that success and affection within entertainment often come with invisible conditions attached. They are celebrated publicly while privately navigating enormous psychological pressure, projection, dependency, and power imbalances.

Which is precisely why emotional support, therapy, healthy boundaries, and trustworthy adults are so essential in these environments.

Because fame may look glamorous from the outside, but behind the curtains, it can sometimes resemble a garden where children are expected to bloom while storms are constantly passing overhead.

After giving a nuanced and measured response, if I am to express my personal opinion more candidly, then yes, I genuinely believe there is something deeply unhealthy in the way these two men seem to interact with power, control, and emotional attachment regarding the actors they have worked with since childhood.

Personally, I perceive them as two individuals with enormous egos and extremely fragile self-images, the kind of people who struggle profoundly when they no longer have emotional control over someone they once influenced easily. And psychologically speaking, when narcissistic or emotionally manipulative personalities lose that control, they often respond through punishment, whether consciously or unconsciously. Not always through direct aggression, but through subtler forms of humiliation, favoritism, passive hostility, exclusion, ridicule, or emotional withdrawal.

I honestly do not think they appreciated the fact that Noah was no longer simply the impressionable eleven-year-old child who trusted them unconditionally. For years, the relationship appears to have been built upon the emotional weight of gratitude, loyalty, admiration, and trust. When a child grows up inside a system where adults constantly remind them, implicitly or explicitly, that their success exists because of them, it can create a deeply imbalanced dynamic where the young actor feels indebted emotionally as much as professionally.

But adulthood changes people. Therapy changes people. Self-awareness changes people.

And I genuinely suspect that once Noah began developing stronger boundaries, independent critical thinking, and a more mature understanding of himself and of the industry around him, the dynamic shifted in ways they did not appreciate.

Which is partly why I think they appear to idolize Finn so intensely in comparison.

I personally feel they projected a great deal of their own idealized and often toxic vision of masculinity onto Mike as a character, and therefore onto Finn as well. And honestly, some of the comments they have made about Finn over the years have deeply unsettled me too, especially remarks implying that Finn was somehow “not masculine enough” for Mike because “Finn is the way he is.” There is something profoundly inappropriate and invasive about statements like that, particularly when they seem to flirt with speculating publicly about a young actor’s sexuality or gender expression in ways that are not theirs to define.

That is not harmless commentary to me. That is crossing boundaries.

And regarding the constant praise surrounding Finn’s performance in season 5, I will be honest again: I personally do not even agree with their assessment artistically. In my opinion, season 5 was not Finn’s strongest acting work at all. In fact, this scene felt emotionally disconnected and weaker compared to previous seasons. Which is precisely why the excessive glorification of his performance felt less like objective artistic critique and more like emotional favoritism or “love bombing” toward someone they still perceive as aligned with them relationally.

Everything about these dynamics feels deeply unhealthy to me.

Not necessarily in a cartoonishly evil sense, but in the very real and psychologically complex sense of adults who became overly emotionally attached to the authority, admiration, loyalty, and influence they held over children who eventually grew up into adults with their own minds, boundaries, and perspectives.

And honestly, I do not think it is insignificant that someone like Winona Ryder, who herself experienced the brutality and toxicity of this industry from a very young age, appears to have distanced herself considerably from them in recent years. The fact that she repeatedly speaks with such tenderness and protectiveness toward the younger cast while remaining comparatively absent from certain promotional aspects surrounding the final season says a great deal to me, even if silently.

Because people who have survived toxic environments often recognize certain atmospheres immediately without needing them explained aloud.

And beyond all discourse about ships, theories, writing choices, or fandom wars, what struck me most while watching that documentary was how emotionally strained and creatively confused the environment seemed to feel overall. Even actors and staff looked uncertain about how to approach scenes because the emotional logic no longer made sense narratively.

That is rarely a sign of a healthy creative process.

Ultimately, I sincerely hope that one day, once contractual obligations and confidentiality agreements no longer exist, Noah, Finn, and perhaps many others from that cast will feel free to speak honestly about whatever emotional pressures, manipulations, expectations, or psychological burdens they may have experienced while growing up under the authority of adults they were taught to trust during the most vulnerable years of their lives.

Because behind every globally successful franchise are still very real human beings who had to grow up inside it.

