So much feminist discourse is held back by not considering anti-feminine sentiment... I'm just thinking about how even cis women have limited access to feminity after childhood. Like, cis women who are into hyper feminine fashion subcultures like kawaii fashion always have stories of being accused of dressing that way as a fetish. Almost always a fetish around pedophilia, because we only consider having too many frills or accessories or colors acceptable for young cis girls. Transfeminine people end up under 10x as much stigma, and they often get totally excluded from these communities because their interest is viewed as fetishism even by people who have been accused of that themselves. There is a threshold of feminity where men stop finding you attractive and acceptable, and types of feminity that explicitly don't appeal to men, but people haven't read transfeminist theory so they just dismiss all feminity as patriarchal performance. Even women who try to defend their presentation by expressing the reality that men hate and resent their presentation and AREN'T attracted to it get dismissed as stupid and delusional and anti-feminist. Especially in these reactionary times, I see people constantly trying to decode anyone's feminine impulses as fetishism or an obsession with male attention. That's further complicated by the actual right wing promotion of the narrow version of patriarchal feminity they approve of, and the fact that they present that as the definition of feminity, implying that there is no level of feminity above "tradwife."
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