The story of my ex-friend Anna
Last Christmas I was invited to a big get together. Anna was outplaying me at this children's card game, by just being able to lie to me like she couldn't with any of our friends at the table.
At this point I had already decided to breaking off my friendship with Anna. It had been a year since she had a hysterical crying fit when I told her I was starting to see one of our friends. It had been half a year since it dawned on me that this 29 year old woman was the center of her own world and that my naivitee was not only misplaced, but that I misjudged her completely.
What I thought was trust in me (telling me she was sexually frustrated with her then 10 year long relationship), was really just her leaking that she was a weak person that wasn't able to break a relationship off that she had been betraying in her own apartment for years. She never called it cheating, but "looking left and right", in the beginning even bluring timelines. Me just returning from the best connections I ever made abroad, accepted it and tried to see a deep personal friendship in us where we would tell each other "anything". But Anna doesn't connect or relate, she needed to vent and men to give her attention. When I told her the only 1.90 toxic male close to us was interested in me, she couldn't keep up the facade she perfected - especially when others were around. Now, as I'm actively leaving this friendship, I'd say it was straight up emotional manipulation. She cried, I felt bad and continued to support her through all of her misplaced affairs and thoughts. When she finally called it quits with her, honestly truly boring, boyfriend, I still thought she would work on herself. Maybe finally become a grown up woman that reflected the last 12 years. I believed her when she played sad when talking to me on the couch or when her ex was texting her awful things. In reality, she was already in bed with another random banker guy she met on the apps she used to cheat on her first boyfriend with, from her second phone. In hindsight, it seems all very clear - her telling our friends I was flirting with guys during my relationship with my ex on our vacation trip, when she was actively making out with a Polish guy at a pool party on the same trip - her calling me during work hours because she was feeling so bad due to this guy maybe leaving her just to abandon me as soon as they made vacation plans - these are all stories that underline what kind of a manipulator she is. Yet, it also reveals how succeptible I was to her games. In May I then saw a picture of her and her new guy in her apartment on NYE (when she still was with her ex), and it finally fucking dawned on me how she was playing me, as a fried, the whole time. Fuck Anna. This is over.
In all truth, I have been with men, I've made mistakes, I've been super infatuated, I had said toxic man flirt the shit out of a younger girl in front of me - NOTHING would get me to this kind of male-centered bullshit behavior. Honestly, just right now I'm super addicted to a person I met 2 weeks ago - would I display bs like this ? Not even 10 years ago.
