ugh, MEN.
As discussed in an earlier post, digital communities give every day individuals the power to communicate their thoughts and feelings to an audience, without boundaries. Although this can be used as a great tool for sparking change in important political and social issues, this ‘freedom of speech’ is often very problematic.
Take for example, men texting on dating apps.
In their article, Marwick and Caplan (2018, p. 445), describe how the rise of the internet and social media has allowed the formation of mens rights activist groups. Inherently, this isn’t a bad thing, as most would agree, it is important for societal groups to have these supportive communities. The problem begins when these groups create a derogatory culture that perpetuates poor behaviour (Thompson, 2018, p. 71).
Women receiving online abuse is growing more visible due to dating apps and the simplicity of sharing these encounters online. This is exemplified through the highly followed Instragram accounts ‘Instagranniepants’ and ‘Swipes4Daddy’. Run by women in their 20′s, these accounts post screenshots of the real, online conversations they have had with men. Although meant to be funny, it is concerning to see how horrible the messages are. Thompson (2018, p.71) argues that this derogatory communication is the result of dating apps perpetuating a traditional sexual hierarchy. She describes that when swiping on Tinder, women are predicted as the products of sexual desire, whilst men are the consumers. This was supported through a study done by Frohlick and Migliardi (2011), where interviewed women described men on dating apps as ‘kids in a candy store’. Scary! It appears as though men believe that women on dating apps are always looking for a hook-up. Rejecting their offer results in a crude attack on the female’s character, abusive and uncalled for.
In their article on The Conversation, authors Ostini and Hopkins (2015) bring forward the important issue surrounding this online abuse. They state that violence is often thought of as something physical, but it can also carry out online, verbally. As a result, domestic violence prevention services are growing increasingly concerned about how social media plays role in violent relationships. Unfortunately, internet legislation is still very much in its baby stages, so punishment for online abuse does not go much further than having an account banned or restricted.
As women, it is important to keep on calling out men when they display this behaviour. Furthermore, we can use our own digital communities, online feminist groups, to initiate a change in the way dating apps portray us. This is a serious issue that needs to be nipped in the bud, before the poisonous weed grows.
Resources:
1. Marwick, A.E. and Caplan, R, 2018, ‘Drinking male tears: Language, the manosphere, and networked harassment’, Feminist Media Studies, 18(4), pp.543-559.
2. Thompson, L, 2018, ‘“I can be your Tinder nightmare”: Harassment and misogyny in the online sexual marketplace’, Feminism & Psychology, 28(1), pp.69-89.
3. Gajda, E, ‘Swipes4Daddy’, Instagram, viewed 15 May 2021, <https://www.instagram.com/swipes4daddy/>
4. Gensler, A, ‘Instagranniepants’, Instagram, viewed 15 May 2021, <https://www.instagram.com/instagranniepants/>
5. Frohlick, S. and Migliardi, P., 2011. Heterosexual profiling: Online dating and ‘becoming’heterosexualities for women aged 30 and older in the digital era. Australian Feminist Studies, 26(67), pp.73-88.
6. Ostini, J and Hopkins, S, 2015, ‘Online harassment is a form of violence’, The Conversation, viewed 15 May 2021, <https://theconversation.com/online-harassment-is-a-form-of-violence-38846>.













