“We’ve been sold a bill of goods when it comes to love, and it really sucks because in many ways it’s the exact opposite of real, true and good love. Over the last several years, it’s begun to occur to me that the love we’ve been encoded to think is love is really addiction. Oof, that’s a tough pill to swallow. But, if you let yourself feel into it, perhaps you can identify that what you think of as love is really addiction to “push/pull” dynamics or possession or needing to be “claimed” or desired in a certain way … that’s not love. It’s obsession, it’s fantasy, it’s romance novels, and drama triangles. So, what then is love? As a student of Love, here’s my offering to you … Love is being willing to show up. Love is being willing to grow up. Love is what I give, not what I receive. Love is my willingness to feel the things that are hard to feel and taking full responsibility for what’s mine, and not blaming you for any of it. Love is wanting for you what you want …even, and especially if it hurts that you don’t want what I want, and to still want for you what you want. Love is knowing that Life knows better than I ever could. Love is tears in my eyes, and a sensation in my chest, and laughing through those tears and sensations while I feel more than I ever could have imagined possible. Love is giving myself everything I think I want from you. Love is going first. Love is my yes to your yes, my yes to your no, and knowing my own yeses and no’s … without blame, shame, guilt or hiding, and honoring and respecting it all. Love is legal documents, and insurance premiums, and financial powers. Love is choosing in. Love is gratitude, for all of it. Love is me, here with you, feeling … sharing … being love. If you have love in your life that you really want to honor, then honor it today with legally documenting your choices for who you want to care for you when you cannot care for yourself, and by offering to care for the people you love when they cannot care for themselves.” -Ali Katz https://www.instagram.com/p/Cop48BQv5W8/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=