[hello-friends9500]

[the---box]

#21 “The script” 2/2

Sawyer should of known to overstep his job.. 📺⭐️👑 sadly he’ll never know what Puzzles did with the script 🥀

[theonlinehero]

alright chat so i need your opinions the another cup fanfic oneshot i wrote everyone says they want a continuation but i'm not sure about what i should write, what do you guys wanna see most? keep in mind the these choices are suggested by fans themselves. if you don't know what i'm talking about, here's the fic itself: The You I Know

What should the continuation be about?

A date with Miku and Teto!

Miku and Teto working together in the office!

Something freaky or spicy 😳...

Voting ended onMar 28

[nusaran]

WIP Whenever

thanks for the tag @ravelsquadespresso (i know this has been a while ago! - I have far too many tags to get to ;_;) I am so out of loop who has something cooking, so not going to tag anyone specific, but making it an open tag!

Role Reversal AU - A flashback where Helena gets told to not search for Heinrix anymore who at this point in time is introduced to Theodora as an heir to the von Valancius line. So far the juiciest chapter in this little ficlet I am writing, like there so many good snippets I could toss out.

“You will cease your search this instant, de Vahl.”

Helena looked up from her dataslate surprised to see her father standing on the threshold to her quarters. The bulky frame of his power armour filled out the doorway, barring her only way out. Old instincts kicked in making the hair on her neck stand on end and her eyes dart around for another escape route.

“Lord Inquisitor,” she greeted him swiftly standing up from her chair to snap into a salute.

Finally he stepped into her quarter, letting the door slide shut behind him. They were alone now, but a cold distance still hung in the small space separating them.

“You have been analysing our cogitator networks without my leave. Brasswhisper is infuriated that a layperson has dared to meddle in her domain.”

 “Our facility has been breached, your Excellency,” she pointed out carefully watching for every minute twitch on his face. “I thought it prudent to investigate how the infiltration was possible of being conducted.”

  “And you think you would find what Brasswhisper and our Sage could not?”

Immediately she grew very still for the underlying tones of a rebuke were unmistakeable. Scrunching her eyebrows together in her growing confusion, she observed Xavier make his way over to the chair by her small desk without any hurry and sit down in it. The metal creaked under his weight but held.

“I was not informed they were they successful in finding the culprits?” Helena asked instead despite the anxiety gnawing at her throat for sudden surge in audacity to question her superior so brazenly. “Nor that Master van Calox’s whereabouts were found.”

As soon as his name left her lips, her father’s expression hardened from the blank into that of icy stone. Despite his aloofness, the disappearance of his favourite acolyte had rankled him. It had not been hard to see for her. Then again, she doubted anyone but her had picked up on said sentiment. Tanakia had taunted her when Helena had questioned her about the incident that no one but her had even bothered.

“His whereabouts are know,” he replied coldly, far too detached.

“Was Aishara dispatched to extract him?”

The stony expression smoothed out again and a corner of his mouth twitched upwards. Cold sweat began to pool between her shoulder blades then. What was more dangerous than Xavier’s anger was his amusement. It was unpredictable how he’d react. Once he had iced her out of everything, whereas another time he had barked out a laughter so loud it had startled Froscher and had clapped her hard on her shoulder. This felt like the latter.

“She was not.” He leaned back folding his hands together. “She has been dispatched on a far more important mission.”

The anxiety gnawing grew more vicious then, tearing away at her resolve until it took all of her willpower to not start trembling.

“There will not be an extraction mission,” she breathed out unable to hide the horror in her voice.

“Correct.”

“But we have to –“ it blurted out of her before she was able to bite down hard on her tongue until she tasted iron in her mouth.

A look of disappointment was all she earned from her short lived outburst. Her one flaw, her father had once assessed after her first few weeks living at his facility. Restraint, etiquette, a keen mind for details. Yet an unfortunate amount of concern for those close to her.

“Let this be a lesson to you, Helena,” Xavier spoke then, the edge blunted and softened for her. “Your attachment to Heinrix made you weak. Nothing will be gained once you find him.”

Helena looked down to her feet so her father would not see the tears now brimming in her eyes and how hard she had to bite her lower lip to not protest more. Punishment had been spared for now. Another outburst would guarantee it.

“Come here.”

When she reluctantly looked up, having successfully forced the tears away, she saw Xavier holding out a hand to her. An invitation to come close. Coveted and rare displays of any hint that they shared the same blood. As if in a daze she stumbled over and sunk to her knees in front of him. Her hands were folded neatly into his awaiting hands then. One cold metal and one flesh that stroked over her clammy ones.

“You need to look forward, not backwards, Helena.” The metal hand lifted away to cup the back of her head. “You would not want to disappoint your father, now would you?”“No, of course not… father.”