//May I cut in on this post a second?
I don’t know about what it says in the Bible, but I would like to question where the person who made this got the idea that the Quran ever said such a thing.
It is the right of the married woman to spend the night with her husband and have sexual fulfillment, satisfaction, and gratification. This right is one of the most emphasized rights in Islam, equal to the need of man to have his fulfillment. The husband is required and obliged by Islamic law to fulfill the sexual rights of his spouse and vice versa. A spouse, as any other female, has a great need for being loved and cherished, cared for, and fulfillment of her natural and physical rightful desires.
Quoted in Chapter 4 (An Nisa’, “The Women”); verse 129: “And you will never be able to be equal [in feeling] between wives, even if you should strive [to do so]. So do not incline completely [toward one] and leave another hanging.”
Which is a fancy way of saying don’t leave the wife hanging, get back in there and finish what you started. Source (Verse X Article X)
Islam forbids husbands from engaging themselves in matters of physical worship and devotions, like prayers and fasting, in a way that may detract them from attending to their spouses physical, sexual and social needs. Quoted by an authentic hadith of Sahih Bukhari, Vol 3, Book 31, no. 189, a story about the Prophet’s companions, namely Salman and Abu Darda. Abu Darda’s wife complained to Salman that he doesn’t spend enough time with her or the family. What does he tell him?
Narrated by Abu Juhaifa (pbuh):
"Salman paid a visit to Abu Ad-Darda’ and found Um Ad-Darda’ dressed in shabby clothes and asked her why she was in that state. She replied, "Your brother Abu Ad-Darda’ is not interested in (the luxuries of) this world." [LONG STORY SHORT] …Salman told him to get up then, and both of them offered the prayer. Salman told Abu Ad-Darda’, "Your Lord has a right on you, your soul has a right on you, and your family (and your wife) has a right on you; so you should give the rights of all those who has a right on you." Abu Ad-Darda’ came to the Prophet and narrated the whole story. The Prophet said, “Salman has spoken the truth.”
Which is basically Salman saying ‘Bro what you’re doing is good and all but chill. Your wife and family need you now so go to them’. And the Prophet agreed it was the right thing. Source (X)
The Prophet’s first wife, Khadijah (pbut), was his boss. She was wealthy and he was not. She was 15 years older than he was. She was his tribal guardian and financially supported his mission. He respected her for her character. Ahadith tell us that he did chores, and did not treat her as a servant. For 25 years, she was his only wife.
After she died, several the women he married were self-sufficient. They were business owners and opinionated contributors to his mission. One of them helped him negotiate treaties. Another became a noted and prolific narrator of ahadith. The Prophet enjoyed strong women very much. Some of them even fought beside him in battle. He was so deferential to them that there is an entire chapter in the Qur’an where God admonishes him for letting his wives run over him.
In Islamic law, a wife is not even required to do housework or take care of her children, if she so chooses. The only duty required of her is to be lovingly intimate with him and treat him and his property with respect. That is a mutual requirement. There are actually societies where this is common among those who can afford servants, most notably Saudi Arabia.
A Muslim husband is to be as charitable toward his wife as the Prophet was toward his. If your man is telling you that a Muslim wife must submit to the husband, he is talking culture, not religion. If he is from a country where women are treated as property of the husband, than being submissive is what will be expected of you, but it won’t be because of Islam.
