How to Speak to Someone Who is TTC
… coming from someone who is ttc. TTC = trying to conceive in case you were wondering. Not everyone knows about it! First, the do not’s:
don’t say anything along the lines of “You don’t have to try to get pregnant! It will just happen!”
don’t suggest adoption. You know they’ve thought of this if they’re having trouble and it’s not a good idea for you, as a third party, to bring it up. Adoption and having a biological child of your own are very different.
don’t say, “Oh you want kids? Take one of mine!”
don’t tell them about how easy it was for you to get pregnant. It doesn’t make them feel any better, it makes them feel worse. Like they’re broken and/or less than woman/person.
don’t tell them to relax. It’s easier said than done, and you’re probably making their blood pressure rise a little by suggesting it.
“leave it up to God! He has a plan for everything!” …. ….. no. I’m not religious, and the person you’re saying that to may not be, either.
don’t ever say, “Who wants kids? The best part about being an aunt/babysitter/nanny is that you can spend time with kids and then send them home for their parents to deal with! You’re there for the fun part!“ ..or anything even remotely like it. We’re trying to conceive because we want to deal with kids, the good as well as the bad!
“Maybe try losing a little weight? My cousin’s neighbor’s goldfish lost weight and got pregnant right away!” … we all know why this is also a bad idea!
“Don’t worry, you’re young! You’ve got lots of time!”
“You’re going to be awesome parents!”
“I’m here if you need to talk!”
“I can’t wait! I’m rooting for you!”
“I’m really sorry you’re having to go through this. I can’t possibly understand because I haven’t been there, but I know it’s really hard for you. If there’s anything I can do or say to help, you just let me know.”
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