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"He used

His silence and presence as punishment. None of what he did is normal and hes clearly very insecure and not happy with himself. Thats not your fault. Thats his own problem"

Thankyou .

"Look at this

Its power and control. Point blank. I can tell you ways it was done just by listening to you for the past few months. Youve let out little bits here and there. You were victim again and its to be expected"

"You have

Been victim again. He wont see it that way and his family wont either, they never will.

You had to be a terrible person, and hes projected everything he was doing on to you because you didnt buy the act. You saw through him and he knew it. You were wary and proberly always will be and he hated that because he knew you had the ability to put a label on it. They were wrong, you were right, i was right. You knew. Its an improvement. "

"I watched

You come in here every week and you did spot it. But youve hit the nail on the head today, you wanted a true companion and the life you were sold to have, so you didnt leave.

They may have been there for you during him, but they cant understand what you went through and the next person to attempt to will because i dont think youll let it happen again. You have got better. And its understandable you tried to please them all. But it isnt your fault and you have been victim again. Whats worse? Believing its all in your head or admitting you were victim again? "

"He

Came in at a time when you were already vurnerable, played white knight and created dependance, he gave you what you needed through power and control. You saw the red flags, his family helped him. You became stuck in this triangle of she said , she did, she is. They will never see him the way you have.

He didnt want you to better yourself, he couldn't allow you to ask for space to do so, and as soon as you did and he felt he was loosing his grip he dug his nails in and used power and control as an overt to destroy you

How dare you leave, he needed reason to hate you. You had to be a bad person if you could ever need a break from that self inflated ego"

erymanthian

celestialprint

Six Things To Remember

1) You are allowed to take up space. You are human.

2) You are allowed to have a voice.

3) You are allowed to leave whenever you feel uncomfortable or unsafe

4) You deserve more than someone who doesn’t know how to respect you.

5) You are allowed to put your own needs first.

6) You are allowed to love yourself.

Perhaps it was freedom itself that choked her.

Carol by Patricia Highsmith (via quotemybooks)

twloha

You are not a burden. You are not too much to handle. You do not come with too much baggage. You are not only your 3AM mind, your pacing around your room, your doubt, your fears, or your mistakes.“

Emily Rella, “Learning to Accept Love for Yourself” (via twloha)