Book Of Questions Day One
I will be using this initial post to start a daily series in which I take the questions from the genius masterpiece “The Book of Questions”, written by Gregory Stock, and I will use those questions to find out more about myself. Each day will feature a question that tests my morality, sexuality, and personality, and each day I will delve deep into what my answer is and how I reached that conclusion. I hope to learn more about myself and have a more concrete self identity by the end of this, and I hope that my writing will be interesting for others to read. Thank you all and enjoy.
“For a person you loved deeply, would you be willing to move to a distant country knowing there would be little chance of seeing your friends or family again?”
The underlying question that I have for this question is this; what would be the qualifications or symptoms of deep love? It seems to me that everyone has a completely different idea of what love is. The idea of love that I developed throughout my childhood could best be described as unconditional. Now for me, the answer is simple yet complex. Simple because I know what my answer would be if it were left up to logic. Complex because I have yet to find mastery over my own emotions in order to follow what I know deep down in my gut to be the right path. We’ll answer this as the realist that lies deep within me; I would never consider leaving my friends and family for someone I loved deeply, because if their love was conditional to me moving to a foreign country with them, instead of making whatever situation forced such an ultimatum work, then it means that the level of love I am sending is not being reciprocated. It would not be the fantastical idea of true love that almost everyone has ingrained in their subconscious, but a situation where I failed to realize that I was giving an unhealthy amount of love to someone undeserving. My family and friends are much too important for me to give up for such a toxic relationship. Now let me be clear that I would not fault my significant other if this situation were to arise in this fashion. Like I said previously, everyone has a different idea of what love is. It may be that she needs someone to prove love by making such a sacrifice. Whatever the reasons may be, I can’t fault her. She knows what she wants, and she communicates it. What I want is not what she wants, and therefore I would leave the relationship understanding that, while I will miss the connection, the situation blossomed into a beautiful event that made us both grow as individuals.
So long story short, no, I would not elope to a foreign country for someone I loved if I knew there was little chance of seeing anyone else that made life special along the way.