10 Relationship Facts I Wish I Knew Sooner
1. If you’re not making mistakes, you’re not taking enough risks. “Making mistakes” doesn’t mean cheating. What it does mean is, doing things within the boundaries of the relationship with good intentions but if it turns out that they were not healthy, you take responsibility for them. Without mistakes, there is no growth. So this process simulates change and growth. The bonding comes from taking risks and making mistakes as a couple, then learning from them and becoming stronger as a team.
2. Expect anything worthwhile to take a long time. Many believe relationships should just come naturally, like the rush of dopamine that shot into your brain when you both first met. Actually, to be in a monogamous relationship where you are constantly challenged to look at yourself and compromise your wants/needs is unnatural. It goes against our natural human instincts. In order for us to adapt and embrace this, it takes time – a long time. If you’re patient, then with the passing of time you will both adapt to each other so that ultimately, by sheer force of habit, it will feel more “natural”.
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