Follow Mindfully

Focus points for being mindful. While many are written with female submissives/followers in mind, there's probably something for everyone and all walks of life in each of these. I encourage you to find what applies to you, and use it to increase your own mindfulness.

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When You’re Wrong, Be Wrong

Everyone is wrong sometimes. That’s just the nature of human life and finite knowledge.  No one likes to be wrong, though, so many people will try to either explain why they were still right (if only you’ll look at it this way), justify why their point was still valid even if it was wrong, or brazenly refuse to accept that they were wrong to begin with. Such behaviors often lead to escalating arguments, which is clearly not a good thing.

It’s ok to be wrong. It’s expected that you’re going to be wrong sometimes.Take the correction when it’s given. Be thankful for the correction. Apologize for being wrong. Improve yourself by learning from the correction. Don’t be ashamed, be humble; this isn’t failing, it’s growing.

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Be Responsive

When given an order or request, move quickly to respond to it no matter how you feel about it. If your Leader doesn’t already know that you’ll dislike it, you can let Him know later. But your immediate response should be to show that you are eager to please Him.

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Be Thankful

Have you thanked your Leader today for guiding you? Protecting you? Directing you? Correcting you?

Being a Leader is a job full of weight and responsibility.  Never let it be a thankless one.

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Be useful

Find ways to be useful for your dominant/leader.  If they’re not using you directly for their pleasure, find other ways you can be useful to them. 

But don’t bother them; don’t flutter about in their way, or ask them to tell you how you can be useful right then. They’ll tell you if there’s something on their mind for you to do.

Instead, pay attention to their routines, their habits. Maybe he always sits down with a cold beer to watch the evening news, or reads the morning paper during breakfast, to use some classic examples. Once you know the habits, begin to anticipate them: meet him at his favorite chair with a cold beer already opened a few minutes before the news begins; have the newspaper folded open to his favorite section and laying beside his breakfast plate.  Be ready to light his cigarettes if he smokes.  Shoo the kids out of the living room when his car pulls into the driveway so he can sit in relative quiet to unwind at the end of a work day.  Whatever it is that he does, make it easier for him to do it.

Be prepared. Be responsive. Be of use.

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Fingers calm. Mouth calm. Mind calm. Life calm.

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May you remember your place, and be settled in it. May your hands be still, your mind be quiet. May your presence only be pleasant, pleasing, and pleasurable.

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Pleasure

Get pleasure from giving pleasure. But do not give pleasure just to get pleasure. Your pleasure should never be your focus.

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Kneel Quietly

Practice kneeling quietly today.  (Assuming you have the physical capability. Otherwise, develop a demure but poised, attentive and waiting, sitting position to take the place of kneeling.)  Hands in lap, back straight.  Don’t wiggle or fidget. Hold it for as long as you can manage.  Then take a break, and come back to it again later.

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Coquettish

Adj. - characteristically flirtatious, especially in a teasing, lighthearted manner.

Be light-hearted and fun, and tease His interest by flirting like you did when you first met.  Remind the wolf why He chose you as His prey.

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Poise

Standing or sitting, be aware of your posture. Do not slouch. Practice walking with grace.

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Mind Your Words Today

Keep them simple. Don't be too clever. Keep them direct. Don't use more than are necessary. Keep them useful. Don't wander from the subject at hand. Keep them respectful. Don't dishonor yourself or another with cutting remarks.

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Be pleasing with your hair today. Keep it pretty and tamed.

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Quiet Hands, Quiet Mind

When seated at a table, if your hands aren't occupied, keep them flat on the table. When seated without a table, keep them flat on your lap.

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Small Steps

Force yourself to take small steps today. Keep your strides short and dainty. Use the slowness of shorter steps to make yourself be more intentional in your movements, and to give yourself more time to get there.  Don't leave yourself having to rush everywhere.

If possible and reasonable, hobbling yourself to force the short strides would be a good training tool.  This can be done with cuffs/chains, rope, scarves, or even just wearing your panties around your ankles.

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Dress Simply

Dress as simply as possible today. Wear as few pieces of clothing as you can. Avoid the ornate or showy. Dim yourself to let your Leader shine.

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Ask for Help

Ask Him for help today. Let Him know that you need HIm, even for everyday things like opening a jar or getting something off a high shelf. Do not be a nuisance, but let Him feel He is helping you.

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Be Mindful of your Mouth

Today, focus on your mouth. Be mindful of what goes in and what comes out.

Pay attention to your food and drink. Be active and intentional about tasting them. Savor the flavors, the textures.

Be sure not to talk with your mouth full; it's rude and common, and you should be above that.

Do not speak badly of others today.

Do not speak badly of yourself.

Do speak words of encouragement to your Leader.