Ask Ted Mosby

Hello followers and welcome to my blog! My name is Theodore Mosby, but you can call me Ted. I live in New York with my wife Tracy and our two kids, Luke and Penny. I'm a freelance Architect, and I work from home, but often find myself in the city. My goals in life are to change the New York City sky line and be the best husband and father I can be. In the meantime, however, I'd love to be entertained by your questions. Ask away!

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Hey followers! I’ve been gone for a little while, but I would love to hear from you. Whether its questions about my life, advice, or simply conversation, my inbox is open. Also, I’m looking for a Marshall, Lily, Robin, and Tracy to talk to. Message me!

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Hey followers! I’ve been gone for a little while, but I would love to hear from you. Whether its questions about my life, advice, or simply conversation, my inbox is open. Also, I’m looking for a Marshall, Lily, Robin, and Tracy to talk to. Message me!

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Hey followers! I’ve been gone for a little while, but I would love to hear from you. Whether its questions about my life, advice, or simply conversation, my inbox is open. Also, I’m looking for a Marshall, Lily, Robin, and Tracy to talk to. Message me!

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Hey followers! I’ve been gone for a little while, but I would love to hear from you. Whether its questions about my life, advice, or simply conversation, my inbox is open. Also, I’m looking for a Marshall, Lily, Robin, and Tracy to talk to. Message me!

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Hey followers! I’ve been gone for a little while, but I would love to hear from you. Whether its questions about my life, advice, or simply conversation, my inbox is open. Also, I’m looking for a Marshall, Lily, Robin, and Tracy to talk to. Message me!

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Hey followers! I’ve been gone for a little while, but I would love to hear from you. Whether its questions about my life, advice, or simply conversation, my inbox is open. Also, I’m looking for a Marshall, Lily, Robin, and Tracy to talk to. Message me!

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To the anon that asked for a hug.

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You will be shocked kids, when you discover how easy it is in life to part ways with people forever. That’s why, when you find someone you want to keep around, you do something about it.

Ted Mosby, How I Met Your Mother (via coffeeandgrace)

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Hey Ted. I love one man for 6 years. He loved me for 6 years. Yesterday he said the love is gone. I don't believe it's possible. He was the One for me, I was the One for him. All was PERFECT. For 6 years. I still love him. He asked to be friends. Don't know what to do. I thought it was forever or something... The weird thing is that he is the only person I can talk about all this. Oh, and he is 2500 km away from me now.

Dear Six Year Itch,Perhaps it's the distance that made him push away? Break-ups are the worst, especially after long term relationships with people we've fallen in love with. My advice to you is to put distance between you and this ex of yours. See if you can go a few weeks without talking. Then, revisit and see if you can be friends or if he's ready to try again.- Ted

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Not really a question but you have completely changed my mind thank you

About what, new friend?

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Dude..! I'm on a turning point of my life.. Everyone i wish to b around are leaving it's like life got levelled up which is getting traumatic fr me now... All of my mates are nowhere around me and now I'm here left all alone.. Help me out..!

Dear Left Behind,It's hard to feel like your friends are moving on and growing up faster than you. But we all develop at different levels, and we all change. I've found that over the years, my friends are at different places in their lives and it's caused me to both drift from them and come closer. If they're true friends, you'll be able to mend things by being honest with them about your worries and finding new things in common to keep the connection strong.- Ted

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Dear Ted, I fell in love with my best friend. We were never official, but kinda. We've recently started talking again, and everytime he texts me, I get those same feelings as before. I don't think I ever got over him, even after a year. What do I do?

Dear Never Official,You are best friends with this person for a reason. Because you care about them, want to be around them, have the same things in common. You need to decide what you want out of this relationship because you can't ignore feelings for forever. You have to make that decision whether you stay friends or risk losing it all to make it something more. Most importantly, you need to talk to them and be completely honest. If they're truly your best friend, they'll understand regardless of how they feel.- Ted

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My return

We have to stop meeting like this! I know, I know, I'm horrible at keeping in touch with all of you. But if you've sent me a message in the past few months, please check back as I'm answering them now. And please feel free to keep messaging me. - Ted

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Ted- Hey. I have this thing, and it's kinda weird. I'm afraid. Not of like, monsters and stuff, but like... Life. New school, new people, and it's all so much. It's hard to start all over again. I also fear/strongly dislike other, small, everyday things. Like the doctor, or the dentist, and even getting a haircut. What's wrong with me? I mean, who's afraid of a haircut?

Dear Afraid,

This is normal. So, before you let yourself think that there is something wrong with you or that you are alone in feeling this way, let me stop you. Manu people feel this way, including me sometimes! It’s called anxiety and while it may feel like crippling and irrational fear, it’s mostly just a rational fear of what the outcome could be in any situation.

The best thing to do would be to talk to a therapist - whether a school counselor or licensed doctor. Most colleges and high schools have them for free. If not, try some tricks I’ve learned over the years.

1. Breathe. This is crucial. Counting to ten and filling your lungs with air is a good cure for anxiety. Start by closing your eyes and breathing in through your nose and out your mouth. Start with your toes and moving up to your shoulders, un tense every bone in your body and relax.

2. Remove yourself from the situation. If you can, avoid the things that cause you anxiety for a little while. If you’re feeling scared or like things are too much, go somewhere you feel safer for a little while and then return. Taking a break could be stepping outside or it could mean going to the bathroom. If you can’t do these things, create a place in your head that helps you escape your fears and tuck away somewhere else for awhile.

3. Set boundaries for yourself and make sure people understand them. This can be scary on its own, but if your open with people about what they do that makes you afraid of situations, that fear will go away.

4. Keep a journal or log of everything that scares you or makes you feel anxious. Try to explain to yourself why these things scare you and then read it often, so you can understand better.

I hope some of these helped. Please continue to talk to me and I hope I can bring you at least a distraction.

- Ted

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tteedddddyy come backkk

I'm here, anons! I'm here.

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are you still alive? i need your help

I'm breathing, yes. What can I do for you?

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Dude I love your hair NEVER get a haircut

Well, to keep said haircut, I need to go get it fixed up every now and then. The irony of hair is that in order to keep it the same, you must change it every so often.