he treats me like somebody of his age a lot and it makes me feel weird. i want him to treat me as if i was his son but he doesn't see things like that (i don't believe) and doesn't get how much i look to him for emotional guidance and affection and approval and all of that. i don't wanna come across as needy but at the same time i want to be "taken care of" to some extent by him (not financially, speaking purely emotionally) and its tough
This is the same boy (19) in my previous response. He has sent me several messages providing more context, but I’ve chosen to respond to this one specifically.First let me tell you that it is never unhealthy to want the type of bonding and relationship you do. There is nothing wrong with wanting an older gentleman to treat you more like a son, or to play catch or go camping with you, or to provide emotional support and guidance and approval. Do not ever judge yourself for wanting and needing that. You are part of a huge family of boys like me and so many others (and daddies too) that want something like that. We love you and accept you. You need to know that, first and foremost.Secondly I have to be honest and tell you that if he has joked about “I’m not your dad, buddy”, to me that is not a good sign. He may only be into the sexual part, and not desire a closer bond. I do not know, but that makes me concerned. I totally understand how you do not want to make him more uncomfortable by pressing the issue and telling him how you really see him. I think perhaps I was wrong in telling you to open up about it with him, as I didn’t know that before. I’m going to tell you this though. Even if he isn’t into what you really desire, there are so many older men out there that will be, and at 19 you have a huge opportunity to find the one that is right for you. I’m not saying dump this man right now, not at all. That is a very personal decision. I am just saying he isn’t the only one, so don’t feel trapped to him and think to yourself “If this relationship doesn’t work out, I will have nobody”.This is where I really seek the advice of some daddies out there that are following me. I need someone to speak from the older perspective for this boy.